Would you expect to meet the GF's parents..?.

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DS is about to move away to live with his GF.

I know her reasonably well, although he she now lives where he's going to, so I don't seen her that often currently.

They've been together more than 2 years, she's stayed at my house many times. DS goes to her parents' often.

Her parents live very close to me. I've never met them.

I can't say that I really "want" to meet them. I try to step back and let DC manage their relationships, but I wonder if I "should", especially now they're going to be living together.

I know my parents were very keen to meet DH's parents as soon as things looked serious between us, but different times...and I can't say that it was hugely successful!

My ex in-laws didn't meet my parents til my wedding day!

No, I don’t see why there’s any need to meet them.

Our parents only met each other after the birth of our first child!

I don’t see how meeting them with affect them moving in together?

They are adults, it is up to your ds and his gf whether they want you all to meet.

I have invited the parents of children’s partners over for Sunday lunch many times. For the family that lives far away, we met up in a pub half way for lunch.

why wouldn’t you? The times are still the same in relation to this. It isn’t old fashioned or out of date custom to do this.

I'd lived with DH for over a decade before both sets of parents met.

He wasn't bothered. I was completely on edge which is why I never pushed it previously. Why? Both mothers are very matriarchal and I didn't want to get involved with the fallout if they didn't get on.

This was now around 15 years ago by the way.

No

ours met at our wedding.

God, can't think of anything worse than DP's rather lovely parents having to meet Her. She was horrible about my siblings' PILs from the moment she met each of them and the last thing I would have wanted was mine to think I was anything like her; they'd have had the NSPCC on speed dial with some of her 'hilarious' stories where we'd been hurt deliberately by her.

My parents would think it was totally bizarre and unnecessary if my partner’s parents tried this so clearly not everyone feels the same

My parents met DHs parents when we got engaged & my mum and dad invited them out for a meal with us to celebrate. They didn't really meet up again until wedding discussions and obviously over the years met up at family occasions like bbqs birthdays etc when we had kids. They were friendly but not friends. I think I'd wait and take your cue from your son and his GF - if the relationship continues, I'm sure you'll meet them at some point!

No I stay well away from girlfriends/boyfriends parents. If there is an engagement or a baby I will meet them then no doubt. Otherwise… no reason to do so.

They’re adults, it’s not like you’re sending him off on a play date! 😂

Not sure I expected to, but DD and her BF actually wanted us to meet his parents. Luckily they're really nice people and easy to get on with.

I've never met DDs partners parents. They've been together 15yrs.
Only met DS2s in laws at the wedding, not seen them since. That was 9 years ago..
It's their relationships not mine.

I met DDs boyfriends Mum this summer. They met at Uni 2.5 years ago and head over heels, I was in her Uni hometown for DD graduation and his Mum was helping pack up his student house. As we live opposite ends of the country thought it would be nice to put a face to the name. She was lovely and I was very glad we met, we send each other the odd text now.

My MIL didn’t meet my parents until my engagement party. Saw each other at the wedding too and then that was the last time they were in the same room. I’ve never met my son’s girlfriend’s parents, but they are only 17.

I don't even know when mine and DHs parents met. There was no big event or planned meeting. They just happened to be at ours at the same time one day. It wasn't until after we moved in with each other.

Sameeee! 9 years in. 🤪

my DS is 19 and has been dating his girlfriend for 10 months. We met her parents last month.

Perhaps it will happen organically if you live relatively close together and the couple are moving in together. You are bound to bump in to them sooner or later.

My parents had a barbecue the night before my wedding and my in laws and parents met then.

Be careful what you wish for you.might not get on.

Same here all three times

My parents met my in-laws once before the wedding and that was because the in-laws wanted to do so . After the wedding they saw each other at children’s birthday partys until my in-laws decided to go NC with me , which made my mum quite happy as she couldn’t stand them .

Met DD1’s in-laws to be a week before the wedding as they live abroad, plus DSIL’s siblings who lived here in the UK. Have met the siblings at subsequent DGC events since. Was nice to be able to recognise and greet them as they arrived at the venue. DD2’s partner’s parents lived not far from us and she arranged a meet up - was quite unnerving how similar they were to us !

Maybe if they were engaged, but not just for living together. I've had flatmates in the past and my parents never met any of their parents! Also living together is a litmus test for whether or not things become serious - because you really don't know someone until you live with them.