If you got divorced would you revert to maiden name ?

[ChristmasRobinFly]

Or do you tend to think well that’s my name now ?

For me it's because I wanted to have the same name as my children. I think if I'd been unable to have children with DH I'd have ended up changing back.

I wanted to keep my maiden name but gave into pressure from ex-husband and his family to take his name. It took them almost a year to talk me into it. Divorced for over 20 years and I’ve had this name half my life, plus it’s too much faff to change ID documents and other paperwork.

I did a hybrid version, kept my name for work, married name for private life and found it easy having the same name as DC.

I’m Dr so never had to contend with what @Theonlyfatmiddleagedwomannotonmonjaro has had to but I would absolutely make my point there if I had to.

No. I share the name with my children (all now grown up). I also like my married name.

I liked my maiden name too. If I'd known 32 years ago what I know now then I would not have changed my name in the first place. It was naivety on my part as I didn't know any women who hadn't changed their names on marriage. To me that was just the way it was and I went along with it without questioning, though I know I would have thought twice about it if DH had had a totally horrendous surname.

I've toyed with the idea of adding my maiden name back in as a middle name for me, but have somehow never got around to it. There are now soooo many documents and accounts and stuff that I would have to get amended that it seems rather daunting to be honest.

No but because I’d want to keep the same name as my DC.

You know you're going to get the majority of posters on here claiming they didn't change their surname on marriage @ChristmasRobinFly Even though 90% of women in the UK do. 🙄

No because it was my father's name and I didn't like him .
But don't want to keep my married name either!

I double-barrelled when I married but legally kept my maiden name(couldn't be arsed to change mortgage, house deeds, bank accounts, passports etc) so I didn't have a faff changing anything because I never changed it in the first place.

I am actually thinking of changing my name back to my maiden name. For those who have done it, how difficult was the process? Did you have to sent real copies of divorce papers away? I don’t know I can be bothered with the carry on?

Hell no, my maiden name is shite. My married name is fab!

No, much prefer my married name.

So much paperwork, calling about 200 companies. Just couldn’t be bothered, plus thought I’ll just keep name the same as my kids too.

I never changed my name on marriage as, when my parents’ friends got divorced, I found it weird when the wives reverted to their maiden name but also when they kept their name,
particularly if their was a new Mrs Ex-Husband’s Surname on the scene

I would either change it to something completely different or keep it. I cannot stand my father so I will never take my maiden name back

I did but not straight away, I did it both children turned 18. Part of the reason for not doing it immediately is because I wondered if they might want to change their names too as they had no ongoing relationship with their dad after we separated and I knew that wouldn’t be easy without his consent. Neither of them did but they’d reached indifference by then.

@Whatadayyyyyyy yes you have to send originals or certified copies to most institutions but I just made a list and kept sending everything out. I did my passport and driving licence first, that made a difference. A local solicitor made certified copies for me so I could do more than one at a time. It was really odd, places like Avios and my pet insurance wanted documents, whereas some other places you’d expect didn’t.

I’d bought the family house as I didn’t want to move the kids, I was advised that there was an anomaly when I came to sell/move. The solicitor I was dealing with advised that I’d have to get a deed poll as the land registry didn’t recognise a divorce certificate, passport etc. I refused and just did my own AP1, I thought stuff that. Caused a slight delay.

So I’d prioritise passport, driving licence, land registry, moving onto financial stuff if I were doing it again.

@Yikes101 both of my kids did that, one immediately at 18 and one at 20.

Looking at our divorced friends and acquaintances, two-thirds kept their married name. One-third didn't