If you got divorced would you revert to maiden name ?

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Or do you tend to think well that’s my name now ?

I kept my first married name when I married my second husband. By that point I’d been the first name for 25years and my kids had that surname. Second husband wasn’t bothered but suspect Dexh second wife doesn’t like it . I care not one not it’s been my name for 42 years.

That's what I did @Upsetbetty, worked well for travelling abroad without questions, same name at school etc.

How’s that caused confusion ?

I reverted and also reverted back to the title Miss.
I am trying to forget the 25 years wasted on that piece of shit.
My kids have his name but we're adults when I found out about his double.life and decided to start over.
It took 1 afternoon to change all my documents. Best way ever ro spend an afternoon disassociating myself from the self centred cunt .
Only the Dr receptionist refuses to use Miss insisting I should use Ms but I could choose any title I wanted according to my solicitor. I could use the title prefix peasant, teapot, lady, princess or whatever.

Miss does.me fine. I can kind of pretend 25 years didn't really happen.

Kept my name. And I got married nearly 30 years ago.

I'd take the opportunity to pick a completely new surname for myself. I didn't like my maiden name so was glad to change it, my married name is OK but I'm not specially attached to it.

@Theonlyfatmiddleagedwomannotonmonjaro I get it.

Issues with our BT account. The medical centre mixing us up and sending me her cancer screening results.

Two examples of several.

I did. It’s a much better name. No prob kids having different last name.

First thing I did. Had had my married name for 25 years, but there’s no way I was keeping his name. I use Ms, but also happy with Miss. Would faaar prefer I hadn’t taken his name (or met him, tbh) at all!

Kept my name too. We had a civil partnership once they became legal for heterosexual couples.

I didn’t. I kept the name until I remarried.

Why though? You are your own person and your kids dont care what youre called.

I'd keep my name. It's my name now, I haven't borrowed it.

I’m currently separated and if we go through with the divorce then I’ll keep my married name as it’s the same as our kids. I never liked my maiden name anyway!

Oh I would like.to add that although I reverted back I was tempted briefly not to change and remain Mrs Xxxxx just to spite the woman he was shacked up with as she was sooooooo desperate to become Mrs Xxxxx. And in my defence she was vile to me and caused alot of aggro towards me and my3 adult.children when I first found out about her.

I did, but then my marriage ended when I was 30 and I felt I had a lot of years to have a surname which never really felt like mine anyway. Given my time again, I would have kept my maiden name after marriage.
DD has her Dad's name which is totally fine with me.

I think I'd keep it until my children were grown up and then change back. I prefer my maiden name as it's quite unusual and my married name is a very common one.

That’s what DH’s ex said.

I plan to change mine back when my younger child leaves school. I didn’t change until I had my first baby, and didn’t change at all professionally. Whilst it’s been handy to have the same surname as my DC for school, hospitals, flights etc, mums and kids having the same surname as their kids is by no means a given anymore. DH’s surname has never sat well with me.

No because it matches the children's surname and they are my family.

I always find it interesting that women don't find changing their name when they marry to be much hassle but it's always too much hassle when they divorce to change it back.
not that it's any of my business - just musing

No. As I’m well known for work under married name. I had to change all work stuff like dbs and pli and first aid and it was hassle

plus bank accounts are married and driving licence in same name

plus easier to be same name as mini blondes

It was major hassle but I had to do for work

Not whilst my children were at school but once they left then yes .
I reverted back to my unmarried surname ( hate the word maiden )
My friend came up with a completely different name when she divorced and a few years later her son changed his to it as well !