If you got divorced would you revert to maiden name ?

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Or do you tend to think well that’s my name now ?

I didn't because my children had that surname too. If there had been no children involved then I would have reverted to my previous surname.

I did, and it was a right faff as I had a business in my married name. But it wasn't who I was any more.

When I remarried I kept my maiden name.

I've gone back to using my maiden name but won't change passport etc until they need renewing. I always think the having the same name as your children is ridiculous as they might grow up and get married or whatever and then youre just stuck with some random name. I feel so happy to be back to MY name.

My husband‘s ex hasn’t. They had no children together.

It has caused some confusion as he kept the house.

I did, I waited until my DC had left school. My maiden name was fairly unique and I always regretted changing it in the first place.

My maiden name was horrible, my married name is lovely.

Hopefully it doesn't come to that but not sure I'd want to reverse it!

After leaving a 16yr marriage I changed mine by deed poll asap. It was like the start of returning to me after a long time away. Like so much of the healing it has felt like coming home. So cheesy I know but also just so true.

Why did you change it?

No, becsuse I never took their names to start with. I can't understand why women would do such a thing like they are a chattel or property of a man.

I was just watching real housewives in bev hills and Sutton kinda being called her maiden name by her ex, who got their marriage annulled by the Catholic Church when they have adult children

No because I've been my married name longer than I have my maiden name so it's who I am now.

I'd either maintain my current name or change to a name that is neither.

Having multiple middle names, if I was going to change it, I'd likely just drop the shared surname and have the last middle name as a new surname. It was in the running for shared surname anyways. I'm not sure I'd bother.

The name on my birth certificate hasn't been my name in decades, I dropped it at 18, so I'm not going back that. I do view my current name as who I am now.

All but one of my kids is old enough to name change, one of them is already planning on that, so they could decide what they want to do with their surnames. The only request I've made with their names if they choose to change it is to please not double up on initials (I share initials with my siblings, it caused some post issues and was just annoying).

I changed mine back because I was Skye X for 33 years, and people still referred to me as Skye X rather than Mrs Skye Z, even after 6 years of marriage..

Once divorced, I wasn't a Mrs any more, and not connected to him, so did not want his name.

DD changed her surname to mine as a teenager, at school, and legally aged 16 by Deed Poll. I had no input on that.

i wouldn't change my name again, if I ever married again (unlikely).

I would never have taken his name in the first place except that it is orders of magnitude better than mine and doesn't invite bullying or comment from everyone. But I did, we married young and I've had it almost as long as my maiden name.
But you're conflating annulment with divorce. Annulment means the wedding wasn't legit in the first place so you've no claim to the other person's name. Not the same as divorce.

I'd probably keep it as its been my name much longer than I had my unmarried name.
Im used to it.

If I had dc, no, but otherwise, yes, I’ve always used it professionally anyway.

My maiden name was rubbish so I'd use a different name. (Married name is lovely though so I'd keep if reasonable to do so)

My fave older relative was called John so I thought i'd take Johnson in these circumstances until BoJo ruined it for me.

It depends on whether I had dcs and how long I had had the new name and which name I preferred. So in my case I'd keep the married name as that's 'my' name now.

Separated 6 years ago and I've kept my married name, it's bland and normal unlike my maiden name (I had lots of bullying at school because of it). Its also my kids name so if I ever get to take them abroad there's no awkward questions if we all have the same name.

ive kept my married name, just easier, I’m known by that name, my kids have the same name, it’s posher than my maiden name, I don’t have anyone I see on my dads side anyway, and dads passed away, so no real need to change it from a sentimental point and it’s a faff to change all the ID etc. If I met someone and wanted to get married again I’d probably change it if I liked his surname enough.

I didn’t. It’s a massive faff, it’s been my name for 25 years and I share a surname with my child. My ex and OW were not happy about that but tough shit. My son has indicated he wishes to change his surname when he is old enough to do it without permission from absent father so I might do it then. Otherwise, it’s my name and I’m keeping it.

Same. But when they turn 18 I will.

i can’t as I have changed my nationality since I got married and the new country doesn’t allow name changes . When I got my first passport the guy explained it all to me as clearly this had happened before with a British person unable to change back.

Am fine with it.

Yes. I really miss my maiden name. Another part of my identity I lost.

But you're conflating annulment with divorce. Annulment means the wedding wasn't legit in the first place so you've no claim to the other person's name.

You can legally change your name to anything you like, irrespective of marriage. So anyone has the right to change their name and keep it or change it at will whether they marry, and whether there is an annulment or divorce.

Names are not something that women have to earn a ‘claim’ to.