Page 3 | Where can I find casual sex as a woman?

MayaPinion · 20/12/2025 05:16

Go on the Sex section here and complain you’re not getting enough sex. It’s jam packed with horny and, if their posts are anything to go by, extremely imaginative (deluded) men who will fill your inbox in no time.

Howdiditenduplikeit · 20/12/2025 09:51

LemaxObsessive · 20/12/2025 00:53

What exactly does scouting around look like in real terms?

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What do men scouting around for women in bars look like?

they will be with other men usually or alone, chins up like meercats and they will be looking at the women in their vicinity. Very easy to spot. They will also come over to you after a friendly smile and prolonged eye contact.

Onelifeonly · 20/12/2025 10:08

My dd once got propositioned at the "dump" (recycling centre) by an employee! (She said no). Actually the way it's set up makes it impossible not to repeatedly nearly bump into others coming from the opposite direction, so striking up conversation should be easy for those on the prowl.

Seriously at 28 I imagine you could easily find someone to chat to in all manner of situations with a friendly remark, a smile and being sure to look into their eyes.

financialcareerstuff · 20/12/2025 10:33

Dolly34 · 19/12/2025 22:22

Feeld or fabswingers

fabswingers- super transactional, purely for sex, massive, full of arseholes and fakes, need to be very careful for your safety as a single woman, you will be inundated with approaches. But if you are happy to filter through the rubbish, only consider people with clear photos, verifications, good reviews, and meet first in public place for an hour or two, then you can undoubtedly find yourself some very good sex with pleasant men within a matter of hours (assuming you are in a big urban centre)

Field and WeareX- sex positive, ethical non monogamy sites, with a heavy, optional dose of kink. More like traditional dating, with wholesome profiles with sex preferences stirred in…. Social group events where you can meet people. Sex workshops, plus lots of sex, parties etc, and one to one hook ups. It’s slower moving than fab…. You need to build rapport and trust more, but you are less inundated, less fakes to work through, and offer an enlivening community, as well as anonymous hook ups.

financialcareerstuff · 20/12/2025 10:37

JFDIYOLO · 20/12/2025 00:35

Join a historical reenactment / LARP group.

Walk around in an ankle length skirt and loose flowing hair, offering mead.

Blokes dressed as Saxons and Vikings with ruddy great swords will be falling over themselves and each other for you.

Get a nice tent.

Guess how I know about this.

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😁😆

crackofdoom · 20/12/2025 10:40

financialcareerstuff · 20/12/2025 10:33

fabswingers- super transactional, purely for sex, massive, full of arseholes and fakes, need to be very careful for your safety as a single woman, you will be inundated with approaches. But if you are happy to filter through the rubbish, only consider people with clear photos, verifications, good reviews, and meet first in public place for an hour or two, then you can undoubtedly find yourself some very good sex with pleasant men within a matter of hours (assuming you are in a big urban centre)

Field and WeareX- sex positive, ethical non monogamy sites, with a heavy, optional dose of kink. More like traditional dating, with wholesome profiles with sex preferences stirred in…. Social group events where you can meet people. Sex workshops, plus lots of sex, parties etc, and one to one hook ups. It’s slower moving than fab…. You need to build rapport and trust more, but you are less inundated, less fakes to work through, and offer an enlivening community, as well as anonymous hook ups.

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I've met a couple of decent, long term FWBs previously on FabSwingers. Both genuinely nice people. You do have to do a great deal of filtering and deleting the avalanche of messages though, but it's refreshing to be able to be upfront about what you really want.

Weirdly, my worst site for being messed around was Feeld.

rainbowunicorn22 · 20/12/2025 11:00

Bumble
Tinder
Plenty of fish
Fab swingers

Gardener82 · 20/12/2025 11:07

Dating apps, I wouldn’t put in your bio you’re looking for causal sex because you’ll be bombarded. Just find one you like the look of and tell him you are only wanting sex.
Or just approach someone in real life that you know is single and ask them, 99% of men will say yes.

cantbearsed27 · 20/12/2025 11:10

Why not tell the old flame that you're looking for a FWB situation and would he be interested. You might find he's much quicker to respond to something like that! And at least you know the sex will be decent.

BeNoisyFish · 20/12/2025 11:11

Are you for real?
Ok I'll bite, if you have a specific type who isn't approaching you IRL then maybe they aren't attracted to you. If they are flirting with you however, then be brave and swap numbers.

LadyFriend · 20/12/2025 11:21

Join a gym?

Flatbellyfella · 20/12/2025 11:23

Brownwithcameltotes · 19/12/2025 21:41

I don’t mind the idea of having a nosey on Bumble/Hinge etc but, I really don’t want my pictures out there as I don’t want people who may know me to know I’m on there! I really like how I look so it isn’t that.

What can I do? I am 28. Divorced 18 months ago. Thought I had a spark with an old flame I was messaging but he takes hours to reply so it’s probably a no. Wish I could ask, ‘look, let’s go for a drink at x a place and shag’

Most friends are knees deep in nappies or children. And not willing to go out ’about town’

I really, really need chemistry before sex. But I also have a specific type

So how many PMs have you received since you posted this message?

Lurkingandlearning · 20/12/2025 11:54

No more from OP. Guess she got lucky. Wetherspoons on a Friday night. Sorted.

But I did want to ask how she would find anyone online without posting her photo. She said she didn’t want her pic online in case she was recognised. Even if she “masked” her face she’d probably still be fairly recognisable to anyone who knew her. I’m just curious how someone who really needed anonymity, say because of their job, handled OLD

ABeerInTheSunshineMakesMeHappy · 20/12/2025 12:01

If your friends are ‘knee deep in nappies’, then it’s probably unlikely they will be going in to an online dating / hookup site though, so who are you worried about seeing you?

ETA - ah, work I expect. Ignore me.

Charlenedickens · 20/12/2025 12:10

Op do you not go out socially? I’m also stunned by the question. I’m in my fifties and when I go out with my female friends, I could pull 10 times over. Men approach women in bars, if you’re attractive then surely this happens to you and you can talk to men? If you don’t go out, then I’d advise it.

Userengage · 20/12/2025 12:18

Dick is in abundance.

I’m a lot older than you and unavailable however, I found that if I wanted no-strings sex I could find it with a random hottie on the walk home from work, in the booze aisle at Sainsbury’s and one of the dads from the opposition football team last Saturday morning. These were approaches in just the last two weeks who I happened to mistakenly make eye contact with.

MrsM2025 · 20/12/2025 12:21

Tinder - put that you’re ’not sure what you’re looking for’ and they’ll be queuing up!
Made that mistake - I put that as I didn’t realise that’s what it meant!

Netcurtainnelly · 20/12/2025 12:22

Stand on the street corner.

Illegally18 · 20/12/2025 13:33

Wildbushlady · 20/12/2025 00:49

How did you get to adulthood as a woman and not already know the answer?

Literally anywhere. Just walk outside.

There is a scary number of men whose only requirement is that you are breathing, and frankly some that dont even require that. As they don't care about you at all, I wouldn't get too excited though, the sex is likely to be 'unfulfilling'.

Personally I'd rather bathe in a petroleum bath with lit candles than let such fine specimens anywhere near me, but if you just walk out of your door you will encounter thousands of them.

How did you get to adulthood as a woman and not already know the answer?

My thoughts exactly!

Mumoflovelyboys2 · 20/12/2025 13:49

Hotel bars or pubs when the rugby’s on if you want a more upmarket kind of guy.

If you’re in London head out to the city bars (ie around bank, Canary Wharf and Liverpool st)on a Thursday night.

I did get propositioned once by a removal man but moving house is a bit extreme 🤣

ohyesido · 20/12/2025 13:51

You could get an instant sex date on tinder but you risk a huge blow to your self esteem if they turn up and decide you’re not their type

MardyMillylala · 20/12/2025 13:51

There used to be adult friend finder website, don't know if it still exists? There are a lot on there already attached but there are some on there not attached but just after no strings fun.

MardyMillylala · 20/12/2025 13:51

There used to be adult friend finder website, don't know if it still exists? There are a lot on there already attached but there are some on there not attached but just after no strings fun.

trustnayin · 20/12/2025 14:45

billiongulls · 19/12/2025 22:27

Wow. As an older woman this is so interesting. We just went to the bar, made eye contact, that was it. Very often, it was gruesome. I think the Wetherspoons comment was closest to that.

Same. I found it really easy to pick up men all through my 40s. Just out and about. Not looking now. But as a 28 year old who is confident in her looks, it’ll be really easy to pick up men in RL!

billiongulls · 20/12/2025 14:52

trustnayin · 20/12/2025 14:45

Same. I found it really easy to pick up men all through my 40s. Just out and about. Not looking now. But as a 28 year old who is confident in her looks, it’ll be really easy to pick up men in RL!

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We used to joke, "I never went to bed with in ugly man. ... But I've woken up with a few. "