Where can I find casual sex as a woman?

[Brownwithcameltotes]

I don’t mind the idea of having a nosey on Bumble/Hinge etc but, I really don’t want my pictures out there as I don’t want people who may know me to know I’m on there! I really like how I look so it isn’t that.

What can I do? I am 28. Divorced 18 months ago. Thought I had a spark with an old flame I was messaging but he takes hours to reply so it’s probably a no. Wish I could ask, ‘look, let’s go for a drink at x a place and shag’

Most friends are knees deep in nappies or children. And not willing to go out ’about town’

I really, really need chemistry before sex. But I also have a specific type

Butlins adult music weekends.

They are apparently an absolute shag fest

Centre Parks on a Friday night. .

The post office queue is a good place to start a conversation, I missed an opportunity on Monday chatting to a lady I am hoping to run into again,

After this thread, you will find it in your DMs

They don’t call it ComeSitOnMyFacebook for nothing.

That would be “Feeld” 😆

Is this a serious question?

If you've got a bit of annual leave to use up, Turkey is apparently great for this sort of thing

I was waiting for an uber after having a few drinks with friends last weekend when I was asked. He was half my age and obviously just wanted a hook with up with just about anyone - hence me! So on that basis, just stand on the footpath near a taxi rank!

Was thinking that too 😆

Join a historical reenactment / LARP group.

Walk around in an ankle length skirt and loose flowing hair, offering mead.

Blokes dressed as Saxons and Vikings with ruddy great swords will be falling over themselves and each other for you.

Get a nice tent.

Guess how I know about this.

As a single woman in your twenties you can probably find casual sex absolutely anywhere, depends what your criteria and standards are as to whether you take men up on it

How did you get to adulthood as a woman and not already know the answer?

Literally anywhere. Just walk outside.

There is a scary number of men whose only requirement is that you are breathing, and frankly some that dont even require that. As they don't care about you at all, I wouldn't get too excited though, the sex is likely to be 'unfulfilling'.

Personally I'd rather bathe in a petroleum bath with lit candles than let such fine specimens anywhere near me, but if you just walk out of your door you will encounter thousands of them.

What exactly does scouting around look like in real terms?

Well that created quite the amusing little animation in my head

Clubs, bars, salsa/bachata/kizomba classes, social groups, literally anywhere; just make eye contact and smile at the men you like.

Do you really want that though? Maybe try to find a trusted FWB rather than doing random one night stands which will probably being unfulfilling.

Sorry, that all sounds really grim, dangerous and unfulfilling.

Oh, I go there for a breakfast. I'm obviously missing something.

At 28 and being lovely looking, I would have thought the problem would be getting through a day without having casual sex tbh.

Actually, yes - almost anywhere will do. Tour guides are often up for a short, sweet romance. I've travelled widely on my own, yet was never alone if I didn't want to be. I pick a café/bar to make my base for the trip. This means the staff quickly get to know you (you have to talk to them, obviously) and either they or some of the regulars will present themselves as potential company.

Someone upthread suggested festivals, also very good. Almost guaranteed, in fact. A hobby, if you don't mind it stretching over a few weeks - maybe a marathon or similar. I also used to go clubbing by myself: I did it because I love dancing, but there were certainly plenty of casual opportunities!

Not to me 😕 It's unfulfilling for many. Others among us are more than capable of forming a deep, if meaningless, connection for a few hours or days. OP said she likes to get to know her partners somewhat and needs chemistry. Same here! All over now, but I regret nothing except the ones I married.

God how grim.

killing kittens - depending on what you want.

This is the best way - bumble is good. Just select that you’re looking for something casual and you’ll be spoilt for choice!

Yep.

Problem solved