Who would like to anticipate my annual bath with me?

[BaileysAndBadedas]

Firstly, just to reassure everyone, I do shower and wash regularly throughout the rest of the year! Background is that one of my favourite things used to be (especially after a long outdoor run) reading in a very long and very hot bath. Every December I used to upgrade my own brand/radox type bath stuff to Badedas and drink a glass of Baileys - looked forward to all year.

Long story but I can’t run anymore due to physical disabilities, and not meant to bathe (seizures). So I’m confined to at best, quick showers with DH helping me in and out, washing my hair for me if needed. However. It is December. I am fucking determined to have a bath with Badedas and Lidl Baileys. This will involve squinting at a paperback rather than my Kindle with nice big type, and my drink in a plastic glass, and DH sitting on the toilet (to supervise, not taking a dump or anything obvs) so it’s not quite the same but…

I have put this off so far as have been poorly and my seizures have been really uncontrolled (I actually have two fetching black eyes atm!) I also feel a bit bad for DH having to sit on the toilet for so long but it’s a small bathroom and equipment means we can’t get a comfier chair in there. But I really really want my fucking bath. With my Baileys and my Badedas.

So my plan is to (okay yes I know, this is so fucking sad in a dickhead way, not “sad sad” way) sit outside one day this weekend, probably Sunday, until I am cold then come in and have my hot bath. With my Baileys - I don’t drink alcohol anymore but one glass will be nice. I am very much looking forward to it.

Would anyone like to come and vicariously share my anticipation? (Warning, stuff I plan doesn’t happen 99% of the time so restrain your excitement…)

PS please no lectures or warnings about the risk as I have assessed it and am an adult with capacity and a chaperone, so don’t ruin my bath party, thanks.

is virtually the right word? I mean psychic-ally. So everyone can enjoy it in their mind. That sounds wrong! Oh dear. I think bedtime is beckoning

I haven’t been able to have a bath or a shower for 8 years due to disability so I totally understand.
A wash is just not the same even if it gets you clean. There is no enjoyment and relaxation to it.
I hope your bath is wonderful.

Although I can have a bath, I am no longer able to have any bubble bath or soaks so plain water for me and its just not the same. Anything other sets off lichen sclerosis and I suffer for a couple of weeks after. Enjoy your bath!

Enjoy!

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I've done bath duty before to DD and to a friend. Enjoy.

I know you’re all on tenterhooks for a bath update lol so just an update to say no bath happening today sorry! I may also leave off the Baileys as though I know what’s causing the seizures and that won’t be sorted without surgery I just don’t want to risk any interference with the meds that are (can’t think of the right word) minimising them. Although it’s probably not even a risk at all I’d feel a bit of a dick if my seizures went even worse and I’d had alcohol.

def not a positive smiley person today sorry!

(for those that can’t bathe etc, I hate it when people say “have you tried xxx” as though you’ve not thought of fucking everything, but in a “this helped me” way I found lovely perfume on a hankie to sniff helped a little. Felt a bit luxurious. It’s horrible knowing you’re clean from flannel washed and bad wipes etc but not properly feeling it, if that makes sense? I’ve had a lot of time in hosp this year with no showers allowed let alone baths and The Fragenced Hankerchief really helped me. At this time of year maybe we shld all stick cloves in an orange! Forgotten the word for that too.

im off to put atelier cologne on a hankie, its good too as you can just buy samples too do it not expensive huge bottles.
Hope everyone having the best weekend they can

i can have a bath whenever I want and I anticipate them just as much as this so this is not sad at ALL! I am so excited for you!!!

Just realised I’ve not got the badedas either as not got to the shop, definitely failing at this.

Oh @BaileysAndBadedas I'm so sorry that hasn't all worked out as planned. I feel your hesitation at doing anything that might exacerbate things. There are things that I haven't done for 16 years in a just in case kind of way. Enjoy the sensory experience of scent, it can take you many places. I hope that bath is just round the corner for you.

This thread is making me crave a badedas bath with Baileys now. Definitely going to make it happen :)

Sounds brilliant @BaileysAndBadedas . Enjoy your lovely treat, sounds like you deserve it!

Do you know anyone with a hot tub? You could go together! Might be a bit much but something to dream about!

Sudden changes in temperature drop anyones seizure threshold so I’d skip the outside chill first and just snug up and then get in the bath. My adult ds has to be supervised in the bath due to seizures. It’s a bit shit for him but we just both pretend we’re cold with it. (We are otherwise not a naked in front of each other family) I find the floor with a cushion more comfy than the loo. A cup of tea is always very welcome.

Just to say you can get large print books from the library

Thank you all and to people or their family in similar situations.

not managed a bath yet, for some reason this weekend I’ve been having lots of focal type seizures (and accompanying sense of doom/terror which is really fucking me off quite frankly) and I think it’s unfair on DH to get in the bath then worry him by sliding silently under the water, that’d be worse than an obvious tonic clonic! Currently clutching a hankie scented with Atelier Clementine (?) and wondering ifr AIBU to start the Xmas cheese.

i do know someone with a hot tub but I would rather bang my head repeatedly against the bathroom wall than go anywhere near it tbh, it prob has more germs then A and E!

I have decided to manage my expectations as they say and have revised them downward, if I get through Xmas without and A and E visit I’ll be doing well and that will make me happy. in ironic and almost funny anecdote, my DC have done my a lovely homemdade advent calender. Today I have beautiful false lashes to put on my two black eyes I think they’ll really set them off! (Joke btw not putting glue anywhere near atm!)

(my library does large print and suggested a magnifying glass thing in the new year I will accept I need reading glasses!
im going to open the cheese fuck it!

And then I am going to NAP with a heated blanket which is almost as good as a hot bath. shall put on (with elec melter not naked flame!) Orange and cinnamon scented candle. And star light in ceiling. Almost as cosy as a bath and a cat can accompany me unlike a bath!