Do you dream of being hospitalised?

[Rocknrollstar]

I just read some research that said many women dream of being hospitalised with something relatively minor just for a few days. They see it as a way of being able to stay in bed and be looked after instead of running round after everyone else. And I thought it was only me! (Please bear in mind that not everyone can arrange a couple of days away).

Not a hospital, definitely, but I'd love a retreat. Somewhere in the French Alps where I can look at snow capped mountains and completely relax.

No…I dream of being alone in a water villa in the Maldives (preferably having flown there first class on Emirates). I did actually fulfill the fantasy years ago - I said I was having an honeymoon with myself during a period of gardening leave - and I still dream about it when thing get tough.

I think it's common but as you say, a fantasy and the reality of it is pretty shit.

Same goes for the posters thinking prison would be a break.

If you live a lifestyle where you're literally or almost on the streets, committing crimes and most likely with a drug addiction then it could be.

Otherwise, it's a hell-hole and people need to get away from the idea that it's a cushy number.

Unless you fancy being strip-searched by strangers and sharing a cell with strangers who may or may not assault you, bully you, or just self-harm and behave terribly in front of you.

I think it's quite common. Its your brain telling you that you need a break. Not that you want to be in hospital, just having someone care for you for a change.

I wish sanitariums were common and not eye wateringly expensive. Like a yearly health rule

I used to feel a bit like that when the children were small. I really needed a break somehow. But not now.

Bloody hell, no!

I work in a mh hospital and would rather sit in a pile of cold sick for a week than be admitted to a similar facility.

I had an op in October and was in general hospital for that and despite the hcps being unfailingly brilliant and the outcome of the surgery really good, I would still like to avoid having to spend time in a hospital again. The noise and the lights and the weird temperatures and the smells and the other patients and seeing nurses running around with a million things to do and not enough time or people to do them... Ugh.

I dream of having the sort of money and time that I could book myself into a lovely hotel somewhere isolated and do nothing at all until I felt like leaving again.

Bizarrely enough, back when mine were 1 and 3 I was hospitalised for 3 nights, and once I was out of the danger zone and on my last morning there feeling a bit better, I had time to browse and buy some clothes online, read and have a cuppa- it did feel like a calmer start to the day! 😂

I've recently been in hospital in France and to be fair (apart from the pain and complete lack of mobility) it was restful. Single room, as is every room in the hospital, en suite, door kept closed and electronic shutters on the windows with a remote control. Breakfast was a huge chunk of fresh baguette, Président butter and lovely jam. Plus a bowl of tea! I'd rather be at home but I can see the attraction. Definitely not an NHS hospital in the UK though!

Def not hospitalised as hospitals are my idea of hell. Awful places.

BUT...

Perhaps something that requires me to be off work for a week or two, and be at home relaxing whilst the kids are out at school would be genuinely amazing (provided not too painful!).

Having just spent a week in ICU and a week on an acute ward, no! Hospitals are noisy, busy and the staff are run off their feet. Stopping the lady in the bed opposite Swan diving over the bars and counting down the time between painkillers, ain't really a holiday.

On this forum people ask others sll sorts of things that are not their business. Its a risk you take when you share. If we were all minding our business, we wouldn't be on here.

The only time that question would be appropriate on MN is on AMA. There is a world of difference between asking a question and being inappropriate. Asking about reproductive choices here is completely inappropriate.

I disagree. Anything you post can be asked about and you can choose to answer or not. I wasn't holding a gun to her head.

I’ve had this in the past. More than once. It’s a sign that I’m overwhelmed/depressed and I need to start looking after myself. I used to think it was just me but now I understand it can be quite common.

Don’t ignore it. Recognise it and act.

Definitely not - aside from anything else you wouldn’t actually get any rest!

I wouldn’t mind some sort of enforced quarantine where I wasn’t actually ill but had to stay at home and off work for a couple of weeks (while DS and DH still went to work/school) though. Ideally in summer. I’d like a bit of time around the house to potter in the garden, read, do yoga, drink a leisurely coffee in the garden, tidy up a bit etc with no disruptions.

I completely get this desire. I also used to wish I was prison for a few days/ weeks.

Basically I get permission to do nothing, get fed, don't have to do anything / look after anyone. In my head, it sounds amazing.

I dreamt of this for about a decade when my kids were younger.

No, but you were incredibly rude when she chose not to answer.

Christ, no! Having spent way too much time in those places with my very poorly husband over the past couple of years, you couldn’t pay me enough to go there.
Anyone who believes it would be restful has no idea, either.

Noooo thanks. I have spent many of my adult years in mental health hospitals. At least you are not bed bound, and you can wander about, sit in staff smoking area gardens, do arts and crafts and watch TV.
Still not restful though. Noisy and chaotic. And if you are noisy and chaotic yourself, you get restrained and injected.

I think finding any sort of hospital admission attractive is a sign you need a holiday. An all inclusive one.

Uh no. I have been in hospital for a few days after my sections and the food was awful and the place was noisy and no privacy. A lovely hotel in the country with delicious food? That I dream about!

I think that’s shocking tbh, says a lot about what women have to put up with.

I was hospitalised for almost three weeks due to a bad case of the flu that turned to sepsis a few years ago and it’s the least relaxing thing I can think of. It’s stuffy and noisy and you get woken up for one every few hours. If that’s what people are fantasising about I despair.

No, last time I was in hospital I practically begged them to discharge me about 12 hours post surgery (appendicitis).

However, I very much enjoyed the week at home recovering, no work, dc at school, no school run, no jobs, loads of trash tv and snacks provided.

I'd consider giving up more spare organs in future - how many weeks do you get for a kidney?

I wouldn’t wish to be in hospital. However I did have a bit of a nasty virus a few weeks back which my 3 year old had kindly shared with me. My partner had to cancel work and other plans to stay home and look after us and it made me realise that it actually felt like a break!

@Rocknrollstar - any thoughts on the replies posted?

I doubt very much anyone wishing to be hospitalised, though I get the sentiment of needing a break. I don’t have kids, but a few friends do have them. I think they’d much rather fantasise about being in a cute cottage with a supermarket delivery, an open fire, lovely walks nearby and no signal on their phone!

Hospital no way but I do remember the first day of strep throat thinking ahh, this is nice excuse just to lie down and be ill in peace.

At that stage i had no idea it was strep, or what strep was!!! Sadly took me nearly a week to figure out by which point i was very much about to go to the hospital! That was not fun