Do you dream of being hospitalised?

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I just read some research that said many women dream of being hospitalised with something relatively minor just for a few days. They see it as a way of being able to stay in bed and be looked after instead of running round after everyone else. And I thought it was only me! (Please bear in mind that not everyone can arrange a couple of days away).

I was hospitalised in the summer for 3 days. I was put opposite a mentally ill woman who screamed, shouted and was abusive to the staff and other patients for the whole time I was in. I don’t want to see the inside of a hospital ever again.

Not hospital but I often think I'd like a few days off sick in bed.

I’d prefer a weekend on my own in a luxury hotel with a spa - and an unlimited budget. I’d thoroughly indulge myself. 😂

I’m not so keen on hospitals, too many viruses.

Hotel for my self , for the night with a bottle of wine and room service yes . But not hospital

If it’s a fantasy, surely two weeks in four or five star hotels with fantastic food, in a tropical paradise would be much nicer all round?

I was hospitalised for ten days a few years back. I was very, very ill, and was put in my own room with a TV. While it was stressful and I missed my DS, who was 4 at the time and just starting Reception, I do get fleeting moments of nostalgia for it because it's the only time in my adult life when I've been looked after and the nurses and other staff were all so incredibly kind.

Not an actual hospital!!

In my version it was a sort of retreat. With kind people bringing you cups of tea, chocolate biscuits, and fentanyl for whatever pain you were in so you felt nothing.

I was in a situation where being ill and resting at home wouldn’t have happened, no matter what state I was in. 😞

So many taking this so literally 🤣
OP hope you can see some of us understood the subtext and didn’t just rant about dirty hospitals… Wanting to escape life for a bit is very relatable!

@ whenever I’ve been in hospital it hasn’t been relaxing, always someone screeching, and constantly being disturbed day and night by nurses doing obs.

Yes! Had an op on my shoulder 5 years ago and a 3 night hospital stay...it was bliss.

Exactly this. I think it's a common teacher thing.

Someone’s life would have to be completely awful if they would prefer to be in hospital.

It's meant to be literally hospitalisation, that's what OP says. Specifically says it's not about booking enjoyable days away.

I often fantasised about a short prison stay. Just for a rest. For a minor offence, of course. And one that harmed nobody.

Yes, as a fantasy, I would like to not have to get up at 06.30 every morning and have one single day where I slept in. But ultimately that would not happen at a hospital.

When we were in with DS's birth they woke me at 5am to ask what I wanted for breakfast, then 6am to bring a cheese sandwich, then 7am to do a check, then 7.30 to ask about a blood transfusion. I'd have got more rest on my own with a newborn....hard pass

I have to take DP to hospital quite frequently. He has unstable epilepsy and has to spend a while there sedated multiple times a year. I stay with him, as he forgets to breathe if he isn't reminded to every few minutes and ventilation is shit.

I am often quite envious in all honesty. Not of his poor health, but none the less... I work full time in a difficult (but understanding!) job; I have kids; I have elderly family to look after; I have DP to look after, who has such a bad memory he's on higher rate PIP as he's so unsafe due to his confusion and fits. When I spend 12 hours sat, telling him he's safe and to breathe, during that time I do have great envy of just lying down sedated and being looked after and loved.

I feel so fucking tired.

Yep, I do. A week would be lovely. Visiting hours for an hour after school

@User415373 gosh I'm the same almost exactly the same fantasy. I also remember feeling jealous of someone who was seriously ill because they got to stay home all day. Worse still i had a fleeting envy towards a terminally ill person because they no longer had any responsibilities. I was very guilty about how I felt for a long time but not I look back on that time and think how desperate and unhappy i must have been to think that way.

Yes been there. Sad to look back and think I was so tired I felt that way when I had a husband that should have been helping me. I’m far less tired without him and that seems an awful prospect now!

No hospitalised no!

but I do dream of going to a spa and sleeping alone in a king size bed - with room service and shite tv.

i had an mri scan last year and it was a lovely hour!!! Peaceful 🙄

@MooPointCowsOpinion We do get it, it’s just that for many people, being in hospital hasn’t been a restful experience! He last time I was in for an op after breaking bones in my foot, overall it was a painful experience and noisy in the ward- although the anesthetic was pleasant!

Not a standard hospital. A plush private place - a MH stay where they ply me with sedatives and other fabulous things. And on occasion, I've fantasised about a short spell in prison.

Never fantasised about an NHS ward though. A few nightmares.

But it’s not about being in hospital though, is it, because the OP specifically says that the research showed that women saw it as ”a way of being able to stay in bed and be looked after instead of running round after everyone else”.

It reminds me of the recent thread about retreats where you could go to be looked after.

@spiderlight me too, 9 days. I became completely institutionalised and looked forward to the meal times or visit times or tv times. No WiFi. I was so well minded and cared for. That was 13 years ago and I still think of it.

I did.
I also looked at the floors of public breastfeeding places like IKEA & my local boots had one because such was my utter utter desperation for even a snippet of sleep I could have lay down on that floor and locked the door to sleep alone, in peace for even one undisturbed hour.

Dark, dark, desperate and lonely days (and nights) back then. I was not thinking right at all.