Do you dream of being hospitalised?

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I just read some research that said many women dream of being hospitalised with something relatively minor just for a few days. They see it as a way of being able to stay in bed and be looked after instead of running round after everyone else. And I thought it was only me! (Please bear in mind that not everyone can arrange a couple of days away).

No! Hospitals are awful places and only if I was very sick would I ever stay in one and be grateful 😮

I have definitely had this fantasy before, especially when I was struggling with PND, but also know the reality of staying in hospital for me and my children and it’s awful. So it’s more of a spa weekend/being cared for fantasy than a hospital one I think.

Not hospitals, because they're not restful places.
However, I sent DS to live on Uni campus this September. He is only an hour away, and is home every Friday to Sunday. So the working week is peaceful when I am home. House is clean, I just get up and go to work without thinking of everyone else and I don't have to eat fussy teenager food any more.
Its bliss! And I secretly wish we'd sent him off to boarding school.

Yes, this.

A plush hotel stay would come with guilt attached. It has to be unavoidable.

I’ve had a bit of this since I was a child. As a teen a social worker talked about it with me and helped me sort out which things (escapism) I need. Now with kids I think of it again, because the escape is impossible.

going to ask dh to take on everything tonight and I’ll walk to the grocery store for some thrilling solo time

When I was teaching I seriously considered how I might be able to break my right arm.

Call the Midwife is a good shout. Lovely kind nurses with Class A drugs.

Ok these replies are incredibly irritating!

Of course the OP isn’t wishing herself in a current underfunded, overcrowded NHS ward that’s too hot and everyone is snoring or playing phones out loud day and night 🤦🏻‍♀️

I picture a lovely peaceful old fashioned convalescent home - private room of course - with starched sheets, plump pillows and cups of tea brought to you regularly. No housework, children, shopping, laundry, work at home or otherwise, no responsibility except to rest. It’s lovely and quiet at night and the food is healthy yet delicious and plentiful. It’s not a real place! It’s a lovely fantasy 🤣

Anyone saying ‘why would I want that’ well hurrah for your life that is so calm and stress free that you have never longed for a break from it. Many women have.

Why do so many people have to post crabby, mean spirited replies to a light hearted thread like this? You KNOW what the OP means 🤦🏻‍♀️

No. Having had an unintended stay, take it from me that hospital might be fun if it's private with your own room and nice nosh but having to be taken to the toilet (and having to have someone pull your knickers up) is not a pleasant experience.

I think the days of care homes for a rest are long gone.

Have to admit that yes, I have fantasised about being just sick enough to need to stay in bed and leave everything to someone else, mostly when kids were much younger and DH had the long commute so it felt like I did it all.

I have recently achieved this via a minor surgery which requires me to keep my legs elevated as much as possible for 6-8 weeks. DH is doing close to everything and is on his knees within 3 weeks. He has a fsr greater appreciation for how much I normally do and has agreed that we need to look to ensure things are better balanced in future.

Meanwhile, I am actually bored out of my mind by by immobility! 🫣

Not at all, had a lot of hospital stays this year, some were in a private room, in a private hospital and it’s still the opposite of a relaxing experience, I’ve never left a hospital feeling well rested, it’s bad nights sleep, constant lack of privacy, busy, noisy places.

a night at a cheap hotel or a premier inn, Maybe the roads are closed due to snow and it’s a case of grabbing a nearby hotel? Yes please.

Fuck no!
That's quite sad (and rage inducing).

God no. I really, really hate hospitals.

When I was working full time I used to day dream about being hit by a car yes.

When I was working full time I used to day dream about being hit by a car yes.

Yes, as long as I wasn't in pain. Lovely, lazing around, three meals a day, brought to me on a tray.

during covid (which I tested positive for, but had zero symptoms) I was given a private room after an emergency bowel surgery. It was bliss (minus the pain) 2 weeks later I was being discharged and I asked my surgeon for one extra day in as my husband was working with no chance to be home that day, as he had so much time off the first couple weeks. He agreed that I should not be home alone yet...heavy meds, no stairs possible and my actual bed was upstairs in our home..two large dogs... husband off the next day for 3 due to his shifts. I had food delivered from my restaurant ... watched some silly tv shows.. had my first shower that had not needed assistance.. also had all staff, day staff and then evening staff, order a meal from my restaurant and our driver brought it. It was a really good day and prepped me for going home in alot less pain and being able to take care of myself somewhat, now... healthy me...DREAMS of a few days in a private room and being taken care off ( I can do without the daily shots in my tummy for blood clots and being woke in the middle of the night for checks.. but other than that...SIGN ME UP

When I first watched You on Netflix, I wanted to be abducted and kept in Joe's glass box in his basement. He supplied unlimited books and all meals and he was easy on the eye.

No. If I needed 3 days in bed I could call in sick, be paid and DH would take over everything at home. Heck just my kids probably could at this stage. Maybe if something feels impossible it’s why it’s yearned for, but if you could do it it’s not something you fanaticise? Plus, I hate hospitals.

Absolutely not! If I was hospitalised I'd probably end up throwing things at the other patients because people are too noisy now and can't behave themselves. It would drive me crackers. They don't give you any pain relief either so the suffering would be immense.

Yes I have felt like this when my DD was younger. I was either at work or with her. I didn't really do anything else and felt run ragged.

I did used to quite enjoy travelling for work though, hotel room and expensed dinner was lovely!

I have, yes. When I had 2 under 3s. I have spent 1 night in hospital before I had kids and I rather enjoyed it. I have low expectations though.

Absolutely not. I’ve had a few stays in hospitals and they are not nice places to be.

Can really relate to the sentiment but I think you may not have been in hospital recently op! They are the last places in which you can rest and recuperate nowadays.

my stay for two weeks was in a private room during covid in Ontario Canada , and I have to say, other than the pain , it was the most quiet I have experienced in YEARS.. I am sorry that your stays were not nice.