Should I just pay for this?

[Eastie77Returns]

It’s Xmas jumper day at DS’ school today. I completely forgot and only realised when I checked the class WhatsApp this morning. One mum mentioned she had forgotten so I replied to her saying not to worry, I also forgot but DS is fine about it and will be just wearing a Santa hat (unlike DD, DS is very chill about dress-up days etc at school). Another class mum then messaged me privately to say she had a spare jumper if DS would like to wear it? I said thanks but didn’t think DS was too bothered but she said it would be nice for him to wear it as someone was planning to take a class picture of all the kids dressed up. So we met at the school gate, she handed over the jumper and told DS to put it on in class. I thanked her and said (this is relevant) that I’d wash and return it to her.

I now have a message from her asking if I’d like to pay for it via Monzo otherwise a bank transfer is fine. The jumper is £17.99. The cost isn’t an issue but I’m a bit WTF as thought I was borrowing it?!

@Eastie77Returns Your husband is perfectly correct but I'd give it to her yourself and say 'you forced it on me, have it back now' and 'how did the xmas jumper photo turn out? I haven't seen it'

Who does this! So random...
I would be inclined to check where the jumper is from and how much it actually cost.
I wouldn't be giving this woman any money. Just explain that you don't want to buy her unwanted shite...

If she’s skint then she shouldn’t be buying £17.99 Christmas jumpers that aren’t even getting worn in the first place.
She’s a cheeky cow. I could think of so many responses I’d give if I were OP 😆

She is very cheeky. Do not pay.

Please post a pic of the jumper- so we can find the actual cost of it! 😆

Let him

She'd torn the price off the ticket as it definitely wasn't 17.99.

Another vote for mobilise the husband.

Good on him!

Or it was a gift she’s flogging.

To be honest I’d let him do that, don’t let her away with it and take you for a mug. If she confronts your husband he can say he looked at the messages it clearly wasn’t offered as for sale and his wife said she’d wash and return. Then walk away,

Please do not pay, she almost forced you to accept the loan of the jumper. You stated you would wash and return, so do that.

I look forward to her back pedalling frantically when confronted by a man with a freshly washed jumper. It shouldn't work like that but it often does.

"A spare one he can have" is very clearly an offer to give/lend, not sell. She's trying it on, don't pay.

Literally had a very similar situation where a friend was ‘ getting rid’ of a sofa as they’d upgraded . Wrote on a group chat didn’t anyone know how to ‘ get rid ‘ , various suggestion of just putting it outside the front door with a note on, or putting on fb etc, do any charities take sofas ? Council collection ? Absolutely zero mention that is for sale at this point , so another friend said their adult son might like it , then the ‘ what do we think a suitable price is ? Is £100 too much ?
Erm yes it is when you said 5 minutes ago that it was in your way 🤣 Nerve of some people !

Did he give it back to her?

I think she’s a CF frankly. She “didn’t want him to miss out”, aye I bet.

DP handed it back! Apparently she said something like “So she doesn’t want it?” and then took the jumper. I asked him if she looked annoyed and he shrugged that he had no idea. I would love to have this gift of not giving two shits that men have😅

No… just say ‘I’ll have it back to you, washed, as agreed on X day. I’m not paying anything… that’s not what was implied or discussed. In future if you plan to charge people to borrow things from you it should be made clear in the initial offer.’

Well done to your DP!

Sorry I see the issue is resolved. I’m a bit of a dick so I’d still message her telling her to be clearer with her intentions in future as everyone isn’t as polite as me and some parents would assume she was scamming them.

She's a cheeky cow. Do not give her any money.

Madness

I got the loveliest jumpers for 5 quid this year

But anyway

What a cheeky sod

Not a chance

She did this on purpose to trick you into buying it, good on your DP.

A similar thing happened to me. I borrowed a top from a colleague for a night out & was told just to keep it as it didn’t fit her anyway (too big). Next day she was online shopping & pointed out a T shirt & pair of joggers I could buy her, then we’d be quits. I was fuming as I’d previously given her a coat & didn’t ask for a penny. I told her the top was washed & had shrunk ever so slightly, so it would fit her better post-wash. I left it on her desk the next day.
I can’t stand people like this. Definitely wash & return or you’ll be angry with yourself - she’s the CF, not you 😵‍💫😆

Well done, I just saw your update 🤩