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Xmas version of things you wouldn't admit in real life....

398 replies

TinselTina · 12/12/2025 11:24

I wish people would stop mentioning my 5 foot 3 height like im an outlier.
I cannt believe I married my ex. I needed to be in a mental hospital not marched up the aisle.
I dont care if my child is clever or not.

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SoldTheMovieRights · 13/12/2025 10:36

I think adults getting advent calendars full of gifts is obscene commercialism.

Actually the ones for kids that have aching other than pictures and chocolates are a bit obscene too.

StrikeForever · 13/12/2025 11:25

Mrssweary · 13/12/2025 07:48

It’s the kind of items that could cause thrush, irritated skin etc or the item really doesn’t smell nice or I have duplicate of the item as it’s been gifted before , if I donated to charity shops I doubt they would sell them as realistically if I don’t like them then the vast majority won’t really like them either.

Apart from pouring the items down the sink and disposing in the bin I don’t know what else to do with them but then I feel terrible because I’ve been given these items and people have obviously spent hard earned money on them and I should be grateful so they end up being stored. It’s a vicious circle.

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I hear you, my vulva is very particular, but there are lots of women who are fine with with all kinds of toiletries.

CatchTheWind1920 · 13/12/2025 11:51

I hate buying Christmas presents. Except for my kids. If I could, I'd get no presents and I'd buy no presents except for my children.
Christmas would be so much easier to just buy for the children.

Fireangels · 13/12/2025 16:11

Bikergran · 13/12/2025 06:43

THIS!!!! We are hosting Christmas again, due to having to stay at ours for family health reasons. Usually we take turns. Because of this, BIL and SIL insist on supplying the turkey. Not only does this stress me out immensely as they only turn up Xmas morning (so if there's a traffic problem and they're held up all my timings are thrown out) but they make this vile chestnut stuffing which tastes like wet cardboard. DH thinks it's lovely of them and doesn't see why I hate it so much. Oh, and a hazelnut roulade they also bring, which is also tasteless and means I don't make my chocolate roulade, which is a hundred times better.

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For the last 30 odd years I have cooked an ENORMOUS turkey that I take round to my mum’s house for Xmas lunch.
I do it on Xmas eve, cool it down and carve it (much easier to do when it’s cold) I then put it in portions in an oven proof tray, moisten with cooking juices and cover with foil. It reheats beautifully in about 30 mins.

Not teaching anyone to suck eggs, but thought this may help some people with planning a lower stress Xmas day.

MrsB2025 · 13/12/2025 16:13

Interesting how so many replies were all spouting the same virtue-signalling message about not binning gifts and the damage to the environment, yet you still went on to repeat and to be seen to be saying the same thing.

You’re the same people who shop at Amazon, Primark, and other companies driving massive environmental destruction. You talk about charity and giving back, yet you fund corporations built on exploitation and underpaid labour.

And you, the ground-level empath, will never get it. You’ll never see how people like you are being exploited in the grand scheme of things. That’s how the left has been infiltrated. How universities, healthcare systems, and government institutions have been quietly overtaken. Because ground-level empaths are easy to manipulate into policing one another. It serves no one but the corporations, the ones at the top pulling the strings. You mean well, your intentions are pure, but you’re pawns.

WhineAndWine1 · 13/12/2025 16:27

So many people wound up about putting unwanted gifts in the bin. Please tell me how you live so you aren’t contributing to damaging the environment?

KimTheresPeopleThatAreDying · 13/12/2025 16:44

LegoWig · 12/12/2025 14:22

I think Christmas Day is shite. I like the build up and the holiday from work but the actual day is a damp squib and I hate having a massive dinner at 3pm. Everyone falls asleep afterwards and then about 7 o’clock there’s a half arsed attempt to have “family fun” when I would rather just go to bed and read a book or watch Seinfeld.

Hogmanay and New Year’s Day are both awful but there’s less pressure to pretend you’re enjoying them.

Are you me?! Love the buildup, quite like the bit between Xmas and NY, hate Xmas day and NYE.

SewingBees · 13/12/2025 16:52

The colleagues who took part in this year's 'record yourself doing Christmas karaoke and share it with the whole company' made utter twats of themselves, and the more senior they were the bigger twats they looked.

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 13/12/2025 17:01

LegoWig · 12/12/2025 14:22

I think Christmas Day is shite. I like the build up and the holiday from work but the actual day is a damp squib and I hate having a massive dinner at 3pm. Everyone falls asleep afterwards and then about 7 o’clock there’s a half arsed attempt to have “family fun” when I would rather just go to bed and read a book or watch Seinfeld.

Hogmanay and New Year’s Day are both awful but there’s less pressure to pretend you’re enjoying them.

Having the 🎄dinner at 5 or 6 is IMO a lot more civilised and people are then so well stuffed you don’t need to bother about feeding them later. Anyone getting peckish can go and pick at the leftovers. 🙂

Sharptonguedwoman · 13/12/2025 18:25

MrsB2025 · 12/12/2025 14:34

I throw loads of Christmas gifts away every single year. I feel terrible but I receive so much shit every fucking year. I don’t want presents but I can’t say that as it sounds miserable. But just tat. Clutter. Hand creams. Bath stuff (I don’t own a bath). Smelly stuff that smells like piss. I smile and pretend to be grateful every year. But it all goes in the bin.

Donate it? Give it to a raffle, a charity, whatever.

Sharptonguedwoman · 13/12/2025 18:27

WhineAndWine1 · 13/12/2025 16:27

So many people wound up about putting unwanted gifts in the bin. Please tell me how you live so you aren’t contributing to damaging the environment?

What I do to protect the environment isn't the same as chucking perfectly usable things in the bin. Someone else can use your gifts.

tommyhoundmum · 13/12/2025 18:50

MrsB2025 · 12/12/2025 14:34

I throw loads of Christmas gifts away every single year. I feel terrible but I receive so much shit every fucking year. I don’t want presents but I can’t say that as it sounds miserable. But just tat. Clutter. Hand creams. Bath stuff (I don’t own a bath). Smelly stuff that smells like piss. I smile and pretend to be grateful every year. But it all goes in the bin.

Please take it to the charity shop.

RessicaJabbit · 13/12/2025 19:34

WhineAndWine1 · 13/12/2025 16:27

So many people wound up about putting unwanted gifts in the bin. Please tell me how you live so you aren’t contributing to damaging the environment?

By not putting unwanted gifts in the bin...

Zerosleep · 13/12/2025 19:46

Due to a situation with the children I won’t explain as it’s outing, ex has to visit them at my house. I hate him and his disgusting pathetic fun uncle behaviour, zero coparenting and zero financial contribution. He doesn’t deserve the children. I wish a bus would hit him so I didn’t have to feel continually retraumatised. I need a break but I can’t trust him with the kids, major competence and safety issues among other things.

farmlass · 13/12/2025 19:48

I absolutely sympathise. Learned helplessness !!

WhineAndWine1 · 13/12/2025 19:49

@RessicaJabbit thats going to make a world of difference 🙄. @Sharptonguedwoman like others have said I’m not going to regift or donate these rubbishy gift sets. Just because someone needs a helping hand doesn’t mean they deserve peoples tatty unwanted gifts

MrsB2025 · 13/12/2025 20:17

Sharptonguedwoman · 13/12/2025 18:25

Donate it? Give it to a raffle, a charity, whatever.

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“My gift to you this year is a bit of absolute tat that I know you’ll never use. I’m just ticking your name off my list so it looks like I’ve made an effort and you’ve got something to unwrap. Oh, and the Condition attached to my gift this year is that you’ll also have to waste your own time passing it on to someone else, though they probably won’t want it either… because it’s junk. Merry Christmas 🫶😉 ”

Sharptonguedwoman · 13/12/2025 20:33

MrsB2025 · 13/12/2025 20:17

“My gift to you this year is a bit of absolute tat that I know you’ll never use. I’m just ticking your name off my list so it looks like I’ve made an effort and you’ve got something to unwrap. Oh, and the Condition attached to my gift this year is that you’ll also have to waste your own time passing it on to someone else, though they probably won’t want it either… because it’s junk. Merry Christmas 🫶😉 ”

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You obviously live a different life. I’d donate the stuff I couldn’t use. Hand soaps and liquid soap just get used.

namegames2 · 13/12/2025 20:35

So I have a sister in law (DH brother’s girlfriend) who has always been a bit mean and to be completely honest, downright not very nice at times. We popped round a couple of years ago to drop off Christmas presents as pre arranged by her, for her to turn around and say she isn’t doing gifts this year and had nothing (not even a card) for our DC. I had bought her a Pandora charm which wasn’t cheap and one I knew she would have liked. I decided she wasn’t having it and slipped the charm out of the bag and gave her the empty bag which she put under the tree.

She had the cheek to message me and say it was empty and I just said o no it must have fell out. I still have it now and wear it on my own pandora bracelet and it always makes me smile.

Imanexcellentdrivercharliebabbit · 13/12/2025 20:37

JudgeBread · 12/12/2025 14:13

I really, really don't like my soon to be sister in law. She's a real mean girl. Thankfully I don't have to see her often so I can just pretend I like her "feisty, no nonsense, brutally honest" personality.

And since this is apparently supposed to be a Christmas themed one... I'm actually off all Christmas this year but have told my family I'm working because I just want to be left in peace! 🙃

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Is she also a self declared ‘survivor’ who ‘says it like it is!
AKA
A Cunt

MaddestGranny · 13/12/2025 20:41

as an ex-primary teacher/headteacher, I used to be given many love/appreciation-laden, well-intentioned presents from lovely parents and from lovely pupils.

I tried always to make sure that I made my appreciation clear to the givers.
I would take them all home and (after silent thanks/appreciation for the good intentions) I would, very guiltily, drive or take a bus to a nearby/different district where "my" parents would be very unlikely to visit and I would donate the gifts to charity shops.

I always felt guilty about doing this. But I hope some good might've come of it?

pforpig · 13/12/2025 20:46

namegames2 · 13/12/2025 20:35

So I have a sister in law (DH brother’s girlfriend) who has always been a bit mean and to be completely honest, downright not very nice at times. We popped round a couple of years ago to drop off Christmas presents as pre arranged by her, for her to turn around and say she isn’t doing gifts this year and had nothing (not even a card) for our DC. I had bought her a Pandora charm which wasn’t cheap and one I knew she would have liked. I decided she wasn’t having it and slipped the charm out of the bag and gave her the empty bag which she put under the tree.

She had the cheek to message me and say it was empty and I just said o no it must have fell out. I still have it now and wear it on my own pandora bracelet and it always makes me smile.

Good for you. I love a satisfying end to a story.

MrsB2025 · 13/12/2025 20:47

Sharptonguedwoman · 13/12/2025 20:33

You obviously live a different life. I’d donate the stuff I couldn’t use. Hand soaps and liquid soap just get used.

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Would you, though? Or would you just toss it onto a pile and tell people it’s the pile you’re planning to donate when in reality, it just sits there collecting dust?

Sharptonguedwoman · 13/12/2025 20:49

MrsB2025 · 13/12/2025 20:47

Would you, though? Or would you just toss it onto a pile and tell people it’s the pile you’re planning to donate when in reality, it just sits there collecting dust?

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i’m a declutterer. Pile in the garage for charity, pile for the tip, soap in the cupboard for use. Tip and charity shop once a month or so.

Dollymylove · 13/12/2025 20:52

MrsB2025 · 12/12/2025 14:34

I throw loads of Christmas gifts away every single year. I feel terrible but I receive so much shit every fucking year. I don’t want presents but I can’t say that as it sounds miserable. But just tat. Clutter. Hand creams. Bath stuff (I don’t own a bath). Smelly stuff that smells like piss. I smile and pretend to be grateful every year. But it all goes in the bin.

Why not send it to the charity shop?

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