I’m watching four weddings and a funeral

[Frynye]

I’m watching four weddings and a funeral for the first time since I was about 15 and I have questions. When did everyone stop wearing hats to weddings and why are so many people (Carrie mainly) wearing white to weddings

Hugh Grant is absolutely delicious in this film.

Hats at weddings are very much still a thing in my community.

I love this film, have watched it recently and still enjoyed it very much

I watched it today too! The poem at the funeral is an emotional moment. My first boyfriend was from this type of crowd, around that same time. Feels very warm and familiar.

Fat? WTF? She wasn’t fat?!

I'm quite sad that hats are worn much less at weddings.

It used to be that all (or most) of the women at a wedding would wear a hat, but now seems limited to MoB / MoG / some Aunts and Grandparents.
Makes me sad, as I feel wearing a hat raises a wedding outfit to a much more special occasion.

Completely disagree. Far more delicious in Paddington. Love how he has aged naturally and doesn’t take himself the least seriously.

Though pretty scary and serious in The Heretic. He’s aging well.

IMO it is the finest film ever made.

I wear a hat pretty much every day in one form or another and for anything even vaguely celebratory I go all out with it. I LOVE hats and headpieces way more than shoes and handbags (although I love shoes and handbags a great deal too)!

I’ve had lots of hats and headpieces made for me over the years and I’ve never got rid of any of them. I’m also childless and so are my siblings so my favourite cousin will have a job on her hands sorting through all my gear when I’m gone 😂

Yes it was a portrayal of the British upper middle classes in all its quirks and eccentricities, designed to appeal to an American audience.

Not like any wedding I’ve ever been to but I bloody love the film x

It's weird how huge it was, when Carrie was just such an awful character! "Oh, is it still raining? I hadn't noticed." 🙄🤮 Great film though and, other than her, a truly fabulous cast.

People missed that Gareth and Matthew were gay?! There's a bit after the funeral when someone comments that they had been to lots of weddings but missed that two of them were effectively married. I was a relatively naive 15 year old but I got it! I was a bit stunned that the friends hadn't figured it out, or perhaps they hadn't realised the depth of their relationship?

I was always a bit shocked that David was a friend of them all, but no one apart from Charles (and the girl who has a crush on him) had learned to sign.

I did love the film though. I had many, many pictures of Hugh Grant on my bedroom wall.

I think that while it’s a period piece in a way, it’s aged far better than some other Richard Curtis films, like the perennially godawful Love, Actually or Notting Hill (in which Julia Roberts’ character behaves dreadfully to Hugh Grant throughout, and we keep encountering Rhys Ifans clad only in greying y-fronts).

Yes, I’m always baffled as to why Simon Callow’s character gushes about Carrie, and I’ve never believed for a second in her relationship with Corbin ‘Old Enough To Be My Father, plus a total wanker) Redgrave.

But I like Bernard and Lydia, and Scarlett’s knickers, and Fiona’s confession of love, and Nicola Walker as the folk singer at the first wedding.

You’re right about the signing, but maybe he was so awful no one wanted to communicate with him. My main memory of him is that, other than the crucial intervention at the Charles/Hen nuptials, is that he leers at Carrie and signs ‘Beautiful breasts’ outside the BFI.

When that came out I had been to loads of weddings over the past two summers. Some of them very similar to the ones in the film. I also had a fabulous yellow hat with the brim at the front flattened up which was a thing at rhe time.😂

She had lost the weight prior to the film's timeline

I’m not sure that not wearing white to weddings was a thing in the 90s. It’s one of those weird mumsnet things.

Always baffled me why Charles didn’t marry Fiona instead of Duckface, they’d have probably been quite happy and made it past the wedding.

Carrie only married horrible Hamish for his status/money? Her saying she loved him but yet telling Charles she would stop cheating on him once they were married was cold as anything. I don’t know what we were meant to like about her, I wanted him to marry Fiona.

Gareth and Matthew were my couple goals, their love seemed so easy and wonderfully free considering being out and gay still wasn’t hugely socially acceptable in the early 90s. I guess not so out since a lot of posters didn’t clock onto it 🤣

I still sometimes think of “Saint John Delaney” and laugh to myself

And the Holy Goat 🐐 😂

I always thought it was a selfish type of hat to wear to a wedding because it would block the view of several people behind her.

She wasn't a likeable character at all...it was the one bit which didn't "gel"

Rowan Atkinson was superb in this...his little side glances when he was congratulating himself on getting the wording correct.

I also went to a few weddings like these in the 90s

Those were the days!!

Four weddings and a funeral is 90s treat! Always enjoy it. Take it for what it is. A uk rom com of the time. Enjoy the nostalgia.

If you loved it, recommend Keeping Mum.,

Has to be the line "Is it raining? ... I hadn't noticed."

Worst line in cinema, worst delivery of a line.

I absolutely love this film. Watched it just on Sunday and I completely disagree with those who say it has aged badly. Even after all these years I can't watch the funeral scene without crying.

In keeping with the theme of the thread, I'm glad hats went out of fashion. I have a big head and hats never fit 😂