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Social housing on new build estates

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pangeapanda · 05/12/2025 13:03

I’m absolutely not looking for a bun fight on council housing tenants, we’re classed as living in affordable housing (shared ownership).

We live on a new build estate, it’s a mix of outright owned/mortgaged, shared ownership & social housing. From what I understand, a certain percentage of new homes have to be allocated for affordable housing or council housing. I imagine they’re moving away from building entirely socially housed ‘council estates’ now?

Half of the estate is houses, a line of part owned properties then quite a few blocks of social housing apartments. I guess my question is, why do they segregate the council tenants from the home owners? I thought they’d be more likely to pepper them throughout the estate now to avoid pockets of antisocial behaviour.

There’s a clear divide between the estate and one side is noticeably less nice. At the same time, some of the houses sell for nearly 500k so people might be apprehensive, rightly or wrongly, about buying where there may be a lot of turnover or perceived antisocial behaviour.

Is there a reason they lump all the affordable housing together then? And should it be considered a good thing?

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Squishedpassenger · 06/12/2025 10:24

TomorrowIsANewDay28 · 06/12/2025 10:20

@SquishedpassengerYou philosophise a lot. The bottom line is nobody wants to live with anti social neighbours and crime, regardless of background. Even the most left wing, bleeding heart’s sympathy and patience will wear thin if they have to live next to that.
As it happens, I was able to buy my way into a nicer area, so it doesn’t affect me anymore.
But people shouldn’t have to do that, and not everyone can. I really feel for the good people in my old neighbourhood who are stuck there. You’re basically saying poor people deserve to live surrounded by anti social behaviour and crime.
Have you ever lived next to anti social neighbours? Did you just accept it?

People shouldn't have to live in chaos but sadly our society has failed them so badly that they don't know how to do anything else.

Squishedpassenger · 06/12/2025 10:26

HeatonGrov · 06/12/2025 10:15

I have lived in my home for many, many years. It used to be quite a nice area. But the Council and HAs bought up properties and built new social housing in the area which has led to a steady decline. Not all Council/HA tenants are problematic but a disproportionate number of them are because of the way the Council allocate properties. Low income, large families, domestic violence (where the offending partner remains a regular visitor or moves back in) etc etc.

I would love to move, but I cannot afford to.

Ok well you are where you're meant to be. More houses were needed. They were built.

Squishedpassenger · 06/12/2025 10:28

HeatonGrov · 06/12/2025 10:16

So you will be in a well paid middle class kind of job I imagine.

Lol ok. It's a professional role, I'll give you that.

Interested in this thread?

Then you might like threads about this subject:

TomorrowIsANewDay28 · 06/12/2025 10:28

@SquishedpassengerYou still didn’t answer my question though - have you lived next to anti social neighbours and did you think “I’m where I need to be” and accept it?

Squishedpassenger · 06/12/2025 10:29

TomorrowIsANewDay28 · 06/12/2025 10:28

@SquishedpassengerYou still didn’t answer my question though - have you lived next to anti social neighbours and did you think “I’m where I need to be” and accept it?

I grew up in Tower Hamlets! Some if the undesirables lived in my home, let alone next door...

SpaceRaccoon · 06/12/2025 10:33

Squishedpassenger · 06/12/2025 10:24

People shouldn't have to live in chaos but sadly our society has failed them so badly that they don't know how to do anything else.

And do these people have any agency, can they maybe take some personal responsibility?
Perhaps in trying to be kind, we've been cruel.

TomorrowIsANewDay28 · 06/12/2025 10:33

@SquishedpassengerAnd were you Ok with it? Did you accept it and think “this is where I’m meant to be”?

HeatonGrov · 06/12/2025 10:34

Squishedpassenger · 06/12/2025 10:26

Ok well you are where you're meant to be. More houses were needed. They were built.

Could you expand a bit on this? I am not sure I quite understand what you mean? Was this my destiny? Written in the stars? Pre-ordained by a divine being to purge my soul for the next world? I quite like this last idea as it allows me some hope.

Or is it the result of a society which has become so “non judgemental” that we excuse and explain other people‘s bad/poor choices by saying they are the result of their poor upbringing and social background? We absolve them of all responsibility for their own actions and criticise those people who call them out for behaviours they could (and would) change if the privilege of access to social housing and receipt of state benefits were linked to them not making life a misery for their (usually tax paying) neighbours?

Squishedpassenger · 06/12/2025 10:36

SpaceRaccoon · 06/12/2025 10:33

And do these people have any agency, can they maybe take some personal responsibility?
Perhaps in trying to be kind, we've been cruel.

That's the thing. They have very little agency. Choices are only options if they are accessible. In some areas of their life, the most important areas, the people you are talking about have very few accessible choices. I understood that growing up in that environment but have a different depth of how it really works from a professional perspective. Especially as in my role, you do develop a sort of social rapport with the community alongside a professional one.

SpaceRaccoon · 06/12/2025 10:40

Squishedpassenger · 06/12/2025 10:36

That's the thing. They have very little agency. Choices are only options if they are accessible. In some areas of their life, the most important areas, the people you are talking about have very few accessible choices. I understood that growing up in that environment but have a different depth of how it really works from a professional perspective. Especially as in my role, you do develop a sort of social rapport with the community alongside a professional one.

They live in a country with free schooling, a welfare safety net, a roof over their heads, food, and free medical care. This is already a massive, massive advantage over most people globally.

I'm failing to see what isn't accessible for them. It sounds like more of a mindset thing.

I also suspect that there's a whole industry (and you sound like you work in the area) that actually make a living off the fact that there's a proportion of society who are dysfunctional.

Squishedpassenger · 06/12/2025 10:40

HeatonGrov · 06/12/2025 10:34

Could you expand a bit on this? I am not sure I quite understand what you mean? Was this my destiny? Written in the stars? Pre-ordained by a divine being to purge my soul for the next world? I quite like this last idea as it allows me some hope.

Or is it the result of a society which has become so “non judgemental” that we excuse and explain other people‘s bad/poor choices by saying they are the result of their poor upbringing and social background? We absolve them of all responsibility for their own actions and criticise those people who call them out for behaviours they could (and would) change if the privilege of access to social housing and receipt of state benefits were linked to them not making life a misery for their (usually tax paying) neighbours?

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You bought a home or rented it or whatever some time ago when it was in an area where there wasnt many SH residents, at least not enough for the number of undesirable tenants to be of notice.

Over time, our population has grown and we need more homes. Your area had the space to build new homes and so they were built. This increased the number of SH residents to a point where the number of undesirable tenants are now very noticeable.

The thing that hadnt changed is that this area is still the nicest area you can afford.

Squishedpassenger · 06/12/2025 10:42

SpaceRaccoon · 06/12/2025 10:40

They live in a country with free schooling, a welfare safety net, a roof over their heads, food, and free medical care. This is already a massive, massive advantage over most people globally.

I'm failing to see what isn't accessible for them. It sounds like more of a mindset thing.

I also suspect that there's a whole industry (and you sound like you work in the area) that actually make a living off the fact that there's a proportion of society who are dysfunctional.

I mean, no, NHS HCPs definitely do not profit from the additional needs of the lowest socioeconomic groups. Not when we are already understaffed and stretched beyond all imagination.

Squishedpassenger · 06/12/2025 10:43

TomorrowIsANewDay28 · 06/12/2025 10:33

@SquishedpassengerAnd were you Ok with it? Did you accept it and think “this is where I’m meant to be”?

Yeah obviously. I'm still there even now I have more choice. I could do my job anywhere in the country and many places around the world.

ViciousCurrentBun · 06/12/2025 10:55

@Bambamhoohoo A good place to look for stats plus as you know your own area you can then consider the data is on the interactive police crime stats map. I just checked areas of my town. There was a big clump of crime, turned out all shoplifting at the Co op on the council estate. Two ASB in the local High street and then 10 ASB on the local estate, violence and sexual offences had the majority on the estate.

TomorrowIsANewDay28 · 06/12/2025 10:55

@SquishedpassengerOk, so I guess that’s your choice. But you don’t get to tell others that they should put up and shut up, just because you’re used to living with appalling behaviour.

Greenh · 06/12/2025 10:57

Eastie77Returns · 06/12/2025 10:19

£400k a huge amount of money? It’s really subjective. When I was house hunting I would not have been able to buy a 1 bed flat with that budget. A 3/4 bed family home in the area of East London I was born in starts at around £800,000. The house I eventually bought cost considerably more than £400k and is probably the cheapest on my road. I couldn’t afford my childhood area and moved further out and am just still in London but on the border of Essex.

I love the peace and quiet where I live now. I was previously in a flat I bought outright via Shared Ownership in Hackney and unfortunately, as many have described, the level of anti-social behaviour from SH tenants was off the scale. The week I put my flat up for sale coincided with an uptick in criminality and my drug dealing neighbours car was burnt to the ground and left outside my property with a warning about “speaking to the fedz” spray painted onto his door.

Miraculously my flat still sold immediately as it is in a desirable area, close to the city. I cried with relief the day I handed keys to my buyer.

I often met leftie, idealistic in-comers in Hackney who waxed lyrical about the benefits of mixed development housing although they almost always lived in £1 million+ terraced houses within their little enclaves of gentrification. It’s so easy to accuse people who complain about SH tenants of snobbery when you personally don’t have to live amongst the chaos and misery anti-social residents inflict on others.

The last part of your post sounds like some on this thread 😂
I mean most of us were brought up in sh, I’m only early 20s and moved out of my mums sh house when I was 16 so we are talking less than ten years ago here. We’re “snobs” for acknowledging it’s understandable to be pissed off if you spend hundreds of thousands on a house and have to watch someone else across the street get the same house practically for free and then proceed to terrorise the neighbourhood.

I privately rent in the old part of town so I haven’t even got a dog in the homeowner vs sh tenant new build estate fight but the frustration is understandable

Bambamhoohoo · 06/12/2025 11:03

ViciousCurrentBun · 06/12/2025 10:55

@Bambamhoohoo A good place to look for stats plus as you know your own area you can then consider the data is on the interactive police crime stats map. I just checked areas of my town. There was a big clump of crime, turned out all shoplifting at the Co op on the council estate. Two ASB in the local High street and then 10 ASB on the local estate, violence and sexual offences had the majority on the estate.

I know how to look up crime stats

Bambamhoohoo · 06/12/2025 11:06

Greenh · 06/12/2025 10:57

The last part of your post sounds like some on this thread 😂
I mean most of us were brought up in sh, I’m only early 20s and moved out of my mums sh house when I was 16 so we are talking less than ten years ago here. We’re “snobs” for acknowledging it’s understandable to be pissed off if you spend hundreds of thousands on a house and have to watch someone else across the street get the same house practically for free and then proceed to terrorise the neighbourhood.

I privately rent in the old part of town so I haven’t even got a dog in the homeowner vs sh tenant new build estate fight but the frustration is understandable

You’re not a snob. You’re just trying to pull the ladder up after you.

thank god for bleeding heart lefties otherwise you never would’ve had any social housing to grow up in.

pulling the ladder up after you is a common reaction, emotionally rooted in shame.

Squishedpassenger · 06/12/2025 11:15

TomorrowIsANewDay28 · 06/12/2025 10:55

@SquishedpassengerOk, so I guess that’s your choice. But you don’t get to tell others that they should put up and shut up, just because you’re used to living with appalling behaviour.

I didnt say put up, I said be part of the change you want to see given that you have no other accessible choices but to live where you can afford.

MaloryJones · 06/12/2025 11:22

Greenh · 06/12/2025 09:03

How old are you? I’m early 20s my generation can barely move out I’m the only one in my friend group who has. Yeah we resent the worst type of scumbag seems always able to bag a cheap sh house (not saying all sh tenants are scumbags but there’s no denying a fair few are)

I am a SH Tenant and totally agree with You .
My own youngest DCs are still at Home ... no chance of them moving out in the foreseeable (which is ok by Me)

Greenh · 06/12/2025 11:24

Bambamhoohoo · 06/12/2025 11:06

You’re not a snob. You’re just trying to pull the ladder up after you.

thank god for bleeding heart lefties otherwise you never would’ve had any social housing to grow up in.

pulling the ladder up after you is a common reaction, emotionally rooted in shame.

I would have been fine mother privately rented for the first half of my childhood, it was only when we moved into a very nice house super cheap rent and neighbours who were completely scumbags that I realised some people get given shit for free and still destroy it. And I moved out as soon as I could (16) and privately rented my own place from 18. Now having to see council tenants pay barely anything for bigger houses than what I live in and still expect sympathy online crying that people are “snobs” for not wanting to live near their bs

Eastie77Returns · 06/12/2025 11:27

Bambamhoohoo · 06/12/2025 11:06

You’re not a snob. You’re just trying to pull the ladder up after you.

thank god for bleeding heart lefties otherwise you never would’ve had any social housing to grow up in.

pulling the ladder up after you is a common reaction, emotionally rooted in shame.

I’m confused: how is she trying to pull up the ladder? By renting a property?

Do you think I’m trying to pull up the ladder behind me by moving because I didn’t want to raise my two young children next door to a violent drug dealer whose firebombed car was left on my doorstep?

Last year a nine year old girl was shot in the head whilst sitting in a restaurant a few minutes from my old flat, caught up in the crossfire between feuding gangs. Are young families who now choose to leave the area “emotionally rooted in shame” because they’d prefer not to risk their child ending up dead at the hands of depraved individuals roaming the streets with guns?

Would you have liked to live next door to the gunman? He lived in a SH property in Tottenham, close to some of my family members, where members of his gang terrorise the mainly law abiding, peaceful residents on the estate. Presumably those residents also have unresolved issues of self-hatred if they want to leave as well🙄

Unpaidviewer · 06/12/2025 11:28

Squishedpassenger · 06/12/2025 09:23

It is if you can barely attend work due to lack of childcare or the isolation gives you such a poor quality of life that you end up mentally ill. And yes, divorce in military families is high!

There is limited research but in the study below divorce rates were lower than that of civilians?

Why would you barely be able to attend work? Over 60% of families with a 0-5 year old use formal childcare. They arent all barely attending work. As for isolation you are allowed to interact with non family members and make friends.

You talk about inequality and social mobility as a problem that requires no personal sacrifice or responsiblity. I got degree, a decent job and became a home owner because I made sacrifices and worked hard.

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Squishedpassenger · 06/12/2025 11:31

Eastie77Returns · 06/12/2025 11:27

I’m confused: how is she trying to pull up the ladder? By renting a property?

Do you think I’m trying to pull up the ladder behind me by moving because I didn’t want to raise my two young children next door to a violent drug dealer whose firebombed car was left on my doorstep?

Last year a nine year old girl was shot in the head whilst sitting in a restaurant a few minutes from my old flat, caught up in the crossfire between feuding gangs. Are young families who now choose to leave the area “emotionally rooted in shame” because they’d prefer not to risk their child ending up dead at the hands of depraved individuals roaming the streets with guns?

Would you have liked to live next door to the gunman? He lived in a SH property in Tottenham, close to some of my family members, where members of his gang terrorise the mainly law abiding, peaceful residents on the estate. Presumably those residents also have unresolved issues of self-hatred if they want to leave as well🙄

To be fair, those drugs gangs are selling to the new middle class market around there. The top dealers have moved out to places like Southgate but Tottenham and Hackney are still where they make the most money hence the feud. This type of thing didnt happen in the way that happened before Hackney "changed" (ie gentrification).

Bambamhoohoo · 06/12/2025 11:37

Eastie77Returns · 06/12/2025 11:27

I’m confused: how is she trying to pull up the ladder? By renting a property?

Do you think I’m trying to pull up the ladder behind me by moving because I didn’t want to raise my two young children next door to a violent drug dealer whose firebombed car was left on my doorstep?

Last year a nine year old girl was shot in the head whilst sitting in a restaurant a few minutes from my old flat, caught up in the crossfire between feuding gangs. Are young families who now choose to leave the area “emotionally rooted in shame” because they’d prefer not to risk their child ending up dead at the hands of depraved individuals roaming the streets with guns?

Would you have liked to live next door to the gunman? He lived in a SH property in Tottenham, close to some of my family members, where members of his gang terrorise the mainly law abiding, peaceful residents on the estate. Presumably those residents also have unresolved issues of self-hatred if they want to leave as well🙄

You’re not confused are you? You are well aware that not all SH tenants are the examples you provide.

pulling the ladder up is a common phrase, used to describe people happy to accept societal support when it benefits them but not wishing anyone else (who they view as less deserving) the same.

In fact they don’t even view them as less deserving- they, like you, view them as some big scary dangerous mass that must be stopped.

also seen in immigrants who are anti more immigrants

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