Is it time to walk away

[Ghlp]

Been seeing someone for eleven months. Met his friends but he still hasn’t told his son and daughter about me. Is it time to walk away

What age are they ?
Have you discussed this with him ?
Do you have children ?

In their thirties. Yes I have children and they know about him. We have discussed and there is always a reason why he can’t tell them know. Christmas being the latest one

Oh wow

I was expecting them to be children!

Whats the rest of your relationship like?

Get on well. This is causing an issue now though. He wants to up the frequency we see each other from the 3 nights we do at the moment but I want to decrease it because of this

Not sure why he feels the need to hide you but that would put me off.

Yep, he’d have given me the ick to the point of no return. Is there some weird secret he’s harbouring ? Could he have another partner ?

Is it possible that he's had a bad reaction from his children in the past when he's seeing someone? What reasons has he given for not telling them?

What are the reasons he's given so far?

Not seen anyone else. He is widowed and a stream of anniversaries so far and birthdays have been the excuses so far

I wondering if a ultimatum would push it one way or another

Has he been widowed for long ?
As pp said, could it be he fears his children’s reaction ?

There's no way I would stay with someone who only admitted to being with me after I gave them an ultimatum.

3 years

I think I’ll walk away