Trivial things your DH does that drives you nuts

[Femalefootyfan]

I was thinking about this while eating my dinner earlier because my runner beans were cold; DH had cooked and a lot of the time when he cooks something with veg, at least one of them is tepid or cold. That got me thinking about other things that, on the surface are quite trivial, but really bloody bug me.

He doesn’t rinse off the shower when he’s finished so there’s always a few stray hairs in the tray.

He leaves doors open; our house is quite cold until the heating has been on for about an hour, we also have two rooms that open off the kitchen, one doesn’t have a radiator and the other one has the radiator turned off. He’ll go into either or both rooms and leave the bloody doors open, making the kitchen even colder than it already is.

He says things like ‘yeah, I’ll do that’ then he doesn’t. When I remind him that X needs to be done, I’m nagging apparently 🙄

He’ll take my car without asking (he has his own car)

He agrees to things without checking with me that I’m ok to do it

He’ll switch the telly over the minute I’ve finished watching something even though we have a second telly that he can watch.

I can’t think of anymore right now and like I said, they’re trivial things but they are all regular occurrences and at times, drive me nuts but I generally don’t say anything because they seem so trivial and also, in so many ways, he’s a great DH.

I feel your pain. DH won't take paracetamol. Won't take a decongestant. Won't take Vitamin C. Won't increase his fluid intake. Won't have a soak in a steamy shower.

Basically won't do a single thing to alleviate his discomfort.

He’s pretty chill to be fair, and often I will wear my headphones. But I’m often singing around the house. And I’m very chatty, so yes, I’m not everyone’s cup of tea. 🤣

Oh, my husband is the same about spoilers! Even presents. I childishly like a "surprise" even though we do lists, but he will quite happily forget and tell me that he had trouble ordering X or similar, or that my mother will be getting me Y.

Oh I’d love him - I hate a surprise! 😂

The sigh! It's not just a sigh, it is a sigh that speaks a thousand words! He exhales every ounce of breath from his body in the most dramatic fashion.

Mine does this too.

One of the many things that irritate the shit out of me.

We're on a trip at the moment, a few days away.
When we're driving , he talks almost constantly. 'Look at that house, thats a beauty. Look at that ruin, that'd be a great project. Look at those hills, aren't they magnificent '.
Oh. My. God.
It reminds me of years ago, driving with my kids.

Of course I love him dearly, so it's a case of just going along with it...

Yes, the talking thing.

Then moans because i can't hear him.

I would have to LTB.

Leaves the kitchen cupboards open all the time
Slurps his tea because it's too hot but doesn't want to drink it when it's cooled down
Will clean, hoover, cook etc but do it all so slow and inefficiently that he may as well not bother
Asks me what's for dinner. Every. Day.

I love this thread even if it is a few months old! I have a few more annoyances to add -

Won't use the bath mat so the bathroom floor is always awash when he's finished his bath (not to mention slippery and dangerous).
Won't lift a finger in the garden unless I ask him a million times but as soon as something needs doing for his hobby, it's done immediately.
Never EVER wears anything different from t-shirt and jeans - I have bought him polo shirts, chinos, smart long-sleeved shirts, etc. which all remain in the cupboard.
Refuses to throw practically anything away - he is rather overweight but will not get rid of the clothes he will never wear again as they are too small!
Has taken over the lovely garden furniture I bought and sleeps on it whenever he can (not a nap - 2-3 hours!) so I can't make use of it myself.

Turns the light on as soon as he enters the room.
I've deliberately pulled the curtains and lowered the blinds as it's already 34° in Spain.
He asked me why I was sitting in the dark. According to him, I'll damage the dog's eyes.
Since doggo has done nothing but sleep for 2 months, I think it's unlikely

Oh god yes, the clothes thing 😡 my DH has two wardrobes crammed full, over half of which is too small & has been for years. I’ve stopped hanging his freshly ironed clothes in his wardrobe as they have to be crammed in & end up all creased again. My request that he has a good clear out & take to the charity shop fall on very deaf ears

Oh god , and mine! No, I am not going to trot eagerly back into the room you just saw me leave, to hear your precious words, because you have randomly decided to say something

Today, absolutely everything! Big shopping day, for the month. He had a dental appointment at 10am. So I planned what I was doing while he was there.
He decides we're leaving earlier now, tells me at the last minute, because we have to call somewhere else first, which isn't near where we do our shops. Rushed round to get ready. I did Poundstretcher as I needed a couple of things, then into the charity shop (after which I was planning a coffee next door while I waited for him). But no, he strolls into the charity shop, announcing he has the right date, wrong month.
Head to the first supermarket, I said why have we come to this one? He says because it's the one we always come to. I said no it isn't, it's the other one as it's better. Then we have a rant on the way to the usual one, about why we can't just use that one, which I have already explained a million times.
I did tell him I was worried about his memory, which went down like a lead balloon. Then various niggles, forgetfulness and bitching, too boring to go into.
But anyway, a nice carvery made up for it and the monthly shop is all done! 😁

Leaves his water glass in odd places & uses a new one as he forgets that he's put it somewhere

Sneezes very loudly

Puts things where I was putting mine. For example I put my slippers in a place that were out of the way when I put my outdoor shoes on. He will put his next to mine if they are already there, but if they aren't, he puts his in there instead! Small thing but really annoys me.

When he empties the dishwasher he puts some of the things in completely different spaces and I have to try and guess just where it is the next time I need to use it. Interestingly, if I then put the item away in that place, he then puts it elsewhere! Mind boggles

Keeps giving me the wrong cutlery at dinner. We have a round handled set which I don't like. I like our flat but rounded set, but each time he gives me the horrible ones. No one uses them really so we should just throw them away, but keep them just in case

Good job I love him really and he is helpful on the whole

Im sure there is LOADS I do which drives him mad, but we've been together almost 40 years..

Leaves so many things to soak. If he fries an egg or makes a white sauce, the pan needs to be left soaking overnight. Then he goes out in the morning leaving me to pour out the cold greasy water and wash his thing up.
Also (and this drives me insane) he won’t find the right envelope for a card, he’ll use any envelope even if it’s clearly much too big (I buy cards in packs, so often they’re not individually wrapped). This means there’s then no envelope of the right size left for the big cards.

I akeways get shirty when accused of 'nagging- if you did it the first time you said you'd do it, I wouldn't need to remind you, would ?!