Trivial things your DH does that drives you nuts

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I was thinking about this while eating my dinner earlier because my runner beans were cold; DH had cooked and a lot of the time when he cooks something with veg, at least one of them is tepid or cold. That got me thinking about other things that, on the surface are quite trivial, but really bloody bug me.

He doesn’t rinse off the shower when he’s finished so there’s always a few stray hairs in the tray.

He leaves doors open; our house is quite cold until the heating has been on for about an hour, we also have two rooms that open off the kitchen, one doesn’t have a radiator and the other one has the radiator turned off. He’ll go into either or both rooms and leave the bloody doors open, making the kitchen even colder than it already is.

He says things like ‘yeah, I’ll do that’ then he doesn’t. When I remind him that X needs to be done, I’m nagging apparently 🙄

He’ll take my car without asking (he has his own car)

He agrees to things without checking with me that I’m ok to do it

He’ll switch the telly over the minute I’ve finished watching something even though we have a second telly that he can watch.

I can’t think of anymore right now and like I said, they’re trivial things but they are all regular occurrences and at times, drive me nuts but I generally don’t say anything because they seem so trivial and also, in so many ways, he’s a great DH.

Oh gosh hair bobbles do seem to breed

He sprays a piece of kitchen roll with antibacterial spray, then ‘cleans’ everything with it until the paper disintegrates. I lifted my make up mirror off the shelf and could tell he’d been busy because I couldn’t see my face. The glass was completely opaque. There are more annoying things. Lots of ‘em. But I don’t want to get carried away😅

Oh god! Also this! WHY? I’m quite happy for him to watch whatever football, whilst I read my book. I DO NOT NEED a running commentary of “that should have been a penalty, watch it, see”…..”ref are you blind, Mrs Patmore did you see that?”….or “x player has whatever totally uninteresting fact about him”. SHUT UP AND WATCH THE SHITE YOU CHOSE!

LTB.

What is it with the cupboard doors open

I used to walk in the kitchen and say “poltergeist has been again”

I mean apart from basing your head on them!

Stamps on empty boxes rather than dismantling them flat to put in the recycling. They’re all lumpy and misshapen like his face will be if I see him doing it again

I’ve just remembered that before we lived together he had changed all the room doors to open out into the hallway to save space in the rooms - so again the hallway was a mass of open doors like the kitchen cupboards

so annoying!!!

This!

Oh no, I do that all the time....🤕😁

I will have just sat down to relax and he’ll look up from his phone and declare I have to read this interesting article, won’t tell me the gist of it, passes the phone and my heart drops as I can see its pages long and not as interesting to me as he finds it. When I say I’ll read it later or tell me, read a bit out he’ll get most annoyed. As if I’ve hurt his feelings in some way! He’ll do the same with phone messages ‘ look what X said’ and passes the phone! Just read it to me!

The abomination that is the kitchen.

All the cupboard doors open, all the jars on the tiny countertop, half an onion and 1/3 of a tin of tomatoes on the side (they're basically zero calories; just put them all into the sauce), the used teabags that have been carried past both the bin and the bloody carrier bag he hangs off the drawer handle because it's too hard to walk to the bin, the graveyard of broken electrical goods he leaves in his wake, the wooden spoons left in cold water in the sink, MY EXPENSIVE JAPANESE KNIVES PUT INTO THE DISHWASHER, the 'seasoning' he's baked onto my expensive pans, the alternate dimension where the different parts of the as yet unbroken appliances have teleported to, the tear in the flooring where he dragged the tumble dryer on one corner instead of letting the fucking castors do their thing, the three bottles of olive oil he's opened instead of waiting to use up the first - it's like a one man demolition squad.

I don't cook anymore because it's always in a mess. And then he moans that it takes him ages to clean it once it's got to the point where every surface is covered and stuff left open has to be thrown away. IT WOULDN'T BE AN ISSUE IF YOU CLEANED UP AS YOU WENT ALONG - and this is why I stopped doing anything because I'd spend my Saturday cleaning it and then he'd mess it up on the grounds that it was much better than before and doesn't need more cleaning.

But he accepts my abject refusal to do anything in there without complaint, does the washing, cleans the litter tray - everything. If only he realised that all he had to do was keep the kitchen clean when he uses it and he wouldn't end up doing everything.

It's the joys of ADHD. Mine in that I have to have order and processes, his in the exploded meth lab that used to be a perfectly normal and orderly, clean, kitchen.

It's a control over your time thing. It's quite common I think, they don't want you sitting doing nothing.

Tell him no every time he does it. Let him strop.

Rewinding what we are watching on TV to show me something, then rewinding too far back so I have to sit and rewatch all the stuff I’ve already watched to get to see the bit that I didn’t really want to see in the first place

I like food not touching and spaced away on a plate.

Mine chats to me when the radio is on very loud as well as his phone at full volume playing youtube

If my OH is telling a story he'll say " Jim turned round and said ....." "so Bob turned round and ......."

I have visions of all his friends twirling round like mad 😅

@gamerchick I agree, think he should’ve got the hint by now though!
@CrowsInMyGarden I get this too. Even if I say I don’t want/need to see it

Shouts across the house when he wants to find me or ask me something, instead of getting off his arse to come and talk to me face to face.

I’ve been teaching DD not to do this, explaining that it’s incredibly rude, and is more or less the same as saying “I can’t see where you are or what you’re doing but it can’t possibly be as important as listening to me so just drop everything and pay attention…”

Ive said it loudly, clearly and repeatedly in front of DH, but he still hasn’t taken the hint.

Puts the light on in the toilet during the day, then frequently leaves it on.
Doesn’t rinse toothpaste out of the sink.
Leaves coffee grounds in the sink when I’ve already cleaned it.
Leaves red wine stains all over the place. Just wipe the bottom or use a mat.
Offers to do a job but then doesn’t do it. If you’ve no intention of doing it, don’t say you will.

He says ‘done and dusted’ ( often!) about a completed task.
But I love him so would never tell him it annoys me 😂😂

Love this! My grandmother used to say this’ Bloody irritating! 😀😀😀

Doesn't come straight to the table when I say food is ready. He either slowly gets up and fannies about with his kindle or he goes for a piss. It's the same if I say "serving up now". I'm sitting there fuming because it's rude.

Frequently asks me "can you ring my phone" because he's put it down in some random place and can't remember where it is. Ffs set up Alexa find my phone and get her to ring it.

Puts some crap on the tv and then goes to the toilet for ages or he puts Youtube on the tv for the cat to watch (yes you've read that right) and buggers off to the toilet.

Always watching the True Crime channel as if it's the only one we have.

Off topic but I am a Splendoe addict. Do you play the online version? It's called Ephod.

Dh used to do this with dss.

And dss used to say ‘so you want to to sop what I’m doing to come to see you because you can’t be bothered to stop what your doing to come and see me’

That nailed it for ever!

Annoying stuff

Doesn’t rinse the shower out
puts pots in the sink not the dishwasher
puts clothes in wash even if they are clean and only been worn a few hours
spills crumbs and doesn’t wipe up
if the dog gets mud in the walls whilst being dried dh doesn’t wipe it up
assumes I will go to sports day/nativity etc
assumes I will visit in-laws with him even though he rarely sees my parents
doesnt Look after my car - oil etc
won’t get help for his mental health
will busy himself with jobs when ds wants entertaining
doesn’t do solo day trips with ds

But he is kind, supportive, very funny. He works hard to provide for us. Is a good cook, does all dog walks, gardening and tech issues.

This will really freak you out…….. there are 3 people who drive and only 2 vehicles in our house…… both vehicles just referred to as “the big one” or “the little one” 🤣