Trivial things your DH does that drives you nuts

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I was thinking about this while eating my dinner earlier because my runner beans were cold; DH had cooked and a lot of the time when he cooks something with veg, at least one of them is tepid or cold. That got me thinking about other things that, on the surface are quite trivial, but really bloody bug me.

He doesn’t rinse off the shower when he’s finished so there’s always a few stray hairs in the tray.

He leaves doors open; our house is quite cold until the heating has been on for about an hour, we also have two rooms that open off the kitchen, one doesn’t have a radiator and the other one has the radiator turned off. He’ll go into either or both rooms and leave the bloody doors open, making the kitchen even colder than it already is.

He says things like ‘yeah, I’ll do that’ then he doesn’t. When I remind him that X needs to be done, I’m nagging apparently 🙄

He’ll take my car without asking (he has his own car)

He agrees to things without checking with me that I’m ok to do it

He’ll switch the telly over the minute I’ve finished watching something even though we have a second telly that he can watch.

I can’t think of anymore right now and like I said, they’re trivial things but they are all regular occurrences and at times, drive me nuts but I generally don’t say anything because they seem so trivial and also, in so many ways, he’s a great DH.

He ties his dressing gown in a way that makes it shorter at the back than at the front. He likes to leave an equidistant gap between his products on the bathroom shelf. Perhaps I need to LTB 😂

Tea bags squeezed out and left on the draining board. Less than five foot from the kitchen bin. I may kill him. It's been 23 years of asking nicely.

He’ll take my car without asking (he has his own car)
He agrees to things without checking with me that I’m ok to do it
these two would really annoy them, but I’d fix it. It’s hard to change other people but these two you can control on your own. I’d take both car keys, or I’d take his car and see if he minded (if he didn’t I’d have to decide if I got over it or went to taking both of my car keys). With agreeing with things without checking don’t you just say no? I have already fixed this one. ‘Ohh I can’t do that though, you should have checked.’

Yes I get "they didn't have any" too!

On the rare occasions when he does the vacuuming, he will take the "head" bit off before he starts and ineffectively vacuum by just using the end of the pipe (where the head bit clips on). WHY? Drives me fucking insane, but I just let him get on with it.

I won’t drive his car and the keys for both cars are in the same place. Even if I did drive his car, I would never just take it without mentioning anything.

I’m getting better at saying ‘I can’t do that’ or ‘no, sorry, not for me’ I’m still a work in progress but trying to undo nearly 40 years of just going along with things for a quiet life….

My dh has his phone linked to the washing machine sonit pings him when the load is finished - maybe he needs that! (i could have it too but cba as I remember if I've put a wash on, and don't want the pinging if it's someone else's)

Oooh how DARE he????

What is it with men and folding wet towels. Mine does that too. It baffles me. How does he think it’s going to dry folded up?!

Rinsing his t shirt out in the shower while he is showering and thinking it’s washed

and not on holiday! At home

As well as stamping on cardboard boxes rather than folding them for recycling will launch into a diatribe about something that interests him which I couldn’t give two shits about. Think Bitcoin, Trump, Musk, political theory. I like Strictly and house music.

😂😂 not heard of that one!

I know! Bizarre

amd insisting it's washed!

Mine is very house trained, we have been living together for over 30 years. Although I often find him annoying he is tidy and doesn’t do things with wet towels or leave doors open. He finds me annoying because I am not as tidy, I leave doors open and move things or even worse relocate them.

He turns lights off, even if I have just left the room to put something away or answer the door. So big is his obsession that he is now changing all the lights to smart ones he can control from his phone.
He rearranges the dishwasher every night he is at home, to the extent that now I often just leave a heap beside it for him to put in. When he is not here which is often as he travels for work I stack the dishwasher and everything fits and comes out clean, but apparently his way is better, hence I leave him to it.
He is always right or knows better, he doesn’t and I will point this out when I can be bothered.

We used to have our own cars, and he was very particular about his, whereas mine was the family workhorse, and used all the time. He would never have taken mine without me knowing. Now we just have 2 cars, they each have their own plus points, he is no longer precious about either and we have a conversation each Sunday about who is doing what. They are both electric so we do have to plan the charging.

I do too! Its therapeutic.

Sometimes I rage recycle whereby I stamp whilst cursing our bastard council for replacing our massive recycling bin with their stupid piddly kerbie boxes That. Nobody. Wanted.

I stamp on boxes too. Most efficient way. I’m not strong enough to do it with my arms.

This made me laugh so much.
I mourn the loss of the laugh symbol.

🤣🤣

Clanks his cutlery on his plate. It's like a bloody percussion! 🙉😫

Pauses the TV when I walk into a room even if I'm breezing through, not because he's watching anything nefarious, just to be polite he says. Does my head in as I already feel like the home revolves around me and my decisions at times as the mum 😅 like I feel involved in so much I don't need to be involved in your telly watching please just continue.

He will also use a new bottle of fairy liquid when the previous one has 1/4 left and still sits by the sink ... why my love why 😆

Please tell me you are planning to get the lights app and turn lights off in the room he is sitting in

I doubt the keys are concreted in place. Nor do they weigh 20kg. Put one pair in your bag and one in a drawer. He can ask you to use your car

but like I said these are things in your power to change, and you are choosing not to.

We are now on Day 2 of DH's Performative Coughing & Throat Clearing. I've just overheard him earnestly inform the Amazon delivery bloke that 'I'm really full of cold.'

FFS.

Genuine suggestion (but it's pathetic that it has to come to this): Have you tried colour coded towels? Years ago when all the children lived at home everyone got mad at my then husband's habit of just taking a towel. We had a motley selection of colours and some patterns, and everyone else seemed to understand that "I picked a red towel, and I hung it here, and I remember that it's mine" as a system, but he just didn't. "I forgot which one was mine" - constantly. So everyone got a colour, and only used those towels. Worked! Remembering that "mine is red!" was apparently easy!

@Arramintai feel your pain. My DH has a cold going on. I came home from work yesterday to find him huddled on the downstairs sofa in a blanket coughing, snoring & generally being sad and sharing his germs. It took me 30 mins of nagging before I got cross with him and told him to go to bed where he slept from 30pm through to this morning.
I honestly am not upset he’s ill but don’t be dramatic. Get yourself to bed and get the rest you need.
I slept downstairs to avoid getting poorly so fingers crossed.
he is of course well enough to work today (I don’t actually think he is but he thinks they can’t survive without him) 🙄