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Would you go away for 3 weeks when pets are elderly?

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Curlewwoohoo · 23/11/2025 21:02

We want to go to New Zealand to stay with my dad and go travelling around, either next Christmas or the one after. I went 20yrs ago. Kids have never been. We probably won't go again. These years work well for us with the kids ages, before we get into exams etc. I'm also keen to go while my dad has his fitness and health and is still able to do things with us. We'd go for 3 weeks.

My issue is our pets. Ddog is 14 and has gastric issues, arthritis, no teeth, very short walks only and I'm currently home cooking for him after a few difficult weeks, all this said he seems happy currently. Dcat is 18 and is diabetic, I inject insulin twice a day and generally keep an eye for signs of hypo or hyper, but is also happy and otherwise well.

I can't decide whether to book our trip for Xmas 2026 because pets are currently both as well at they will ever be. We would look to keep them at home and use a pet sitter and a combination of friends and family. It feels like there is a risk of having to cancel if they're ill and no one can care for them. Or do I wait until 2027 thinking that probably they will not be here by then. If they are though, then there's more risk of having issues with their care.

Obviously I love them and want to do the right thing by them, as well as making this trip ... At some point!

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SheSpeaks · 24/11/2025 12:54

People before pets, to me.

And yes I have pets. That I love. I’ve had 14-15 pets that I really loved like family so far, who are now dead. Ive also experienced the death of my parents. I have new pets. I don’t have new parents.

Newsenmum · 24/11/2025 12:55

Personally I would. My elderly parents who may not be here tomorrow are more important than my pets (but that’s just me). Id spend a lot of money finding someone to come to the house and accept they may die when Im away. But I say this as someone who’s lost parents.

Newsenmum · 24/11/2025 12:55

SheSpeaks · 24/11/2025 12:54

People before pets, to me.

And yes I have pets. That I love. I’ve had 14-15 pets that I really loved like family so far, who are now dead. Ive also experienced the death of my parents. I have new pets. I don’t have new parents.

I agree and quite surprised by so many of the responses.

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Newsenmum · 24/11/2025 12:57

It’s either your dad dying before you get there and you know he’s sad you didnt come or worrying about your pets and accepting they might die when youre away. Only you can decide.

snoopythebeagle · 24/11/2025 12:57

Newsenmum · 24/11/2025 12:55

Personally I would. My elderly parents who may not be here tomorrow are more important than my pets (but that’s just me). Id spend a lot of money finding someone to come to the house and accept they may die when Im away. But I say this as someone who’s lost parents.

I don’t think people are saying pets before people - they’re saying elderly, unwell pets before healthy people, which is a very different thing.

Edit - sorry, I quoted the wrong poster.

snoopythebeagle · 24/11/2025 12:58

SheSpeaks · 24/11/2025 12:54

People before pets, to me.

And yes I have pets. That I love. I’ve had 14-15 pets that I really loved like family so far, who are now dead. Ive also experienced the death of my parents. I have new pets. I don’t have new parents.

I don’t think people are saying pets before people, though - they’re saying elderly, unwell pets before healthy people, which is a very different thing.

FastFood · 24/11/2025 13:06

I wouldn't. I didn't leave home for 2 years when my dog was old, but I booked 8 weeks away not long after he died.

SeaAndStars · 24/11/2025 14:35

SheSpeaks · 24/11/2025 12:54

People before pets, to me.

And yes I have pets. That I love. I’ve had 14-15 pets that I really loved like family so far, who are now dead. Ive also experienced the death of my parents. I have new pets. I don’t have new parents.

You can get a new pet but you can't get a new 'that' pet.

tinyspiny · 24/11/2025 16:46

SheSpeaks · 24/11/2025 12:54

People before pets, to me.

And yes I have pets. That I love. I’ve had 14-15 pets that I really loved like family so far, who are now dead. Ive also experienced the death of my parents. I have new pets. I don’t have new parents.

That maybe how it is for you and for some people but not for me

Livpool · 24/11/2025 20:20

CrowsInMyGarden · 24/11/2025 12:46

@Livpool My son is not lonely

Fair enough but this may cause issues in your relationship

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