AIBU to not want my and day spoiled by naughty nephew?

[Jollyvibes]

Hey,

I know I’m probably being a diva so please be blunt with me!

we have ended up hosting some of dh’s family for Christmas dinner this year. No issue with that, however this includes dh’s sister, her DH and their ds 5- our nephew.

nephews behaviour is appalling - rude, defiant, screams, hits and generally creates absolute chaos everywhere he goes. His parents are big part of the problem imo as they are way too tolerant and well on egg shells around him, however I guess that’s their business.

So… I’m a bit pissed off that my Christmas Day was an almost certainly going to involve some of his behaviour, I enjoy Christmas and really need the break this year. Aibu to not want to have to put up with this on Xmas day

You say people but what you really mean is women

Yep!! Start woman-ing properly @Jollyvibes and everyone else and make yourself unhappy to allow other people to ride roughshod over you!! It’s mind over matter,they don’t mind and to them you and your needs don’t matter!

Sadly it seems like this is the general consensus on this thread 😥
Genuinely shocked...AIBU? Erm Yes, IN MY OPINION, Also being disrespectful, judgemental, ignorant, self absorbed, selfish ....
When I saw original post ,WOW really potential age related behavioural problems and parenting choices ruining a family Christmas !
Who would actually need to ask? Who would encourage or agree?
Unless I have misread the thread.... misread that 'since his diagnosis......'
WOW Wow and WOW!

when I married my dh I had the philosophy that I married into his family as well and vice versa so I see it as my role to accept irritating behaviour from any relation within reason.

Mumsnet is a great place to vent, and I empathize- but I think if you can’t bear the kid then you shouldn’t offer to host.

If you have to host then you have to just accept it. Only your DH can say something as it’s his side. But chances are that it will create a rift.

you do have some options - you could ask what the parents think about how to include the child in Xmas dinner? Do they want him at the table and then maybe nudged into watching a dvd so parents can relax? Some way of working with them positively?

good luck and I feel your pain. My sister in law gets smashed at every family do, behaves really badly and no one says anything because she’s a medical consultant and is beyond criticism. She always slightly ruins my pleasure because she’s so vulgar and badly behaved. But she’s family - not my place to check her pissed up obnoxious behaviour.

Good luck with it all.