What does this school mum actually think the rest of us are queuing for??

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In general I arrive at my child’s school for pick up about 5 minutes before the playground gate is opened. Not on purpose, it just happens that sometimes the walk is quicker than others. Sometimes I’m the first one there, sometimes there are a few people in front, and others join the queue behind me.

One particular mum will turn up bang on collection time (fine) and just walk past the queue of people patiently waiting and stand right in front of the gate.
As if we aren’t all there for the same reason.

It actually baffles me that she seems to think that her need to collect her child is any greater than the rest of us, but so far haven’t said anything because I can’t be arsed with any playground drama, although yesterday I was tempted to side step in front of her just as the gate was open.

is this not just straight up rude behaviour?

Maybe she doesn’t realise? Point it out to her

I would actually find that quite annoying if someone kept skipping the queue. Did you end up saying something to her? I would even just say something along the lines of 'hi, you'll need to go and join the queue'

so it really doesn’t matter that people who aren’t involved in the queue don’t

except it does matter to you, because she isn't joining in your performative queuing and you are apparently wound up about it.

You asked what she thinks you are all queuing for. the answer is that she - very correctly- thinks you are queuing for absolutely no reason at all. hence she doesn't join in.

Thats your answer, take it or leave it.

Performative queuing 😂😂😂

I honestly couldn’t get worked up about this.

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yeah love, dad is usually at work earning the money to pay for your new hairdo, your nails, your latest posh frock or whatever else BS women can come up with to waste money

OP. We really do need a diagram 🙏😬. Just draw one so the people arguing with you can understand your very clear post.

There’s a queue and she jumps it. 🤪.

I would find this rude too.

Maybe next time you’re at the front - you can ask her (all smiles and surprise) if she’s queue jumping because she’s in a rush? In which case, you’d be delighted to let her jump in front of you - as long as everyone else in the QUEUE is happy with that ? 🤷‍♀️🤔 🫣

I’ve done this at drop off because I have a SEND child with background of trauma (previously in care).
Because she gets v dysregulated (has many diagnosis) getting her into school is a challenge at the best of times, there’s absolutely no way we are going to stand in a queue when she has an early drop off as part of new reasonable adjustments. .
Also, I drop her off early so in theory those parents are there ten mins too early.
I obviously can’t explain myself there and then so have no choice but to jump the queue.
I don’t really care either, as a parent of a child with a background of trauma I wish I had the luxury of worrying what other parents think of me, especially when many haven’t been as kind or inclusive as they could have been.
Maybe this woman is just entitled but just posting to give another viewpoint.

I known I’ve done things like this before by not realising it’s a queue. I often get things like this wrong. I know that people queue for things that are may be finite and for the best position etc but I wouldn’t have classed getting in to school for pick up as a queue - whether you’re first or twentieth in when the gate opens makes no difference to the time when you collect your child, doesnt it depend when your child gets out of the classroom? I suppose it’s that she’s not followed the etiquette.

All of these posters who don’t see the point of queueing to walk through a gateway or doorway or anything really that’s too narrow to accommodate all the people needing to use it at the same time, what are you doing? Elbowing your way through life? Barging your way through because you don’t see why you should have to wait? What happens if there’s a group of people that are so like minded? Does the one with the sharpest elbow go first? Is it the same when you drive or do you queue in traffic? Do you need something to be law in order to follow it? It seems a very ignorant frame of mind.

But your situation is nothing like the OP's situation - for one thing, the other woman hasn't got a child with her (or at least the OP doesnt say that she does), and she is talking about pick up time, not drop off.

Not comparable at all

I know you will find this incredible, but with a little bit of eye contact, it’s amazing what can be achieved in terms of people getting safely through a doorway or gate without shoving others out of the way, even when there is no queueing involved. Even more incredibly, I suspect that is how people are leaving after collecting their children, as the OP doesn’t mention a rugby scrum on departure…

I actually don’t doubt you get your way through life with ‘a little bit of eye contact’ the majority queue accordingly. If OP was so outlandishly unreasonable to queue then there wouldn’t be a queue. But there is and it’s highly doubtful everyone is wrong to queue and this one person has correctly identified that lack of need to queue as opposed to decided it doesn’t apply to them. They might have amazing eye contact, but that is still rude and entitled.

Seen this post before

Or alternatively, they don’t perceive it to be a queue, just a line of people who don’t want to make eye contact or talk. It is not outlandishly unreasonable not to join a line of people when there is no actual need to.

Departure doesn’t have the same amount of people leaving at once as arrival does.
some parents are going on to pick up at the infants school, some are hanging around to let their kids play for a bit, some are leaving through the main gate, some are simply still waiting for their child to come out of the classroom whilst others have already left, so no - no queue necessary for leaving.

A line of people standing in front of a locked gateway is so clearly a queue you would have to be quite pig headed to perceive it as anything else.

This is so obvious it shouldn’t even need explaining again.

A line is the slowest way to get all people through. Unless everyone starts moving exactly after the previous person started, it accumulates delay. You can see it at traffic lights.
It's inevitable with cars, but people can do better.

A dispersed crowd just starts slowly moving into the gate when it is open, everyone at their own speed, it doesn't matter if someone wants to finish a message and put the phone away first or has a distracted baby with them. As people get to the bottle neck they effectively zip, someone slows down for a step and so on. No need to use elbows, just a bit of common sense.

It sounds like the majority are using their common sense and queuing.

The one without common sense is skipping the queue.

Baffled at the idea that people can't walk orderly through a gateway unless they stand in a line first 😂

Walking through a single width gateway in an orderly way is walking in a line, it’s not such a baffling stretch of the imagination
to start off in one. But perhaps for you it is.

So you queue because there is a queue - and for no other reason or purpose? Except possibly to avoid communicating with other human beings to walk through a door?

Bin the British Values test or whatever it is that immigrants have to pass - just have them read this thread and they will learn everything they need to know 😂