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Why do people want monstrously big houses?

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pumpkinscake · 18/11/2025 21:26

Well, some people. I'm watching the beast in me on Netflix, and wondering why anyone would want such large houses? I don't see the point. No matter how much money I had. Now, I don't want a studio apartment either, but surely, one spare room for guests, a utility room, a home office. After that what's the point? I see large houses on the market, most people have small families, just seems such a pointless waste of space.

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Gardenalia · 22/11/2025 11:58

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 21/11/2025 09:57

A relative of dh with a huge place in France wanted huge rooms to hang all his huge art in.

This, I understand and respect

RosesAndHellebores · 22/11/2025 12:06

nightswimming1 · 22/11/2025 10:47

That isn’t a realistic floor plan for 3,500 sq ft. Hence the fact people have large houses :)

Can you explain that please we have 3500 and sounds about right to me if the pp is repurposing bedrooms for other things.

Boot room and utility
Family/garden/dining room
onto kitchen
Entrance hall
Dining room
Study/music room
Drawing room
6 beds, 3 baths

Littlemissweepy · 23/11/2025 10:19

nightswimming1 · 22/11/2025 10:47

That isn’t a realistic floor plan for 3,500 sq ft. Hence the fact people have large houses :)

I can assure you it is. I live in it after a 2 year reno.

RomeoRivers · 23/11/2025 12:46

I can understand why PP said it wasn’t realistic as ours is 3000sqft and I couldn’t fit all that in, but then we have very large rooms.

The street next door has huge houses several times larger than ours and I could definitely fill those spaces.

We currently have 3DC but I would like more, plus a guest room, all with en suites. Currently our playroom doubles up as the gym, so I would like to have those separate. I would like at least 2 downstairs W/Cs as we host a lot, particularly one near the garden for BBQs. I would like 2 self contained annexes for elderly parents/ family from abroad/ eventually adult DC. I would like an upstairs laundry room with those drying cupboards, as seems far more practical than the ground floor utility. I would like a walk in pantry to store bulk buys and an additional holiday room upstairs for suitcases and packing (I used to use the spare room for this, but have since filled it with another dc and really miss it! 😂)

Littlemissweepy · 23/11/2025 20:36

We have pretty large rooms too but at least 500 more square feet to fit it into, and I have one less child and they are too old for a playroom. 13ft ceilings so lots of high storage, and a floored attic I count as storage but not in square footage. It’s maybe a bit more, I’m I haven’t had it measured since we extended so I’m just estimating and rounding. We turned a 6 bed into 4 (1 into a home office and 1 into an en-suite). Flattened the garage and replaced it with garden rooms for the second home office, a gym and storage space.

Anyway, I don’t know why I am trying to convince people I don’t know to believe me! My point was, I don’t aspire to live in anything bigger / more “monstrous” than 3,500 ish as that fits all I want and need in a house. Anything bigger would be excess space (to me) and more to clean etc. Though I had never even thought of things like having a holiday room for packing suitcases - maybe I need more imagination!

ThisTicklishFatball · 11/12/2025 03:24

I lay awake at 4 a.m., lost in overthinking.

It’s a very British instinct to look at someone else’s big house and conclude they must be morally defective.
We pretend it’s about ‘waste of space,’ but really it’s our national sport: quietly judging other people’s square footage while pretending we’re above such things.

Some people like big houses for the same reason others like tiny cottages with ceilings so low you need to duck to think — personal taste, comfort, hobbies, noise levels, teenagers, in-laws, or simply because they can.
Not every spare room is a shrine to greed; sometimes it’s just storage, sanity, or somewhere to hide from your own family.

And calling it ‘pointless’ feels a bit rich in a country where half of us hoard Tupperware lids that fit absolutely nothing.
Humans are not known for perfectly rational use of space.

You don’t have to want a mansion — most people don’t — but liking one doesn’t automatically signal moral decay.
Some people want vineyards, some want allotments, some want a boot room the size of Wales.
That’s the joy of choice.

If anything, it’s very on-brand for Britain that the real outrage isn’t about corruption or tax policy, but the possibility that someone, somewhere, might have a dining room they don’t use every day.

At the end of the day, other people’s houses only become a ‘problem’ when we start mistaking our personal preferences for universal morality — which, funnily enough, is far more cramped than any mansion.

OrangesCinammonIvy · 11/12/2025 10:16

@FullLondonEye I get you I had similar our house wasn't small but wasn't large but I also needed that distance thankfully I had a strange back door near my room I could escape through

Op I don't get it either what I would like is boot laundry , proper dining room and two extra bathrooms

OrangesCinammonIvy · 11/12/2025 10:19

@ThisTicklishFatball I'm not envious at all I genuinely would not want a huge house even if won euros.

I've lived in some huge places and they need filling if you have DC and staff great but otherwise people gravitate to one room

Remeber tori spelling spent her time in the kitchen and her bedroom in one of the worlds largest mansions

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 28/04/2026 12:45

A relative of dh has a seriously huge place in France. Not the only reason, but he wanted huge walls for his art collection containing a LOT of huge canvasses.

He told me quite a few years ago that the cost of heating oil alone was €50k a year. 😱

pumpkinscake · 28/04/2026 18:28

ThisTicklishFatball · 11/12/2025 03:24

I lay awake at 4 a.m., lost in overthinking.

It’s a very British instinct to look at someone else’s big house and conclude they must be morally defective.
We pretend it’s about ‘waste of space,’ but really it’s our national sport: quietly judging other people’s square footage while pretending we’re above such things.

Some people like big houses for the same reason others like tiny cottages with ceilings so low you need to duck to think — personal taste, comfort, hobbies, noise levels, teenagers, in-laws, or simply because they can.
Not every spare room is a shrine to greed; sometimes it’s just storage, sanity, or somewhere to hide from your own family.

And calling it ‘pointless’ feels a bit rich in a country where half of us hoard Tupperware lids that fit absolutely nothing.
Humans are not known for perfectly rational use of space.

You don’t have to want a mansion — most people don’t — but liking one doesn’t automatically signal moral decay.
Some people want vineyards, some want allotments, some want a boot room the size of Wales.
That’s the joy of choice.

If anything, it’s very on-brand for Britain that the real outrage isn’t about corruption or tax policy, but the possibility that someone, somewhere, might have a dining room they don’t use every day.

At the end of the day, other people’s houses only become a ‘problem’ when we start mistaking our personal preferences for universal morality — which, funnily enough, is far more cramped than any mansion.

Well. I'm not British. Just think that it is genuinely pointless to have a huge house. Unless you have a huge family.

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Satisfiedwithanapple · 28/04/2026 19:30

ThisTicklishFatball · 11/12/2025 03:24

I lay awake at 4 a.m., lost in overthinking.

It’s a very British instinct to look at someone else’s big house and conclude they must be morally defective.
We pretend it’s about ‘waste of space,’ but really it’s our national sport: quietly judging other people’s square footage while pretending we’re above such things.

Some people like big houses for the same reason others like tiny cottages with ceilings so low you need to duck to think — personal taste, comfort, hobbies, noise levels, teenagers, in-laws, or simply because they can.
Not every spare room is a shrine to greed; sometimes it’s just storage, sanity, or somewhere to hide from your own family.

And calling it ‘pointless’ feels a bit rich in a country where half of us hoard Tupperware lids that fit absolutely nothing.
Humans are not known for perfectly rational use of space.

You don’t have to want a mansion — most people don’t — but liking one doesn’t automatically signal moral decay.
Some people want vineyards, some want allotments, some want a boot room the size of Wales.
That’s the joy of choice.

If anything, it’s very on-brand for Britain that the real outrage isn’t about corruption or tax policy, but the possibility that someone, somewhere, might have a dining room they don’t use every day.

At the end of the day, other people’s houses only become a ‘problem’ when we start mistaking our personal preferences for universal morality — which, funnily enough, is far more cramped than any mansion.

It is a very British thing to snipe at others for being ‘British’ just for having an opinion that you don’t agree with. Yawn.

HauntedBungalow · 30/04/2026 22:07

I sometimes wonder if these discussions are planted by the likes of Persimmon to normalise the idea that desiring anything other than their tiny overpriced boxes is decadently wasteful and inherently BAD.

pumpkinscake · 01/05/2026 05:34

HauntedBungalow · 30/04/2026 22:07

I sometimes wonder if these discussions are planted by the likes of Persimmon to normalise the idea that desiring anything other than their tiny overpriced boxes is decadently wasteful and inherently BAD.

I'm not sure who Persimmon are, some sort of development company I suppose. Only fruit came up when I googled! I started it for the reasons I have in my post. Watching TV, someone lived in an absolutely gigantic house, and I wondered why people wanted this. Along the way in the thread I admitted I didn't have a definition of a huge house. I suggested that maybe enough bedrooms for everyone plus a spare for guests A utility room, and a home office. Much beyond that seemed pointless to me. But obviously not to others as this thread shows. It was light-hearted really.

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