Husband said I'm a sorry mother

[Jessicarodgers]

I got my 10 year old up for school this morning,he decided he was going to wear shoes that tie but they was in a knot so I told him to get his warm boots since it was 21 degrees and he refused so he woke up my husband and told him I wouldn't get the knot out so he did so then he comes back down stairs puts the shoes on and then wants me to tie them for him,I continued to tell him to put the warmer shoes on so he refuses and then goes and tells my husband I won't do anything so my husband ties his shoes for him.While he was tying his shoes I heard my husband say I was a sorry momma.Im now hurt sad and crying.I have been told I'm sorry and would never amount to anything all my life and now I hear the same from my husband of almost 6 yrs.

So you did mean 21° centigrade?

I suspect there is more to this than just untying a knot. It sounds like you resent your husband for not understanding your bipolar for a start...

We go by F not C

Well for one he can't be missing school because he's sick because he didn't wear warm clothes.He don't make good choices.

Well for one he can't be missing school because he's sick because he didn't wear warm clothes.He don't make good choices.

Illnesses are caused by the transmission of bacteria and viruses. Simply being cold does not make you sick.

Actually just working on this with my dyspraxic 10yo....he's starting to get the hang of it.

Not all children manage this early on. I did, but we are all different.

OP claims to be in Tennessee, where it is currently about 20C around midday, with cooler temperatures - 10-15C in the early morning and late evening.

I would wear regular trainers - not ‘warm boots’ - in those temperatures. I would wear regular trainers in much cooler temperatures. Wouldn’t you?

Exactly. The place/temperature doesn't make sense in farenheit.

https://www.google.com/amp/s/abcnews.go.com/amp/US/1st-major-snow-season-extreme-cold/story%3fid=127411936

https://eu.knoxnews.com/story/weather/2025/11/11/east-tn-school-closings-delays-tuesday-nov-11-snow-cold-weather-see-list/87196238007/

I'm not sure people's detective skills are loads better than their comprehension skills.

It does me I have to stay in all winter long.

It does me I have to stay in all winter long.

You get ill more frequently in winter because you spend more time indoors in close proximity with other people, so you are more likely to catch viral/bacterial illnesses from them. Being physically cold has absolutely nothing to do with it.

You are right to be hurt and sad. Your husband was really unkind in what he said ESPECIALLY if he knows your history. It is neither supportive or helpful as it has shown your child he can play you both off.

Secondly, you need to relax a bit. If you're struggling with your child not listening now... You re in for a bumpy ride in teenage years. You will really struggle in the teenage stage because they literally switch off.

I would encourage you choose your battles. Sometimes you have to let them figure out for themselves that you were in fact right about putting boots on! Let them do their thing.

I would have a conversation with your husband about being more supportive in situations like this. Because your triggers from childhood will disrupt your parenting.