My female friend has become an escort

[BeGiddyBiscuit]

Hello all

im just here for some advice

I’m 54 I have a female friend who is 36 , a single mother to to girls

she is/was a student nurse and has just qualified in September

she is now entitled to take a degree but needed to pay £740 to secure the place

she always struggled with money as a single parent and student nurse

she has now told me in that she is now escorting to pay for the course and to make herself financially stable

I am heartbroken and very anxious

obviously I am worried about what she is doing

I was trying different ways to warn her off escorting

I mentioned her nursing career and she told me it didn’t matter as as long she did her escorting and not link it to her job or do it on sick days she would be fine as escorting is legal
is this correct ?

also I told her she would probably have to pay tax. She is registered with adultwork.
she told me she would need to pay tax or declare anything as there were ways around it
is this also correct ?

im trying to find to find ways to discourage her , but failing as she’s made her made her up and she now realises how much money she can make , £2100 for one weekend and weekly trips to Europe for 5000 plus

I feel she is throwing everything away,

Any advice would be appreciated

thx

What’s the difference between being an escort and prostitution? I’m not clear.

No difference as such but the word prostitute is a rather Victorian term and rarely used. Escort suggests somebody working independently although a minority use an agency.

Let’s call it what it is .

Is your random name change mid thread because you are the ‘friend’?

Your student/qualified nurse story and career change is just odd.

I would suggest that your ‘friend’ has a look at the nursing code of conduct. She’s being very silly.

Even 10/10 mercenary sugar babes/escorts with lots of experience, great business heads and the right contacts aren’t making that sort of money by any stretch of the imagination lol

I doubt the sincerity of your "concern" OP. If so, you wouldn't be so worried about how much tax she pays.

I think you’ve posted a fair amount of identifying info OP. Forgetting your original question, if I were your friend I’d be livid.

This rings bells about a local paper report from about 15 years ago. A woman who had a lowly nhs admin job also was doing some low level cam girl / only fans type work om the side.

Her employer found out and she was had up on a disciplinary for bringing the nhs inyo disrepute or something similar. Worse still, the disciplinary was heard in public and reported on.

Personally i was appalled, thought it was no ones business but her own but there you go.

Lots of prostitutes register for and pay tax and put themselves down on the self employment description as "actress" or "model", both of which can be actually pretty accurate descriptions of their "business" really.

As for expenses, quite a lot can be claimed for, such as "use of home", travel costs, uniform/clothing (as long as it's not the kind of stuff you'd wear in normal life), proportion of telephone/internet, advertising/website commission, cosmetics/perfume, personal care such as hairdressing, nails, botox, etc insofar as it's for the "business" not personal, wigs, healthcare costs (tests etc relating to the "job"), etc.

It maybe a bit on the high side, but there are plenty of "high class" escorts who charge a lot. I know someone who has a fixed "overnight" charge of £900 and a fixed "daytime charge" of £550, so that's £1,450 for 24 hours, so, £2,900 for an entire weekend. Then there's travel costs on top of that if she has to travel out of her own town and hotel/meal costs if the client wants her to arrange the accommodation and food/drinks. And extras if the client wants her to wear specific clothing, or her hair in a specific style, or specific jewelry that she has to finance.

£5k for a trip to Europe is entirely within the realms of possibility if it includes travel time, flights, subsistence, etc.

It's a VERY different World from the back streets where there are people offering £50 for a blow job down a back alley!

It's not that different.

Prostitution is prostitution

https://www.liverpoolecho.co.uk/news/liverpool-news/sacked-nhs-worker-who-led-11782278

I was imagining a young woman. She is middle aged and overweight!

she won unfair dismissal but She asked for 90,000 pounds and only won 1000 pounds though. So what dis she win really

I know nothing about these things, but:

surely there’s a difference between having worked as a prostitute before teaching or nursing, and doing that while employed as a teacher or nurse. (I mean on the same day/week/ month, not prostituting yourself to patients/students, obvs.)

Well not much. Clearly thr trust messed up in their dismissal procedure, but i thjnk the takeaway is that she could be dismissed for "bringing the ,trust into disrepute".

I wasnt aware at the time she'd gone for unfair dismissal, i was only aware of her initial dismissal. I could understand it if she was in a clinical role, but she wasn't.

Really surprised at the amounts she’s claiming to be earning as a mid 30s mum. She must have some USP!

@BeGiddyBiscuit I'm a little confused. Did your friend train in the UK ? As all Registered Nurses are degree level now.

I doubt if you looked at the hourly rates on adultwork website it wd even resemble these figures.