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will you have another baby if the two child limit is scrapped?

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Itsmetink · 06/11/2025 14:59

I’m just curious what the results of this would be, if you could have another baby financially due to this being scrapped, will you?
before it becomes a benefit bashing thread, remember the majority of people claiming do work. Keep it civil and polite please 🙏
Im done having kids and I can see why they want it to be scrapped with the cost of living issues.

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zazazaaarmm · 07/11/2025 10:00

nightmarepickle2025 · 06/11/2025 18:21

It’s not child benefit, it’s UC and is worth about £3000 per year per child so not really a drop in the ocean

Its worth a lot but I think the biggest consideration is the increase in rents and house prices.

£3000 won't even touch the sides if you need another bedroom. if you've had two boys and now are having a girl. On top of all the clothes, ,food, uniform etc.

cottonwoolie · 07/11/2025 10:01

£3000 won't even touch the sides if you need another bedroom. if you've had two boys and now are having a girl. On top of all the clothes, ,food, uniform etc.

Exactly, who on earth would have a dc for 3k, I think a lot of people who think this are older & don't realise how much things have changed!

Anthonettesoprana · 07/11/2025 10:03

cottonwoolie · 07/11/2025 10:00

Again child benefit is universal in many countries and often much higher. It's so short sighted not to invest in the young

Child benefit in the uk is only 25 a week for the first child and less for subsequents. It’s not capped though it’s the child part of universal credit tha is capped and over 200 a month per child

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DecemberPlusFebruary · 07/11/2025 10:03

cottonwoolie · 07/11/2025 09:57

Nether the government nor MN as a whole are bothered by the decline in the birth rate - and lets be honest house prices and cost of living are more directly linked to birth rates and even they are farily complex relationships.

The governments are aware & have tried to implement certain policies but the electorate don't want to hear it. Anyone with a brain knows the triple lock should be paused but no government has the guts.

Countries like Denmark that have offered much greater support and financial assistance to mothers, have also seen birthrates continue to decline.

When you give women a real choice - subsidised childcare, lengthy maternity leave, job protection, birth control, legal and accessible abortion - they choose to have fewer children (at a population level).

There are a huge number of really good reasons they make that choice.

ComfortFoodCafe · 07/11/2025 10:04

No, i dont breed for money but I bet the birth ratw will boom!

RainbowBagels · 07/11/2025 10:04

Needmorelego · 07/11/2025 09:50

I don't think everyone should get Child Benefit. A millionare family shouldn't.
But I do believe it should be based on household income not just the higher earner.
Because you get that situation of one parent working who earns £75000 and the family doesn't get it but two parents earning £40000 each (so £80000 total) and they do get it.
That's unfair.

One parent earning £75k with a sahp has no childcare costs, yet still has free nursery provision etc whereas 2 working parents have huge childcare costs and probably don't have the option of having one sahp as £40k isn't enough to support a non working adult and children without resorting to benefits. It is unfair for single parents but then we go back to the first post where we should be compelling absent fathers far more strongly to financially provide for their children.

cottonwoolie · 07/11/2025 10:06

@DecemberPlusFebruary I'm not sure why you have replied that to me? I already said upthread that hefty incentives have increased birth rates in any country once they are below replacement rate.

That doesn't mean the government doesn't need to do something about the changing demographics & the economic impact.

CatHairEveryWhereNow · 07/11/2025 10:07

cottonwoolie · 07/11/2025 09:57

Nether the government nor MN as a whole are bothered by the decline in the birth rate - and lets be honest house prices and cost of living are more directly linked to birth rates and even they are farily complex relationships.

The governments are aware & have tried to implement certain policies but the electorate don't want to hear it. Anyone with a brain knows the triple lock should be paused but no government has the guts.

They haven't really done much and this government doesn't even want to comment much on it because they fear being seen as telling women what to do. Plus they are looking 5 years ahead - short term to next election thinking dominating - not so much at 20 + when we won't have the workers/tax payers.

Other governments have done much more financailly to make it a bit easier but they dont get back up to replacement level but they do see increased in birth rates but it costs money - something we are apparently short on.

Plus no governement will penalised a huge voting block so the older voters are at an advantage - not just here in South Korea and Japan - if we had better poltcians I think they could do more but it would still be a risk at election time.

There tends to reach a point when electorate is aging when doing anything to improve birth rate is hard because older people don't want to pay for it and socially increasing numbers of young don't want kids and don't want to pay for others to have them. We're probabaly already there TBH - and need to adapt to the realty of high immigration to fill jobs and aging population demands.

Personally I think taking kids we have out of poverty and improving their life chances would benefit the country most at this point and it will have minimal impact on birth rates - but if it was easy Labour would have done it already.

x2boys · 07/11/2025 10:07

cottonwoolie · 07/11/2025 10:01

£3000 won't even touch the sides if you need another bedroom. if you've had two boys and now are having a girl. On top of all the clothes, ,food, uniform etc.

Exactly, who on earth would have a dc for 3k, I think a lot of people who think this are older & don't realise how much things have changed!

It's not just the 3 k its everything that goes with it ,if you are a single parent who relies soley on benefits or a couple on a low income your UC can be quite significant, if you have another baby you won't be required to look for work for a few years
It might be unimaginable to some posters
But some people prefer to stay home looking after another child rather than working long hours in a minimum wage job paticularly if there is no discernible difference in their income.

cottonwoolie · 07/11/2025 10:07

No, i dont breed for money but I bet the birth ratw will boom!

@ComfortFoodCafe can you explain why? No country has reversed birth rates once they are below replacement rate.

Digdongdoo · 07/11/2025 10:08

ComfortFoodCafe · 07/11/2025 10:04

No, i dont breed for money but I bet the birth ratw will boom!

The cap didn't cause the birth rate to plummet, so it's removal is unlikely to encourage a boom.

aperolspritzbasicbitch · 07/11/2025 10:09

Nope.
I’m a firm believer of only having the children you can financially support and provide for yourself.

I think the benefit system being there as a backup for families in the event of situations changing is amazing, but to actively plan to have a child with the expectation that the government will fund the raising of them doesn’t sit right with me.
same as people who live in a 1 bed flat, but go on to have 3 kids and then kick off that the council can’t house them.

RainbowBagels · 07/11/2025 10:09

zazazaaarmm · 07/11/2025 10:00

Its worth a lot but I think the biggest consideration is the increase in rents and house prices.

£3000 won't even touch the sides if you need another bedroom. if you've had two boys and now are having a girl. On top of all the clothes, ,food, uniform etc.

If you can't afford to feed and clothe 3 children don't have a 3rd child. Its not compulsory. The person in that situation is hugely disadvantaging their existing children, condemning them to less food, space and resources. The state isn't doing that. They are.

cottonwoolie · 07/11/2025 10:14

It's not just the 3 k its everything that goes with it ,if you are a single parent who relies soley on benefits or a couple on a low income your UC can be quite significant,

@x2boys but UC is also based on housing & childcare costs, so whilst it can be high it's not staying in your pocket.

DecemberPlusFebruary · 07/11/2025 10:14

cottonwoolie · 07/11/2025 10:06

@DecemberPlusFebruary I'm not sure why you have replied that to me? I already said upthread that hefty incentives have increased birth rates in any country once they are below replacement rate.

That doesn't mean the government doesn't need to do something about the changing demographics & the economic impact.

That was an error! Didn't mean to reply it to you.

SwirlyShirly · 07/11/2025 10:18

No! What is it for child 3? £28 a week or something?! 🤣🤣🤣

x2boys · 07/11/2025 10:21

SwirlyShirly · 07/11/2025 10:18

No! What is it for child 3? £28 a week or something?! 🤣🤣🤣

Only yet again, its not child benefit its the child element if universl credit which can be significantly more.

rzm · 07/11/2025 10:21

cottonwoolie · 07/11/2025 10:14

It's not just the 3 k its everything that goes with it ,if you are a single parent who relies soley on benefits or a couple on a low income your UC can be quite significant,

@x2boys but UC is also based on housing & childcare costs, so whilst it can be high it's not staying in your pocket.

Right, but how many of those people would have had more children if they didn’t have that additional £3k? People are misunderstanding that the majority of people don’t think people are having kids for money; more that lack of money isn’t stopping them. How many parents stop at 2 because of childcare costs, if childcare was free (for example) I expect lots of families across the financial spectrum would go on to have a 3rd. And that’s the kind of choice people assisted by the system can have (or used to have, I’ve already said I don’t know much about UC, I had TC back in the day).

As I’ve previously stated, pre cap I could have afforded to have a 3rd and a good lifestyle. I actually could have chosen between having the childcare heavily subsidised by TC as I already was with 2, or actually, been better off staying home with 3 (due to wider ranging costs like commuting etc also). Nowadays, I am a high income household, and I have much less of a choice as would have been the case had we been high income back then.

It was all just a bit ludicrous and whilst I sincerely don’t want children in poverty, we can’t go back to those days (and I’d be interested to know how it compares today) but I don’t know what the answer is.

Needmorelego · 07/11/2025 10:22

cottonwoolie · 07/11/2025 09:59

@Needmorelego I don't have problem
with funded childcare, it's heavily subsided in most European countries. I don't have an issue with scrapping the 2 child cap either, I don't believe the majority have a dc for benefits.

I agree 🙂

Needmorelego · 07/11/2025 10:23

SwirlyShirly · 07/11/2025 10:18

No! What is it for child 3? £28 a week or something?! 🤣🤣🤣

You are thinking of "Child Benefit" which isn't part of the cap.
It's about £11 for a 3rd child (or 2nd, 4th etc)?

cottonwoolie · 07/11/2025 10:23

@CatHairEveryWhereNow I'm not arguing the government should do anything about birth rates, they can't as that ship has sailed. But they should be doing something about the economic fall out of the changing demographics

We're probabaly already there TBH - and need to adapt to the realty of high immigration to fill jobs and aging population demands.

We are & it's already impacting us eg tax rises.

South Korea & Japan have tried to mitigate some of the issues eg Japan changed its social security policy decades ago. Both countries have opened up in the last few years to immigration. We haven't done a thing, just took more & more away from the young.

People forget that much of the world is ageing so it isn't just about birth rates but the fact that some of our young people will be incentivised to go to other countries eg Portugal offering low taxes for under 35s

cottonwoolie · 07/11/2025 10:24

@rzm but financial incentives won't boost birth rates, no country has managed it.

x2boys · 07/11/2025 10:25

cottonwoolie · 07/11/2025 10:14

It's not just the 3 k its everything that goes with it ,if you are a single parent who relies soley on benefits or a couple on a low income your UC can be quite significant,

@x2boys but UC is also based on housing & childcare costs, so whilst it can be high it's not staying in your pocket.

No but neither is a low wage my point is some people would prefer to stay at home looking after another child then ,working in a minimum wage job ,paticularly ,before they are obliged to look for work
In neither scenario will they be living a life of luxury but I can see why people could opt to have another child.

cottonwoolie · 07/11/2025 10:25

@DecemberPlusFebruary no worries

cottonwoolie · 07/11/2025 10:25

@x2boys but you are basing this scenario on "feels". It really isn't going to lead to a baby boom.