Not going to post on AIBU as don't want a kick in.
Ds had a friend stay. I bought some Halloween theme candles when over in Ireland. He was with me when I bought them. Telling him how lovely and unique they looked and I asked him if I should get them due to Ryan air weigh restrictions on luggage etc. So knows full well they wasn't just everyday crappy choice.
They was sitting on the side unused. Then his friend stayed and they was gone. I asked him where they was and he said he was using them in his room. I asked him to not throw them out as I could re use them and refill them. He said OK.
Then after his mate left, he told me had have given them away as they was unused just sitting there ( waiting for my trick or treat Halloween stuff to be set up). I said I was hurt as he knew I wanted them from the off. That I had asked where they was while his friend was still here.
I bought them with my money and he gave them away without asking and worse in full knowledge I was asking after them.
I have told him I can't trust him. In fact it's made me wonder what else he does like this? He has always been a good kid. But he is in fact a lier and it's the first time I have seen this side of him. Gone into his brothers room today ( where mate was staying) and another candel has gone. Just the lid sitting there. I feel I need to hide stuff now when he has visitors. His mate has gone home with 500g of various glass candels! I don't blame the mate ( but they must have heard me ask where they had gone) I blame my son.
I can't replace them. I was going to keep them for every Halloween. In fact all of my Halloween themed ones are no where to be seen now. It's not the money it's the trust. I'm really not happy. Ds says it's no big deal. I don't think that's his choice to decide what's a big deal. It's asking where they was while he knew his mate had them that really pisses me off. Just needed to have a rant.