Have you ever found something belonging to your parents that made you see them in a different light?

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When I was a teen I found a sex toy in my mum’s drawer. I shouldn’t have been snooping.

It made me think of her differently, and I felt a bit weird about it for a bit.

I’m over it now, I think 🤔

There is only one baby photo of me, my grandad is holding me. That's it until school photos.

My parents claimed they didn't have a camera. There are loads of photos of my brother as a 2-5 year old though. I'm 2 years younger than him.

On the subject of grandparents, my Nana kept every letter from my grandad to her in WWII. He was also a Desert Rat @PauliesWalnuts maybe they knew each other?

@Mayana1 home made cosmetics, specifically a hand cream made with aromatherapy oils in a jar with a home made label.

I hope you are ok, it's a bombshell and a half.

Initially my sister was heartbroken and said oh my God we are 1/2 half sisters and I replied are we fuck, we 100% grew up together and that's that.

I suspect my younger brother came from the affair too.

I feel sorry for my dad the most to be honest in all of it.

@LushLemonTartyes sorry I forgot to mention that. Yes I did and found them. As I said they were alot older than me. My elder brother passed of cancer in August 2020. He was 86. My other brother has dementia now. He is 89. My nieces and nephews are my age.

I found them in 1997 so I had 25 years plus with them. My eldest brother gave me away when I happily remarried.

We were all left with cars from our shared father. They also met my late mom who they had no malice against. They got on well with her. Our father wasn't with their mom when my parents met. Plus as my eldest brother said he knew what mom and I would have gone through as he remembered enough.

That's fantastic. So happy for you all.

Thanks for replying, and I'm sorry things haven't been as they should be with your mum.
I wouldn't want my own dc to think too much about the fact that they wouldn't have been born if I hadn't lost the other pregnancies. Might not bother them, but it might!

I found a child that was given up for adoption 10 years before I was born, just a few months before they were married. Neither one of them, nor the wider family, ever mentioned it. It certainly made me think a lot!

That's quite the bombshell to deal with at any age.

It certainly is! I'm pretty ancient now and unfortunately my sibling died shortly after they found out about me. I'm surprised my mother never told me because she told me a few other things that were surprising when she got older. But perhaps this was too much of stretch, and she probably never thought we'd find the child. But what a lot to carry with you your whole life and never discuss it with anyone. Ancestry DNA came to the rescue and now I have a niece and grand nieces.

When my Nan died and my parents were clearing out her annexe, they found a birth certificate for a child that she’d given up for adoption having already had two children. She went to Wales, gave birth and gave the child up for adoptionbut then went on to have another child so my dad had a brother he never knew about and I now have an uncle and cousins.

A charity bag 🤣 imagine finding that on the shelf of ur local oxfam 🤣🤣

I also found a mail order envelope in my dads bedside drawer full of condoms in the 70's. I took a packet and me and a friend had great fun tying them to car aerials around the neighbourhood.

And? It was a perversion in the XVI century, it is a perversion now. I don't understand. Just recently an article came out 'Prince Andrew, his sex aids and other sordid things' - see, sordid. That is right.

how the fuck is what Prince Andrew got up to comparable to using a vibrator? That’s so offensive.

Another poster who can't read? The sentence was 'sex aids and OTHER SORDID things'. Sex aids classed as sordid. Geddit?

A perversion is described as "sexual behaviour or desire that is considered abnormal and unacceptable"

Given the thousands of sex toys sold each year, quite legally, they do not fit that description.

So you are wrong.

Sordid "involving immoral or dishonourable actions and motives, arousing moral distaste and contempt" so in the context of that sentence, I would suggest that it is Prince Andrew that fits that description, not the sex toys which are not sentient and do not have free will to commit any act, immoral or otherwise.

Andrew is a sordid man, but sex toys are not necessarily sordid, even if one article (not an authority btw) thinks they are. Geddit?

None of that means that I would want to find my DMs sex toys when she dies, mind you.

Sex toys are not a perversion or sordid. Don’t be so bloody ridiculous.

I honestly don't know why anyone is responding to the idiocy?

And because you saw that written somewhere by someone, that makes it true? Many people do not consider 'sex aids' to be sordid (as you will realize by the comments here) or perverse. Sex is a perfectly natural activity.

You are quite right and I had resolved not to rise to the bait. But sometimes it's just too hard to ignore! I will try to be stronger willed from now on.

I started a thread recently and got people posting trying to make me rise. Totally ignored them. They soon fucked off. Thankfully not many posters reacted to them. They're sad or perverse or both.

@Hons123 why is taking pleasure from a specifically designed sex toy a perversion?

There are worse things that people stick in themselves, ask any A&E nurse, they can tell you a tale or two.

Does it matter if it's 'perverted' or not? It's not hurting anyone but hopefully providing pleasure for people in the privacy of their bedrooms. What is your problem? (And why are you reading about Prince Andrew and his sex aids?)

Such a shame the thread has been derailed…