Have you ever found something belonging to your parents that made you see them in a different light?

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When I was a teen I found a sex toy in my mum’s drawer. I shouldn’t have been snooping.

It made me think of her differently, and I felt a bit weird about it for a bit.

I’m over it now, I think 🤔

Is there any chance the masturbation conversation could bugger off to another thread? It’s boring as fuck and I want to read the posts relating to the OP!

I used to sleep over at a frend's house when i was about 9 or 10, her Mum was a widow and my friend and I would share her Mum's double bed and read under the covers etc etc as little girls do. Anyway there was a bizarre thing under apillow that ws plugged in to a socket by the lamp and my friend said it was something that helped her Mum 'sleep better'!

When I was a bit older I realised what it really was - I bet she slept better the kinky old bird!😆

Well, in the bin I expect, seeing as it had a label on it saying 'just bin'.

Exactly. They’re at the opposite ends of the spectrum of effort for a start. Yes, I could use my hands and my brain but my vibrator gets me off a lot quicker. A threesome requires time and effort I don’t have. Either way, I’m clearly a pervert 🙃

I am so, so sorry.

I think it opens something else 😳

They probably didn't know how to change the alarm and it was easier to lie than admit it and ask for your help. I know that's not helpful for you though.

Girl what lol

Please tell me you hadn't given up your job!?

Thank you! Hard for you but made me laugh😂

When my dad’s great uncle died everyone had been up to the graveside to see him lowered in.
When my dad got to the car he realised he’d left his umbrella and went back to the grave to find a glamorous black veiled lady stood by the side chucking red roses into the grave.
She hadn’t been into the service and she never went to the wake. She was also NOT great uncles wife!

What a description to use. She's not kinky to have a vibrator, she's not old if she had a ten year old, and she's not a bird.

Perspective. You work out why people behave like they do or did. Being smacked was so normal for people that it wasn’t noteworthy. Parents did what they thought was appropriate. Some parents went too far. You can’t always judge people in the past by the rules of now.
not really the point of this thread though.

No, not everyone has sex toys.

I just hope you do really love yourself.. give yourself a very big hug(mentally) as you didn't deserve this you tried to be the sensible one and you helped your mum by being that.. that little girl was you doing her very best.. You can't undo this sad situation but you can be very kind to yourself.. 💕🙂

Ok mum!

Hopefully, you didn't give up your job/career/life for him?

How is that relevant??

what is your own comment related to?

I found some porn and then weird collections of things like yoghurt pot lids. All cleaned but carefully flattened and kept. Both my parents have died so I will never know why now... Sadly I do not share their enthusiasm for collecting yoghurt pot lids so they're all gone in the bin 🫣

I was NC with my DM when she died so when we were clearing out her apartment I didn't expect there to be any photos of me. I expected to see one of my DS and there was tucked in a corner where no one could see it. But there were two huge framed photos of her sister's grandchildren. Children she had never even met.

I found stuff that related to my DF (that she initiated divorce from to be with another man which didn't work out) and our time abroad (that she claimed she hated). There were some bits I had sent her where I was almost pleading for her love and evidence that she had failed her GCSEs even though according to her as I had some they must be easy.

Mostly I was left with the impression what on earth was all the spite, jealousy and constant chasing of attention and money about.

To someone saying "oh grow up"!

Had a nosey at the court papers related to contact when my parents were bitterly battling it out in family court when I was a kid. My dad did actually want contact, which wasn’t what my mother told us. She told us court was solely to make him pay child support. Which wasn’t the case. He was paying that, she simply wanted more.

on a lighter note, my aunt showed us scrapbooks from decades ago when my grandad was still in the army after ww2. Photos and letters back and forth, the letters showed what a clever, interesting man he was and how much his many little sisters loved him. He’d kept his test results from the 11+ too. He’d passed. He didn’t get to go though, he had to stay in primary school. His parents didn’t have the money for the uniform and his mother was apparently some kind of reverse snob- she didn’t want him to get ideas above his station and think he was better than the rest of them, so she was happy he was stuck where he was. That broke my heart a little bit- that his parents felt threatened by their child instead of proud of them.

BTW, in Italy they have vending machines selling sex toys on public streets. Does that mean Italians are perverts? This is central Milan (Apologies for diversion)

This thread has put me off sex never mind toys 🙈