Have you ever found something belonging to your parents that made you see them in a different light?

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When I was a teen I found a sex toy in my mum’s drawer. I shouldn’t have been snooping.

It made me think of her differently, and I felt a bit weird about it for a bit.

I’m over it now, I think 🤔

No, the posters mother kept stuff right through til university age age for one child and not the other. Thats not waning interest or a time or space issue. It’s just favouritism and being a horrible parent. If it was waning interest or a time or space issue, then the mother would have stopped doing it for both children, or kept a bit less of both. Some parents are just horrible.

Never too late!!!

Never found my Mums sex toy. Unfortunately after she died I did find the Polaroids of her and my Dad using said sex toy, among other activities.

Never have I been so glad I have aphantasia, at least I'll never have to relive that memory!

I found some Viz magazines in their wardrobe.

I found my mum and dads divorce papers in her drawer, made me see my birth father in a different light, didn't really bother with him much after that and we've been NC for years.

Also found an envelope with hundreds of pounds in £20s so would help myself every now and again - paid for it since, it was 30 years ago and I went through a bad stage in my teens

Is masturbation a perversion now? Is it the 1940s?

When I was a child, when we went on holiday, we used to visit an antique shop owned by a friend of my parents. He was a middle-aged man with the slightly unusual name of Lear. Always wore a suit and tie. Lovely chap, always made us welcome, made a cuppa, had a long chat. Sometimes his wife, a small blonde lady, was there. It wasn't until I was well into my teens that I picked up on the pronouns my parents were using when referring to their most recent visit. Leah was a very butch male-presenting lesbian. In later years, talking to my mum, she said that when she was widowed, she realised who her real friends were, and that Leah and her "wife" had been very supportive and kind at that awful time in her life.

I looked this up and in the UK between 60 and 80% of women do.
I would possibly never had an orgasm without one and definitely have far, far better orgasms.

Well, she can't.

A smack on the back ofcthe legs was normal when you were a kid but 14 year olds being put yover their fathers knees and smacked until they can't sit down... very much not normal

I dont think 'everyone has sex toys ' , that's a massive generalisation .

Sex toys a perversion 😂😂😂

After my father in law died last year the loft was full of photos of my mother in law in the shower😳or photos of them with friends looking a bit over friendly.
Also found viagra in a draw with one missing,this I could see from his phone was bought after she had died .
He also had text messages requesting an OUT CALL to numbers that were matched by a clipboard by his chair.one called juicy Lucy 😳🙈.

What is an out call ?
He had a laptop,literally won’t be using that.

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My two close friends and I have a pact that if we die after our husbands, that we will remove all the sex toys so our kids don't have to find them. We have told each other where theh are hidden in each other's rooms.

My mum had an affair with my dads brother and he is my sisters dad.

This came out about 2 years ago.

My dad and my sister were the best of friends.

My mum then ran off with my best friends dad when I was 14.

@Bikergran and others. No intention of trying either thanks. I've managed to this age without.
I've never enjoyed sex and saw it as a chore so have no interest in anything in that department 😀

Viz? How shocking. Have you had therapy to come to terms with the trauma?
Also I’m doing a poll - do you masturbate?

When my mum had a hysterectomy when I was 14, I took over the housework for a while. When putting new sheets on their bed, I found some porn mags. I did feel a bit gross about it, but my parents hated each most of the time and my mum worked nights so guess he had needs! I’d never go snooping!

I think most women do, I certainly do, in a locked box.

🤣🤣🤣

Never too late. 😈

I'm so sorry. That's really hard.

Found a passport application when one of my parents had to apply for an emergency passport when their sibling was taken seriously ill abroad (I was 14) and they'd had to complete a "change of name" part of the form.

It unravelled the whole tale that my grandfather wasn't the biological father of my parent. Obviously the adults knew but us kids didn't. Granddad had adopted my parent as a young adult (hence the change of name) but had been in their life since they are about 6.

Just made me love my grandad even more to be honest. He'd met my grandmother when she was a single mum in the late 50's and he'd been the only father my parent had ever known.

I'm not entirely sure we'd have been told in the end, but my nosiness / curiosity meant we were able to have an open and honest conversation with both my parents and grandparents about it.

I remember my lovely grandad telling me years later, before he died, how thankful he was to have been gifted such a beautiful family. I felt exactly the same and I guess this was my first and most poignant lesson in how families aren't always about blood.

Grandparents rather than parents- when my folks and I were clearing out my nan and her husband’s house, they came across loads of romantic letters from a woman addressed to nan’s husband, as well as some unsent from him to her. Felt so shit to find them. Nan had been unable to communicate for many years due to having a stroke and dementia so in a small way I understood him seeking companionship, but suddenly things my nan had tried to communicate towards the end of her life made sense and we worked out that he’d been having this woman in the house while she was in her armchair or the bed in their living room and she was unable to do anything about it. A little bit heartbreaking.

We also found out local junkies and scumbags had been coming in through their unlocked front door and a woman, ahem, having relations with nan’s husband (well into his 80s at this point and incontinent) while her accomplices rifled through their living room in front of my nan and stealing bank cards, jewellery, and anything of value. His granddaughter found this out while he was still alive, as there were tiny lacy knickers in the upstairs bed. Kind of wanted to bleach my brain after hearing that.

I would hardly put threesomes in the same category as vibrators FFS.