How many people from uni are you still friends with ? And how old are you?

[Kittencuddler]

only 4 here at late 40s but string friendships that have lasted over 2 decades so feel secure and see often

That escalated quickly…

4 and I’m 43

I'm 35 and still friends with the 3 girls I spent all my time at uni with. We used to meet up a couple of times a year which lasted for about 8 years after graduation.. it tailed off when we got partners and one had a baby, two of us look after elderly family members.. as we all come from different parts of the country so it was enough of a faff as it was! But we still have a group chat, still support each other on social media posts etc. It sounds daft but I know that if I needed them, they'd be there.

I’m not the person you were asking, but in my case, I just wasn’t bothered enough about staying in touch. I had a group of friends at university from my first year in halls, and I shared a house with a few of them for the second and third years. They were nice and we all had fun together and I have mainly good memories of it, but they weren’t quite ’my tribe’ so to speak. I liked them but I didn’t feel like I needed them when I left uni, and none of us stayed in our uni city when we graduated.

Three, and I'm married to one of them 😀

I'm in touch with a few. Proper friends- 2, one of them I'm still really close to and see as often as we can manage. I'm 50,

Not everyone finds their tribe at university and many people change / reinvent themselves after they graduate. I stayed good friends with a couple of people I met at university until late 20s - holidays together, celebrating each other’s life achievements etc. but then our lives went in completely different directions.

My closest friends are those I met on the graduate scheme I joined in London straight after university. We spent a lot of time together and naturally had more in common - in particular, we were ‘big city’ people. My university friends didn’t even move to London and seemed to not share any of my ambitions. It’s hard to explain without sounding like a complete dick. There’s just something about people who move to London by themselves in their early 20s. We’re scattered all over the globe now so don’t see much of each other but are in constant contact (whatsapp etc).

Yes, but that's not the reason we're no longer friends. We just went in very different directions after graduation and I doubt I'd even recognise any of them if we met in the street.

One person - not Uni but nurse training. We are close, attended each other's wedding, and last year I went to her daughter's wedding.

We met 51 years' ago - I'm 71.

Not long after training I left for London and never went back so our friendship has been long-distance in the main.

My sons are 40-somethings and as far as I know have no friends from Uni but both have friends from school who are scattered around the UK and the world. They meet for weddings etc., and on various business trips.

An interesting thread 😊

That's the same with me, really. They weren't horrible people by any means, and we got on fine, but we were only friends through circumstance, not because we really got on or because we had tons in common.

We graduated nearly 15 years ago now and while I have a couple on social media, I haven't spoken to them in years and haven't seen them since we left. My life is totally different nowadays.

I'm 46. Married to one, close to two and still in touch with another 3.

49 - 3

Uni, I’d say like 2-3.

But I still have lots of friends from primary and secondary school that I keep in touch with, maybe 20+.

And lots of friends from postgraduate course.

I live on the other side of the world now so we don’t meet up, but do chat from time to time.

I worked like FT through uni so didn’t really make friends because I was too busy with life.

I’m mid 40s.

I’m 46, I have one friend from uni who is still one of my best friends. Few more still friendly with/ in occasional contact but it’s very much drifted.

2 close friends from school days, and another from my first job post university.

The friend I’d say I’m closest to and see/ speak to the most, she’s more like family honestly - I’ve also known since I was about 16 so 30 years now. Wasn’t from school or anything, I just kind of met her ‘around’ and we became part of the same wider friendship group and got closer over the years.

My husband still has a close knit group of friends all from university days - 3 are close friends and there’s about another 5 that are in the WhatsApp group/ all get together maybe twice or three times a year. He also has a group from school/ college.

One on sm but not met for over a year.

I lost the others after childbirth.

10 from undergrad
6 from undergrad

49 years old

42, still friends with 5 of them.

I posted up thread but felt inspired by other posts to add that I have more close friends from school (six, two of whom I’ve know since I was four) than I do from university.

I think university is such a short but intense time in many people’s lives; in some cases, the friendships we forge there burn bright in the moment but fade when circumstances change. It’s like work friends - you’re close when proximity gives you lots in common, but if proximity is the main thing driving the friendship then it’s less likely to last.

8 from undergraduate days, 3 postgrad. In my late 50s. Plus one from a year abroad as an undergraduate.

Dh (67) and I have just been away for his annual meet up with his uni mates. Next year will be 50 years since they started. They did have a long break whilst we we were all having kids etc.
Me, Im 66 and have no clue where my uni mates are.

1st time at 18: still actively friends with two, Facebook friends with about 15 but will probably never actually see them again in person.

2nd time at 23: still close friends with six and again Facebook friends with many, most of us in my immediate group are also having babies close in age so it’s a lovely new chapter of friendship ☺️

I’m 31.

Only 2 of them, I fb friends with another friend from uni but haven’t seen her for over ten years. The other two I see a few times a year, we all live a long way from each other.

Im 46.

Close friends? Maybe one tbh. I still wish others happy birthday etc, but rarely actually meet up.

I also have two good friends from school.

I am 41

Not Uni but still in contact with my school friends. Due to Geography, we are scattered all over the world, Some meet up often, some once a year, and a couple of weeks ago 10 of us booked a house for a weekend to catch up.

I absolutely loved my uni and made a lot of great friends.

I’m 37 and there’s about six uni friends I speak to or see at least a few times a year and count as good/close friends. I’m the godmother of one them’s kids. Some of them I’ve traveled with abroad and been bridesmaids at their weddings etc.

I don’t see them as much as I’d like as we don’t live in the same city and I don’t drive and life is just busy for everyone, especially the ones with young kids.

And then there’s maybe 3 or 4 that I speak to via WhatsApp or LinkedIn and sometimes see occasionally. I’m not quite as close but I’m still very fond of them.

Then there’s some uni acquaintances/casual friends I am not in direct contact with but see through other uni friends at social events if that makes sense?

And then a few more I chat to occasionally only on social media, either because they live abroad or because we are not close enough to meet up.