I am a curmudgeon with xmas dos anyway, admittedly. My colleagues in the main are perfectly lovely people, but have my own friends and family and people to have dinner and/or drinks with and there's maybe only one or two of my colleagues I would choose to do this with if we lived closer to one another.
We all work remotely.
But at the moment I really do not like my job and have been trying my best to find something else for months but there just isn't anything. I'm a tutor of adult learners and was made redundant in 2023, and have taken this job, mainly involving paperwork for a company related to the subject I tutor in. The job has nothing 'wrong' with it, but the wage is rubbish, It's incredibly boring and I long to be doing something more involved. I have done a bit of freelance tutoring but I can't seem to find anything that would fit around my current job or would pay enough and be stable enough to enable me to leave it.
Then there's the grievance. I was put on a PIP a few months ago and I contested it because most of it made no sense, and the bits that did were tiny misdemeanors that would not warrant a PIP. I took this to the Union who wholeheartedly agreed with me and challenged it. They also cited discrimination (I have ADHD and some of it was around timekeeping, but again it was very 'fluffy'', no real targets just things like 'be better at timekeeping' so I had no idea what they meant).
They have allegedly dropped the PIP but I have had no real resolution to it in writing.
I also raised another issue, which is that when I began the job they gave me a day I didn't request to work, as an extra day citing it as temporary yet each time I have put in a flexible working request they have refused to take me off it. This means less time for freelance work and other commitments.
I would be more sympathetic if they were very stuck for cover for that day but there was another colleague put on the same shift (due to the company expanding), who started very recently who has recently been taken off this shift without issue. And one of their reasons they gave as to why they couldn't take me off this day was also that none of the newer intake of colleagues wanted to work this day at all, which I know to be a lie as at least two of them do. I hope that makes sense-but in short I feel mistreated by the company, in particular my manager who I believe put me on the PIP as she saw me as a soft touch, I am very mild mannered at work, very much a 'yes person', will help everyone,stay behind if required etc and I think she just felt I'd be an easy person to make an example of. Same with the shift changes, she'd kind of hoped I'd not say anything. Morale for me is low.
The work's do is in a different city involving a train ride at around 06:00, a training day and then dinner and drinks/dancing and an overnight stay. I don't dance and although I do drink alcohol I've no desire to drink all night with a load of people I am not interested in spending time with. It just isn't my idea of fun and feels a big hassle.
I probably sound like a right miserable sod but I promise I'm not! I have a lot of friends and close family, I generally like to go out and have conversations with people. I just feel like I will not enjoy this at all.
I went last year, even more inconvenient as it was much further away and I can't say I enjoyed it although I put on a 'face' and it wasn't the worst night of my life-but I was so so glad to be home and felt like I'd lost my whole weekend doing something I'd have not chosen to do. This was also before I had got so jaded with work and before the grievance. I am close to one colleague who really wants me to go 
I do have a convenient excuse in that I have a dog who's getting old and I can only leave with my ex partner as she's anxious as anything with anybody else and also difficult with them (plus, in any case I don't really have anybody else). But, ex is probably available although I haven't checked yet.
WWYD?