Inspired by a chat with DH this morning…
We’ve just bought a fairly big trampoline for the kids and it now needs putting together (😭). DH reckons it’s not really something you’d ask friends to help with — says it’s too much of a job. I’m kind of on the fence… I feel like you should be able to ask, as long as you’re not offended if people say no (which is totally fair enough!).
It got me thinking how different things feel these days. It doesn’t seem as common to ask friends or neighbours for help with these sorts of things anymore. When I was growing up in the 80s/90s, everyone used to muck in — friends helping with DIY or garden jobs, putting up Christmas lights, neighbours’ kids washing cars for pocket money, borrowing sugar or milk, that kind of thing. I remember when I first moved house, friends helped me pack, and I did the same for them.
I guess there is a sense of worrying people will think badly of you for asking (maybe prompting a CF post😂)..
Has that sense of community just faded now? Are we just all too busy and broken from working all the hours or are people just different now?