How many babies would you have if

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You didnt have to worry about money, space or your age. I think I’d want 4, maybe 5. I love pregnancy and birth (even though I had c sections) so much and when you first see them. 🥺 Plus babies, gahh. Amazing. And I love watching them grow, even when Im so unbelievably overwhelmed.

So in my dream world Id be a sahm, enormouse house with big bedrooms, multiple holidays a year and a nanny for when Im stressed or want to work for fun (obviously!)

Obviously real life means most of us can’t do that!

If I had all the resources and didn't need to work other than be with them... Probably 4, maybe 5... Dare I say go for the full Von Trapp? We have 2 atm and 100% want another one. It's unlikely they are going to have any cousins but me and husband grew up in extended families so I want them to have a gang.I just love the big messy chaos of it all and if I could outsource everything to just focus on them and give them everything they need, that would be perfection.

I have two, and would have loved more.Trouble is childbirth and me do not go together.Both born by emergency caesarean because of life threatening conditions in labour.The first birth almost cost me my life that is why I agreed, regretfully to have tubal tie done if I needed another caesarean,the fear I went through in my second pregnancy I would never wish for again.
I am now a grandmother and great grandmother so I enjoy being that as I do not have to give birth.

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When I was younger I would have said 4 or 5 - now I would not want more than the 3 I have. I also adored the baby stage and I do think that this can drive the desire for more dc - my lot are teens now and they are brilliant, but the parenting is much harder work at this stage; far more complex and emotionally challenging.

I loved being pregnant, put on barely any weight and felt the fittest I have felt in my life. I also loved giving birth and found it easy.

I definitely would’ve had a baby for a friend if they wanted me too. I didn’t want more myself.

I would never have more than 2 even if I was a billionaire.
No desire to be an SAHM.

@casualcrispenjoyer I could have written your post word for word. I wasn’t just a better mother, I was a better person, better wife, friend, employee, with one child. I love my second DC of course but I do not love my life.

Perhaps if I had enough money for a perfect home, to not work and to send DC to an excellent private school then it would all be so much less stressful and more enjoyable.

im like you OP. I’d have 4-5 if I had enough money, health and a nanny to help out

I would’ve definitely had another child if we had all of those. So 2.

I think there is going to be a marked difference on this thread between those with tiny DC and those with young adults grappling with MH, finding jobs not affected by AI, and saving for rent!

I’d probably have three or four of money was no object and I had round the clock good quality help. Parenting would be a totally different experience.

Maybe one day I'll be lucky enough to have one

2 is enough for me. I have a huge age gap with my two DC but feel incredibly lucky to have eventually got my second.

Sorry if I’ve missed a post but I can’t believe someone hasn’t been on yet spouting about the impact on the environment with lots of people wanting more DC.

@casualcrispenjoyer refreshingly honest.

I’d have four.

I hate pregnancy (appreciate am very lucky to have experienced it though) and vomit all the way through, but I would do it again if I had someone to help me manage whilst I vomited. I already have three children so I think I could convince myself to do it one final time.

As it stands, DH isn’t keen on a fourth so it’s a moot point.

When I was young, I wasn't sure I wanted any.
When I met my then boyfriend/now husband, we always said 2 or 4.
We now have 6! I'd still have as many as we could in all scenarios, and don't feel any regret or resentment for having had them all.

Just two, which is what I have. I wouldn’t want more because I’d find it hard to cope and be a decent parent. My two get on so well, so that’s been lovely, but if they didn’t, I might have opted for just one, looking back. Mine are now adults in their mid-20s.

The same number I have now : Zero. I’m very happily childfree by choice, and no amount of money o4 resources would change that.

I have 2 but, under the perfect circumstances would have loved 4. I loved pregnancy and small children and have so much fun with my teens now. I’d definitely do it all again. Sadly, age, money and miscarriages made this impossible.

I've got 5! And wouldn't want any more tbh I feel this is the perfect number me.

I'd stick at 2. Currently pregnant with my second and there's no way I could do another 9 months of sickness, PGP, carpal tunnel, heartburn and all the rest! Potentially if I could guarantee a seamless pregnancy and birth, I'd consider a third but I'm not sure I'd like being outnumbered...

I might have had one more dc, with more money and a night nanny! I already have 4dc. It has been tough at times, but the good out ways the difficult parts.

I worry about them, especially with the threat of AI takeover which if I had known about before I probably wouldn't have had so many dc. I hope and pray that they work on AI safety for sake mine and others dc's future.

I’d have had one more I think (have two), I didn’t really enjoy pregnancy because of nausea then PGP but I loved both my maternity leaves, best 2 years of my life! I would have loved to be a SAHM if we could have afforded it

None. I have one. Parenting isn't for me. Wish I'd known that before having a baby.

You didnt have to worry about money, space or your age

I'm now 66 years old and thinking about my years past and the OP's post, I'd say 4. However, I only got 2 due to financial restrictions.

4 or 5