How can I improve my libido?!

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I’m early 40s and just feel like my sex drive has vanished and I don’t know how to get it back! Been in my relationship for over 10 years and it’s all good, not feeling overly confident in myself at the moment, feel I could loose a few pounds I don’t know if that’s contributing at all, but I’m sure not all women in their early 40s loose their sex drive?! Anyone got any tips?

Look up the symptoms of peri menopause & see if any symptoms resonate with you. It could be the start of peri menopause where the 3 hormones fluctuate and reduce the libido.
Also take a look at the work of Dr Karen Gurney - aka The Sex Doctor on Instagram. She has written 2 great books about sex & desire & she explains this very well (look at what she means by sexual currency).
Finally, look up Jenny Keane on Insta or her website. She has online workshops that you can pay for & watch privately with your partner. They cover various topics but there's one about "keeping the spark alive" and it gets great reviews.
I hope things improve for you soon.

Thank you, I have thought it may be the start of peri menopause. If it is will it come back one day?!

HRT including testosterone

I’m still on the pill at the moment

How long have you been on the pill? The pill was the biggest killer for my libido

Get an exciting lover 😬😂

@Coconutter24 years!

I was on it for 15 then came off it to see if it would help and it did

Come off the pill and try a mirena instead for the first step
if that doesn't help, get on oestrogen and testosterone too

Going off the pill made mine come back.

I definitely agree about coming off the pill.

Download some erotica onto your Kindle/library app? I quite like the Beasts of the Briar series 😬

I have had no sex drive for so long now got to be going on over 10 years. I'm only in my early forties but dread getting in. A relationship because I have no sex drive. If I've had a drink and relaxed it's there but otherwise nothing. I think I will be single forever at this rate as so scared of a man in in a relationship with wanting sex and me always saying no 😔