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RiP Jilly Cooper

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Daphnedot · 06/10/2025 10:51

So bloody sad 😢

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MysticHalfWitch · 06/10/2025 12:34

Lobelia123 · 06/10/2025 12:10

I found all her books extremely silly and predictable, but think of great nostalgia of the whole 80s/90s bonkbuster era....the precursor of chit lit! Shirley Conran 'Lace', Barbara Taylor Bradford 'A Woman of Subtance', Judith Krantz 'Ill Take Manhattan' etc etc and Jilly Cooper was definately a huge part of the whole thing. They were probably all poorly written and wildly improbable, but they played a part in starting to change the perception of women in books and show women who were powerful and successful against all the odds - the dawn of the 80s woman who was more than a secretary or girl Friday, but the boss!

Interestingly I believe completely the opposite. I tend to disagree with people when they put her books in the same ‘bonkbuster’ category as Danielle Steele, Barbara Cartland etc.

Whilst her books did have a fair amount of sex in them, what stood out to me was how well researched and detailed they were, with stories spanning decades of characters. It’s thanks to Jilly I can now hold my own in a conversation about Polo or orchestras.

LaMarschallin · 06/10/2025 12:37

Loved her writing, fiction and nonfiction.
I really do feel quite sad.
My top four:
Rivals
Riders
Emily (the one I read first)
The British in Love (introduced me to a lot of favourite poems)
(Have to say, I don't remember her on cooking programmes of the 90s, tasting wine and recommending which one went with which dish as mentioned by a PP.
Could that be Jilly Goolden?)

VanCleefArpels · 06/10/2025 12:38

At an all girls full boarding school in the eighties her novels were an absolutely vital part of our extra curricular education 😆- well thumbed copies of Pandora, Imogen et al did the rounds and of course we all went on to fall in love with RCB. Good times!

PermanentTemporary · 06/10/2025 12:39

Interesting that I certainly never fell in love with RCB, he’s awful! If he’s really based on what’s it Parker Bowles, all the more so. Billy on the other hand…

Frankenbetty · 06/10/2025 12:40

So sad…as a Gen x I learnt all about sex from jilly cooper and Jackie Collins novels

Ozgirl76 · 06/10/2025 12:41

I feel genuine sadness over her passing too. Her books were such a huge part of my teenage years and I’ve read and re-read the Rutshire Chronicles throughout the last 30 years so many times.
I hope her children know just how much her books meant to so many people. The quintessential English experience and for lots of us, our first introduction to the foibles and intricacies of the upper classes.

Vitriolinsanity · 06/10/2025 12:42

I described someone as wet just last week as it is one of the best insults ever. I actually said “oh no” when I saw today’s headline. What a brilliant lady, what a way to spend your life colouring the world with words. Thanks Jilly, x

lifeonmars100 · 06/10/2025 12:42

Very sad, such an entertaining writer and came across as a really positive person.

Roselily123 · 06/10/2025 12:43

Lobsterteapot · 06/10/2025 11:04

Love Jilly Cooper, her books are like eating chocolate in a hot bath on a cold night. So comforting and have got me through some terrible times.

Me too.
I’ve read the entire Rupert Campbell Black series twice
rip

Fannyannie · 06/10/2025 12:45

So sad. Jilly ‘s books defined my youth, still love them now. She created a wonderful exciting colourful world of lust horses and dogs. A warm hug.

Best wishes to her heartbroken family.

Roselily123 · 06/10/2025 12:45

Frankenbetty · 06/10/2025 12:40

So sad…as a Gen x I learnt all about sex from jilly cooper and Jackie Collins novels

OMG
Me too
Discovered Jackie first and then found the English version - Jilly Grin

VivaDixie · 06/10/2025 12:45

At 52 years old I am embarrassed to say that I don't think I have ever read any of her novels other than snatched snippets of Riders at school.

I need to read her now. Please could you wonderful mumsnetters let me know where I should start?

isitmyturn · 06/10/2025 12:46

I returned to her books last year having originally read them as they were published in my 20s and 30s.
I finished Polo yesterday. Filled with puns , outrageous mock Spanish and her descriptions of the countryside this time round which I didn't appreciate originally. Her quotes from Robert Frost have led me to read more of his poetry.

"But I have promises to keep, and miles to go before I sleep".

Her books were witty, joyful and uplifting.
And those puns.

LaMarschallin · 06/10/2025 12:47

MysticHalfWitch · 06/10/2025 12:34

Interestingly I believe completely the opposite. I tend to disagree with people when they put her books in the same ‘bonkbuster’ category as Danielle Steele, Barbara Cartland etc.

Whilst her books did have a fair amount of sex in them, what stood out to me was how well researched and detailed they were, with stories spanning decades of characters. It’s thanks to Jilly I can now hold my own in a conversation about Polo or orchestras.

Very much agree, particularly about the research. She was also very well read herself and it would be easy to miss a lot of her jokes and puns if you didn't have a decent knowledge of literature.
People who haven't read her assume that her books are badly written bonkbusters; given that they probably haven't read, say, Judith Krantz or Shirley Conran who they'd class as similar writers either, they're probably ill placed to make the comparison between authors.
Jilly actually did a very funny review of "Lace" by Shirley Conran, concluding that she might have made a bit of fun of the book because it was such a bestseller and so she, Jilly, was suffering from "pennies envy".

isitmyturn · 06/10/2025 12:48

VivaDixie · 06/10/2025 12:45

At 52 years old I am embarrassed to say that I don't think I have ever read any of her novels other than snatched snippets of Riders at school.

I need to read her now. Please could you wonderful mumsnetters let me know where I should start?

Have you watched Rivals on Disney? If so I would start there.
Otherwise Riders, Rivals then Polo.

murasaki · 06/10/2025 12:50

cgwdwnmi · 06/10/2025 11:44

I loved her book "Appassionata" about the Rutminster Symphony Orchestra. I'm in the classical music world and although the book sounds a bit like an over the top farce, it's actually very close to the truth. Absolute loved it and laughed all the way through. I think it's time to read it again.

My sister worked with a Rannaldini alike. She too said it was very true to life.

Jilly always seems like great fun. I shall raise a g and t to her later.

VanCleefArpels · 06/10/2025 12:52

Ok so the Queen’s tribute has brought a lump to my throat

RiP Jilly Cooper
Cynic17 · 06/10/2025 12:52

Queen Camilla has just put out a lovely and very personal message about Jilly, the last line of which reads: "And may her hereafter be filled with impossibly handsome men and devoted dogs". To be honest, that has brought the tears to my eyes and a lump into my throat.....

murasaki · 06/10/2025 12:53

VanCleefArpels · 06/10/2025 12:52

Ok so the Queen’s tribute has brought a lump to my throat

That's just lovely.

VivaDixie · 06/10/2025 12:56

isitmyturn · 06/10/2025 12:48

Have you watched Rivals on Disney? If so I would start there.
Otherwise Riders, Rivals then Polo.

Thank you - I don't have Disney plus but will start with these books - I had a feeling Rivals would be the first! I feel I need some escapism at the moment and everyone's lovely words about how comforting her books are has made me want to read.

I was very sad to read the headline too - despite not having read her books she really was a fixture in Gen X teen conversations - and it's funny/heartwarming as I am picking up on some of the references here Smile

Ddakji · 06/10/2025 12:57

RIP Jilly. Lovely tribute from Camilla,
I’m sure they were kindred spirits.

Favourite books:
Harriet
Imogen
Bella

Rivals
Polo
Appassionata

VanCleefArpels · 06/10/2025 12:57

Cynic17 · 06/10/2025 12:52

Queen Camilla has just put out a lovely and very personal message about Jilly, the last line of which reads: "And may her hereafter be filled with impossibly handsome men and devoted dogs". To be honest, that has brought the tears to my eyes and a lump into my throat.....

Me too - my husband thinks I’m going mad. He will never understand the relationship between Gen X women and our Jilly!

LipbalmOrKnickers · 06/10/2025 12:58

I'm so sad we've lost Jilly, her books have been shared favourites of my Mum and I for years. I'm so glad she lived long enough to see the first season of 'Rivals' get the enthusiastic reception it did, it was splendid!

plominoagain · 06/10/2025 12:59

VanCleefArpels · 06/10/2025 12:52

Ok so the Queen’s tribute has brought a lump to my throat

well that’s done it . Hard hearted though I normally am , that’s made me cry .

RIP Jilly . The go to author of my lifetime , if ever in need of gentle wit and comfort , and the epitome of irrepressible.

I will raise a glass to you this evening , whilst in the bath, Floris scented , before wrapping myself in a dark blue towel .

blobby10 · 06/10/2025 13:04

@VivaDixie my recommendation would be to start with Riders and go in sequence otherwise half the stuff in Rivals won't make sense!