How often do your 11yr olds have friends to sleepover?

[Gymmum82]

Interested to hear off others how often your 11 year olds have friends to stay over.

My husband hates having kids over especially to sleepover so I feel like here it’s almost never. Maybe birthdays and that’s about it. I feel bad for my kids as when I was growing up I’d stay over at friends or they at mine basically every weekend.

According to my kids their friends have sleepovers most weekends but I’m not sure if they say that because we rarely do and I’m not sure if they don’t get invited because it’s not reciprocated.
So what’s the norm for you?

Once a year, at best, and often it is a cousin.
Daytime play dates are more often and most are at public pools, cinema or playgrounds.
It is not odd to have no sleepovers.

Your DH might prefer your family taking a guest child to the soccer field, a swimming pool, basketball court or to the local river to fish.

Maybe twice a year. DS isn’t bothered.

At 11, DD had them weekly sometimes friends here, sometimes staying at a friends. DS less frequently, maybe once or twice a month.

I loved having them here and I still have really good relationships with some of the kids that stayed frequently even now they're in their 20s. They'll often stop for a chat and a glass of wine with me when they're visiting DS or DD.

Never had a sleepover in my life, nor did any of my 5 kids. Guess we're all different; there's no right or wrong.

@Blanketpolicylo ex your post this is what we do they take over the living room too in our house. That keeps the mouse away from the bedrooms too and I sleep in peace. I loved my DDs friends. Dd1 changed groups at secondary I don’t know those girls as well but I see them plenty. Dd2 has had the same friends since nursery and they are all still my babies and I am v close with them. I longed for this stage too

The kids have sleepovers practically every weekend either here or other friends houses, They don't even ask anymore, I either walk in to a house full or get a message to say they're staying elsewhere. Rule is, it's only Friday and Saturday night, no school nights unless it's an emergency. Their friends feel like part of the family now, not guests anymore. And I love it that way

i think sleepovers are a weird concept. What do they gain from it? Couldn’t think of anything worse than having other people’s kids sleeping at my house. Have them for a play date / dinner then send them home.

Never!

We were never allowed sleepovers or friends over, or even allowed friends in the front door! I used to appreciate having sleepovers at my friends houses and it has given me such lovely memories. I let my daughter's friends sleepover as I don't want her having the childhood that I had and it makes her happy. She stays over at friends also. It gets easier as they're older.

We still host sleepovers relatively often and my DDs are older teens now. It’s a lot less full on than the crazy noisy sleepovers they used to have! Generally just one friend at a time these days. I had lots of sleepovers as a kid as I was an only child and loved them, so wanted the same for my children.

Mine are now older teens but never had a sleepover.

Chatting into the wee small hours, midnight feasts…They are a right of passage.