How often do your 11yr olds have friends to sleepover?

[Gymmum82]

Interested to hear off others how often your 11 year olds have friends to stay over.

My husband hates having kids over especially to sleepover so I feel like here it’s almost never. Maybe birthdays and that’s about it. I feel bad for my kids as when I was growing up I’d stay over at friends or they at mine basically every weekend.

According to my kids their friends have sleepovers most weekends but I’m not sure if they say that because we rarely do and I’m not sure if they don’t get invited because it’s not reciprocated.
So what’s the norm for you?

About 6 times a year. We wouldn't have time to do them every weekend - weekend sports, music trips, Scouts camps, revision camps, family visits, weekend trips out of town, days out and theatre and concert trips where we get back late.

Never , I have enough kids of my own without looking after someone else's aswell, kid's also aren't allowed to come play in my house either for the same reason .

They went to sleepovers as often as we hosted them. 11/12 was park sleepover age here and it was often weekly.

They don't need to give a reason let alone a good one ! Just because you're happy to have other people's kids over that's your choice , doesn't mean everyone has to .

A few times a year.

Practically never.
Maybe the occasional birthday, once each.

Why would it be different if you have a boy? Paedos go for boys too if that's what you mean.....

I hate sleepovers - there’s no sleep and it ruins the rest of our weekend.
I reckon my two -11 and 14 are invited to a sleepover 4/5 times a year each and I’ll host the same amount of times (reluctantly)

Only on birthdays really, 12 year old has just asked for a high sleeper so she can have a sofa bed underneath for easier sleepovers so maybe more often now, or Maybe not because I don't particularly enjoy them or her going.

My daughter is 11 and it's always the same friend that sleeps mover so it doesn't bother us at all, probably once or twice a month but she asks for mor than that but we don't always say yes because of my shifts etc. Why doesn't your husband like them?

My 13 year old DS has always actively hated the idea of a sleepover, as have most of his friends. So, for him it's a never!
DD (8) had one for her birthday earlier this year and has been to a few sleepovers for close friends birthdays but that's it.

DS13 has never had one or been to one. He’s stayed away for week long training camps a couple of times a year where he shares a room so not like he can’t manage away from home. Friend are welcome and they come and go from the house weekday evenings and most of the weekend but don’t stay over. He’s never asked to have a sleepover or to go to one! I don’t think any of his friends do this either.

We have had cousins sleep over a couple of times but never friends, because I can’t be bothered with that! My children have been to a handful of sleepovers, normally for a birthday.

We’ve never done it as we live in a 3 bedroom house and my 11 y/o shares with his 6 y/o in bunk beds so we genuinely don’t have space for overnight guests.

We are planning to move to a 4 bed next year so maybe we’ll do sleepovers then, which I’m slightly dreading as I’m like your husband and hate having kids round, just can’t relax when they have friends over but at least it’s finite as they’re usually gone by 9pm, the thoughts of having them overnight is awful as I just couldn’t switch off and enjoy my weekend.

Ill just have to suck it up and do it though, as like you, I had sleepovers all the time when I was a kid!

Never … we don’t have space. He occasionally goes to one of his friends but isn’t a ‘thing’ amongst his social group (10 yr old). He’s busy at weekends with various activities plus we go away a lot so not at home very often. If he’s at home, he’s speaking/ playing with friend on Roblox / Fortnite so doesn’t miss out on interaction with friends. I think boys generally have less sleepovers than girls anyway.

My son is 11 and has never had, or been invited to, a sleep over. He's been on Cub and Scout Camps, slept at my Dad's once and that's it. Mind you, I taught all my son's Primary School friends from KS2 so maybe that's why he's never had a sleep over.

Yes, because it's a well known fact that only men can be paedophiles! 🤣

Not true in my house. My DS 17 has had far more sleepovers in his life than my DD 21 has had.

Never. When I was young, it was two or three times a year, mainly for parties.

Same. Can't stand them. None of mine have had friends over for sleepovers. I like my sleep and couldn't think of anything worse than having other people's children overnight.

I am very similar with four of my own, lifei s busy. We hardly have little ones in playing for same reasons. Lots of extracurricular classes means we just don't have the time either. Even weekends it's busy with sport. 🤷‍♀️

As much as weekly. Now dd2 has stopped her Saturday activity I’m expect it much more. It’s usually either one of her besties since nursery or both. I love those girls I’ve made it clear she doesn’t need to ask it’s always yes unless we are away/have to go up an event early in the morning. She’s 12.

Sometimes we have one of them on a school night but their parents usually arrange that.

Dp loves it and will get up early and make pancakes.

I bought double beds for both the DDs when we moved to a bigger house so it was easier plus we have a cupboard full of spare duvets and sheets and a fold up bed and an air mattress.

At 11 maybe once or twice a year! I wouldn’t have minded more but we didn’t for no other reason than my son collects large lego sets and lots of them - like titanic, all the Modular’s etc. They’re his pride & joy. He displays them, never plays after they are built. On the two occasions he had friends to sleep, they broke parts of his Lego and he vetoed any further sleepovers himself! Now, he’s 14 and he has his best friend to stay most weekends or he sleeps there.

Only for birthdays. So each of my 2 daughters has a sleepover once a year for 2-4 close friends, and they will each be invited to approx 2 sleepovers per year. Current ages are 11 and 14. Started having sleepovers for 9th birthday I think.

They are ten times more likely to be