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Why oh why do people turn up to work when they’re poorly?! 😡😡😡

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slippedawaylikeabottleofwine · 29/09/2025 11:34

I hate it. My colleague turned up, whinged about how sick she felt for two hours, then threw up in the middle of the carpet and went home. She admitted she’d been feeling poorly all weekend. There’s no excuse for it

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XenoBitch · 30/09/2025 13:43

'Sick' to me means someone feels sick... as in they feel like they might be sick at some point. Poorly or unwell is more a catch all term and covers a lot more from having a bad migraine to mental health issues.

Calmingsnake · 30/09/2025 13:47

frostybritches · 30/09/2025 13:42

Another poster incapable of any form of critical thinking. Rudeness implies it was deliberate. Do you know many people who enjoy spontaneously vomiting on the carpet in front of their colleagues for fun?

It is disgusting, you’re right about that. Maybe try a little compassion for the embarrassment of the person it happened to rather than focusing on your own feelings of discomfort.

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Ok! Have a nice day. As I said, it’s not that deep. OP asked if they were being unreasonable or not, I gave my opinion. Simple as that

frostybritches · 30/09/2025 14:03

Calmingsnake · 30/09/2025 13:47

Ok! Have a nice day. As I said, it’s not that deep. OP asked if they were being unreasonable or not, I gave my opinion. Simple as that

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Hmm it’s been ‘deep’ enough for you to argue the toss but because people are calling you out on your shitty remarks you’re now far too superior to continue this discussion. Ok then.

notacooldad · 30/09/2025 14:09

Does your company pay sick pay? If not, blame them and not the colleague.
If they do… well then she’s a bit selfish, but maybe she didn’t think it was a bad as it turned out to be
Even if they do have a sick pay you only have to have a run of bad luck to fall foul of them. I had no sickness for 16 years and within 8 months I broke my arm, had a chest infection and was knocked over by car. I nearly lost my job.

notacooldad · 30/09/2025 14:12

Gosh, using the word 'poorly' for 'unwell' is babyish now is it?

Its just an everyday word where i live. ]people say ' oh,you look poorly, whats the matter?' Or ' I was poorly yesterday, if had a bug'
That doesn't sound babyish to me.
Maybe you are just being weird.

Comedycook · 30/09/2025 14:44

notacooldad · 30/09/2025 14:12

Gosh, using the word 'poorly' for 'unwell' is babyish now is it?

Its just an everyday word where i live. ]people say ' oh,you look poorly, whats the matter?' Or ' I was poorly yesterday, if had a bug'
That doesn't sound babyish to me.
Maybe you are just being weird.

Ive always viewed the word 'poorly' as something you say to very young child or to a very elderly person. I wouldn't use it in relation to myself.

Calmingsnake · 30/09/2025 15:05

frostybritches · 30/09/2025 14:03

Hmm it’s been ‘deep’ enough for you to argue the toss but because people are calling you out on your shitty remarks you’re now far too superior to continue this discussion. Ok then.

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The situation isn’t deep, no. But peoples “shitty” attitudes deserve “shitty” replies. Hmm🤣 Anything else? Go back to talking about your discharge on threads🤢🤣

frostybritches · 30/09/2025 15:46

Calmingsnake · 30/09/2025 15:05

The situation isn’t deep, no. But peoples “shitty” attitudes deserve “shitty” replies. Hmm🤣 Anything else? Go back to talking about your discharge on threads🤢🤣

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And clearly deep enough for you to look into other posters previous posting history.

Does discharge disgust you too? Have you thought about talking to someone about your issues surrounding very normal bodily functions? Bless your heart.

Calmingsnake · 30/09/2025 16:07

frostybritches · 30/09/2025 15:46

And clearly deep enough for you to look into other posters previous posting history.

Does discharge disgust you too? Have you thought about talking to someone about your issues surrounding very normal bodily functions? Bless your heart.

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Just wanted to see if you always thought superior of yourself to others. Getting into discussions that have nothing to do with you.

Don’t bless my heart, bless your own. Arguing with strangers on the internet over something so trivial🤭 Are you elderly and bored? Jobless and bored? Or just a very sad person who comes onto threads looking to argue with strangers? Cringe

frostybritches · 30/09/2025 16:17

Calmingsnake · 30/09/2025 16:07

Just wanted to see if you always thought superior of yourself to others. Getting into discussions that have nothing to do with you.

Don’t bless my heart, bless your own. Arguing with strangers on the internet over something so trivial🤭 Are you elderly and bored? Jobless and bored? Or just a very sad person who comes onto threads looking to argue with strangers? Cringe

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It’s an open forum, I don’t need an invitation to join in. That’s not how the internet works. It’s not me saying other people are rude and disgusting for being unwell, that’s you. Superior much?

The irony of you insinuating that I’m sad for arguing when that’s all you’ve done on this thread. Plus spending time delving into the posting history of people who don’t agree with you. That’s wild.

You do sound very immature with the petty, adolescent insults so I won’t waste anymore time arguing with someone so silly. Grow up.

Calmingsnake · 30/09/2025 16:18

frostybritches · 30/09/2025 16:17

It’s an open forum, I don’t need an invitation to join in. That’s not how the internet works. It’s not me saying other people are rude and disgusting for being unwell, that’s you. Superior much?

The irony of you insinuating that I’m sad for arguing when that’s all you’ve done on this thread. Plus spending time delving into the posting history of people who don’t agree with you. That’s wild.

You do sound very immature with the petty, adolescent insults so I won’t waste anymore time arguing with someone so silly. Grow up.

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Great bye👋🏻

BatchCookBabe · 30/09/2025 16:21

XenoBitch · 30/09/2025 13:43

'Sick' to me means someone feels sick... as in they feel like they might be sick at some point. Poorly or unwell is more a catch all term and covers a lot more from having a bad migraine to mental health issues.

Exactly this. ^ And as I said, my older/elderly family members and friends in their 70s, 80s, and 90s, would give a few people on here a short shrift if they called their words 'babyish.' How incredibly rude to say that about how someone speaks, and the words they use. Have a word with yourselves. Hmm

dreamiesformolly · 30/09/2025 16:29

BatchCookBabe · 30/09/2025 16:21

Exactly this. ^ And as I said, my older/elderly family members and friends in their 70s, 80s, and 90s, would give a few people on here a short shrift if they called their words 'babyish.' How incredibly rude to say that about how someone speaks, and the words they use. Have a word with yourselves. Hmm

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How is it rude to describe words in any particular way? It's not the same thing at all as insulting the people who use those words. You're coming off a bit 'professionally offended' now tbh.

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slippedawaylikeabottleofwine · 30/09/2025 16:44

Well. This took a turn

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Exmouthlady1965 · 30/09/2025 17:58

Sickness policy. She may well get 6 months full pay, but that isn't the issue. My company pay 6 months also. But, that's long term. Our policy is that we can only be off sick 3 times of the year and only for a max 7 days over those 3 occasions!

ThatRubyRaven · 30/09/2025 18:09

slippedawaylikeabottleofwine · 29/09/2025 11:34

I hate it. My colleague turned up, whinged about how sick she felt for two hours, then threw up in the middle of the carpet and went home. She admitted she’d been feeling poorly all weekend. There’s no excuse for it

I read this as it’s a salaried office job with a sickness policy nobody loves but unless you take the mick, you’re not getting sacked or disciplined; an uncomfortable return to work interview maybe. I completely relate to you OP. Even in the event of non payment for sickness, please don’t come and spreads your germs around. For one, your colleagues may have family who are immunosuppressed and you’ve just turned them into a walking risk. Secondly, I don’t want your manky bug either. As an emetophobe, this would have sent me. You have my full sympathy. Take care. Also it sounds like a hangover or similar (two days ‘lead up’ of feeling poorly?) so rest easy if you can.

catlover123456789 · 30/09/2025 18:13

I used to encourage my team to work from home if they were unwell, I didn't want the rest of the team catching it.
But if you can't work remotely then you're pretty much expected to turn up and get on with it.

Dontcallmescarface · 30/09/2025 18:15

My employer doesn't have sick pay so unless I physically can't get out of bed then I'll go in because SSP doesn't pay the bills.

Mumto2at · 30/09/2025 18:15

NHS for you. Im there patient facing, felt faint and ran off to be sick, came back and they said see how I feel in an hour 🙃 even pregnant I was having to get someone to cover my 1:1 every 20 minutes as I felt like I was going to be sick and they just said it was my own fault 😂

XenoBitch · 30/09/2025 18:16

catlover123456789 · 30/09/2025 18:13

I used to encourage my team to work from home if they were unwell, I didn't want the rest of the team catching it.
But if you can't work remotely then you're pretty much expected to turn up and get on with it.

Yep, I had to be careful about my sickness absences as I was already on the disciplinary route.
One time, I turned up to work feeling rotten. I commuted by motorbike and I was in my full gear in front of a heater and still shivering. I could not work at all but had to be a nuisance for half a day so I could be sent home and it not count. I did this for days.

HardyMauveQuoter · 30/09/2025 18:47

I'm innthe nhs too and get staged for being off sick. So yeah I go in when I'm ill too. Blame the work place not the individual

ToadRage · 30/09/2025 18:56

She may have felt pressured to come in. It was always like that at my old job. The first thing they always said was 'are you sure you can't come in?' Once I was called back half way through the day and told they didn't think my 'reason' was good enough and they expected me in that afternoon, the day after a minor op, so I wore my short sleeved shirt to flaunt my bandages. On two occasions I had a highly infectious condition (conjunctivitis, shingles) I explained that I felt fine but would stay away to protect colleagues and customers if they wanted me to, they didn't even entertain the notion. It's disgusting that companies care more about attendance than the health of their employees.

Bec1968 · 30/09/2025 20:04

God ur all heart lol .. id say if she had 'felt' sick all wkend, she probably thought she wasnt going to actually be sick ... and she probably caught it from work on Thurs/Fri ... and throwing up is a reflex, can't help where or when u do it ..

Wexone · 30/09/2025 21:09

catlover123456789 · 30/09/2025 18:13

I used to encourage my team to work from home if they were unwell, I didn't want the rest of the team catching it.
But if you can't work remotely then you're pretty much expected to turn up and get on with it.

then you get pressure from work that you haven't done your quota for the month for days on site so can't win 🤷‍♀️

fruitypancake · 30/09/2025 21:31

eww , that’s gross and very unfair on others