Thoughts on a man who is 35 and is still a virgin?

[Benny91]

Morning all,

Just wondering about a friend of mine who is still a virgin at 35 and has never had a girlfriend?

How unusual is it? And is it a red flag?

I assume this is about you, OP. It's really no big deal, and not as unusual as you'd think.
I really don't think seeing a prostitute is the way to go.

My aunty on my dads side was a virgin till 46 she said what was the rush im saving myself for marriage.
She didnt get married but did find the one as she puts it.

I also new a man that waited he was 39 when he met his wife still together years later very happy.

Religious reasons he’s a virgin? It’s 2025. Are we still questioning this?

I think it's fairly common for men and women to be virgins in their 30s, it's hardly identifiable.

It's kind of weird, assuming that you do believe firmly in informed consent, to then start mocking and making accusations about people who decide to actually exercise their own personal right to consent (or indeed not to) for as long as they choose.

It's effectively the same lack school of 'thought' employed by the boorish creeps who proposition women whom they fancy and then, when their advances are declined, shout up about how they must be 'frigid', 'too ugly' or a lesbian or... anything apart from acknowledging that they have freely exercised their absolute right to say No and that is enough reason every single time.

I'd love to know how it feels to get laid but I'm not paying for it and I want the reason to be right. Given my history I'll still be waiting years from now. C'est la vie.

My grandfather married in his forties, never had a girlfriend before that to anyone's knowledge. They had three children .
I also had a female friend who was still a virgin in her late thirties.

He's waiting for the right girl, yes he could be shy, but,, instead of breaking confidentiality , try help him to meet girls and date them, not embarrassing him on a forum.

I don't see how it's possible to embarrass the subject of this thread when the OP is the only one who knows his identity.

Exactly, it's beyond irritating when posters start accusing OPs of a breach in confidentiality, when zero identifying details have been given.

Many people want to wait until they are in love and sadly that doesn't always happen mutually. I can see how it works out that way, the moment simply doesn't happen and the longer you wait the less likely you are to pursue a casual thing because it's been built up to be a big thing and too precious to throw away. I wouldn't see it as a red flag but I guess it still counts as 'baggage'. If I was a single woman that age it would be off putting I admit, but if I fell for him I'd get over it, which is exactly what he may be hoping for.