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ANNOYING NEIGHBOUR

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Flowercandy · 22/09/2025 16:00

Hi all I've got a neighbour who's lovely known him few years now on and off friendships and nothing more. But as of late we been hanging out he does massages etc and offered me one i said yes that's fine there's been flirting etc but just friendly flirt nothing more. Anyway i had a massage he then strips to his boxers it was a bit wierd i laughed it off and told him that i felt fine with the massage and no more is needed. He's very controlling in a way aswell like his texts are like why you not getting back to me why take ao long etc. So today he said he gave a shop keeper lady w gift now this shop keeper does nothing for him it was just a gift out of goodness of his heart. But with me he's then text me saying i would give you nice things but your to selfish etc. Im thinking what because your more concerned about giving me massages and touching me in weirds ways you got the hump. Says of i meet him and go to his place and help him out he'll pay for my company. I have to do things for any gift not that im wanting gifts. He boosts about giving random people gifts but they do nothing for him there just random shop keepers. His behaviour is very odd and controlling. And he said ill be sorry when he's not there anymore etc. Is this normal behaviour or is it just me being over the top he gets very annoying and controlling on texts.

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MotherTuckinGenius · 22/09/2025 16:02

You know it’s not normal behaviour 🤡

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Flowercandy · 22/09/2025 16:03

I won't give a sxit about u anymore because u don't value good people, good intentions and kindness.

Your just really selfish and child like

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Flowercandy · 22/09/2025 16:04

I was going to give u toiletries expensive stuff and even buy what u bought today but honestly u are in many ways the worst friend

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Flowercandy · 22/09/2025 16:04

And I couldn't care less

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Flowercandy · 22/09/2025 16:05

No u missed out on a holiday, friendship, treats, gifts etc

U deserve nothing.

No offence but u need to look at yourself

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Flowercandy · 22/09/2025 16:05

You're not thick just too self centred and greedy and silly.

U on own now.

I've lost all respect and regard for u

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AphroditesSeashell · 22/09/2025 16:06

Well, he's not lovely, is he? He's sexually inappropriate, emotionally manipulative and worryingly controlling, just for starters.

My advice is to get some self respect and stop allowing random people to treat you like shit. Why do you voluntarily spend time with such a person?

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Flowercandy · 22/09/2025 16:06

There the texts today because i didn't get bk to him over the weekend

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didntlikeanyofthesuggestions · 22/09/2025 16:07

Well this post is very confusing. Obviously avoid contact with your neighbour though.

Tiredandneedtogotobed · 22/09/2025 16:07

Are these the texts he has sent you? Then you are right they are not normal and I would block him and keep communication minimal.

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Flowercandy · 22/09/2025 16:08

Im on my own aswell don't have many friends i have a friend that comes down at the wekeends who's a school friend lovely person but other than that pretty much on my own. Sometimes it's loneliness but i do not wish to have the controllingness from him it gets me quite upset

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Flowercandy · 22/09/2025 16:10

Tiredandneedtogotobed · 22/09/2025 16:07

Are these the texts he has sent you? Then you are right they are not normal and I would block him and keep communication minimal.

Yes the texts he sent me today because i didn't get back to him over the weekend. He works in the shop next door and lives upstairs. Sometimes treats me to things in the shop as he said there i would of bought you the things today but i don't deserve it etc

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YodasHairyButt · 22/09/2025 16:12

Yeah he’s massively overstepping there. Take his nasty flouncing as the opportunity to end this friendship and block him. He’s not a nice man.

SplendidUtterly · 22/09/2025 16:12

He has definitely got the wrong idea and sees you as potentially more than just a friend.
He also sounds like a controlling narc, grey rock him I say!

OurChristmasMiracle · 22/09/2025 16:14

Time to send a message stating “your needs from thia friendship is not something that I am able to provide and therefore I think it is best we end this friendship”

I would then block. I would only send the message so that there is evidence that you don’t want a friendship in case you later need police involvement.

AphroditesSeashell · 22/09/2025 16:15

Flowercandy · 22/09/2025 16:08

Im on my own aswell don't have many friends i have a friend that comes down at the wekeends who's a school friend lovely person but other than that pretty much on my own. Sometimes it's loneliness but i do not wish to have the controllingness from him it gets me quite upset

You sound emotionally vulnerable and unfortunately, he sounds like a man who has recognised this and is taking advantage of it.

My concern is the potential for him to get more volatile and controlling, perhaps even aggressive. If he's showing this many red flags without this relationship even becoming romantic, it definitely has indicators to get worse.

I strongly recommend that you cut ties before this causes you real problems. Look into joining some community groups for company. There are other options to have come companionship besides a predator like him.

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Flowercandy · 22/09/2025 16:18

YodasHairyButt · 22/09/2025 16:12

Yeah he’s massively overstepping there. Take his nasty flouncing as the opportunity to end this friendship and block him. He’s not a nice man.

This is the thing because hes helped me out with bits and peices around the flat he then tells me i have to return the favour buy helping him out and popping over his etc

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Flowercandy · 22/09/2025 16:18

SplendidUtterly · 22/09/2025 16:12

He has definitely got the wrong idea and sees you as potentially more than just a friend.
He also sounds like a controlling narc, grey rock him I say!

He gets really controlling in messages yes

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Flowercandy · 22/09/2025 16:19

OurChristmasMiracle · 22/09/2025 16:14

Time to send a message stating “your needs from thia friendship is not something that I am able to provide and therefore I think it is best we end this friendship”

I would then block. I would only send the message so that there is evidence that you don’t want a friendship in case you later need police involvement.

Only thing that's awkward is i use the shop next door and see him everyday even tho there's others people who work there its just chancing dodging him

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Flowercandy · 22/09/2025 16:21

AphroditesSeashell · 22/09/2025 16:15

You sound emotionally vulnerable and unfortunately, he sounds like a man who has recognised this and is taking advantage of it.

My concern is the potential for him to get more volatile and controlling, perhaps even aggressive. If he's showing this many red flags without this relationship even becoming romantic, it definitely has indicators to get worse.

I strongly recommend that you cut ties before this causes you real problems. Look into joining some community groups for company. There are other options to have come companionship besides a predator like him.

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Yes ive had disagreements with him before and we've not spoken but he's talked me around again and said he's missed me etc but he always goes down the route of saying sexual things then it ends up awkward again

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TeamBuffalo · 22/09/2025 16:21

Flowercandy · 22/09/2025 16:19

Only thing that's awkward is i use the shop next door and see him everyday even tho there's others people who work there its just chancing dodging him

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Use another shop. Or sign up for a weekly Tesco delivery.

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Flowercandy · 22/09/2025 16:29

TeamBuffalo · 22/09/2025 16:21

Use another shop. Or sign up for a weekly Tesco delivery.

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That's what im going to have to do i think as the texts are like bombarding aswell, if i message now saying i can't give what u require from this friendship he will throw another load of texts saying i need him ill regret it when he isn't there anymore

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OurChristmasMiracle · 22/09/2025 16:31

Flowercandy · 22/09/2025 16:29

That's what im going to have to do i think as the texts are like bombarding aswell, if i message now saying i can't give what u require from this friendship he will throw another load of texts saying i need him ill regret it when he isn't there anymore

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That’s why once you’ve sent the text you block him so you don’t get any further messages.

mzpq · 22/09/2025 16:33

He's a manipulative weirdo.

Block him and have no more to do with him.

eqpi4t2hbsnktd · 22/09/2025 16:40

Why are you letting a random neighbour massage you? Take your bins out when you're on holiday - yes. Rub your body - no.

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