Moments that changed you life forever?

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A few weeks ago my Daughters best friend was tragically killed at the age of 19. I know our lives have changed forever and my perception of the world will never be the same. I have ended an 8 year toxic relationship that I had clung onto but now I just think fuck it life is way to short for this sort of shit.

My other one is the phone ringing at 5am to tell me to get to the hospital as my Dad had taken a turn for the worse, I knew he was gone before I even got there and he was.

What was yours?

Going for a job interview and meeting my now husband. We've been together for over 20 years.

My life would be so different if I hadn't gone for that job interview.

I was trafficked into prostitution by a much older man I had thought was my boyfriend. I got out, but I'm not the same person. A lot of the time I'm not even really here. I just pretend.

Getting drunk and winking on online dating at a man….18 years later we’re old and married.

Very very long story short, friend turned up with a magazine with personal ads. I answered one. Married 30 years.

Having my first born at a very young age.

he truly changed the direction of my life in so many ways.
he’s in his 30s now and I had a sudden determination after having him that I would be able to single handedly provide a good life for us.

I have worked my absolute ass off at my craft and skill and now own a very successful business.

I met and married and had three more dc and they are all so close.
my eldest is an absolute true gent and I am so proud every day that without having him my life path would have been so different.

he’s made me who I am.

as his life is evolving with starting a family I am able to be there for them as well as provide for them and that really is what it was about for me.

getting the balance right

Went to a bar and met DH.

Hearing my DM has cancer.

Checking my online dating profile DMs ‘one last time’ before I closed my account… 10 years and 2 DC later ♥️

My parents got divorced when I was a child. Over 25 years ago.

The ripple effect of that still continues to that day. Unbelievable really.

The whole family dynamic forever complicated. Now I’ve got my own kids, it’s created a whole new layer of complexity too.

Not in a ‘I’m permanently traumatised’ way, more an endless political management eg ‘who gets Christmas’ and so on. 25 years of it FFS.

Watching my beloved mum died 15 days after being diagnosed with cancer. A month after going to the dr with "a bit of a pain in her side".
My final fuck flew away that day and I knew I would never ever be the same again.

Weirdly another one just today. My divorce completed this morning. New chapter, hopefully happier.

I moved my teenagers to a new area for A-levels for various reasons. DD was up for it but DS was not, he was a very quiet lad who I think would've happily stayed in his bedroom gaming forever. He went to a party and met a girl (not a girlfriend) and she introduced him to her gang and oh boy he changed beyond belief all for the better. He is now at Uni (with said girl and a bunch of friends from home) having the time of his life, we often chat about that singular decision to move and how different he would be. As a Mother I was torn over the decision but it was the push he so needed and it could not have worked out better.

So so sad but I totally get what you mean about about your final fuck! My relationship had been hanging by a thread for so long and when news of DD friend came it was a wtf am I wasting my precious life on this shit show of a relationship for.

Yayyy to the divorce and new beginnings

I'm so very sorry that happened to you.

When a close friend died from meningococcal septicaemia when we were 17. Her face was on the front page of all the newspapers the next day which felt so weird to us. We hadn’t long started 6th year at high school and our whole friend group was changed by it and everyone went off in different directions by the end of the year.

Another friend (one I had a secret crush on) died less than 2 years later, just after he turned 18 and that’s the point I went off the rails for a while, I’d already been struggling but losing another friend was just too much. I only really calmed down when I found myself unexpectedly pregnant a few years later.

Seeing a slight turning of his hand by my ex when on his phone, and realising that he was having an affair.

Bumping into a guy from my uni course while on a wander around campus. We hadn't talked much before that but got chatting and he has truly shaped my life for the better everyday.

Deciding to ride out covid in the town I grew up. Nearly didn't leave the city then last minute booked a flight. We took one suitcase between us as we thought it would be a week or two max. Going through the airport was so weird. That time out of the city made us re-evaluate everything for the infinitely better.

Moving to a job that was wildly different from anything I’ve ever done, immediately thinking wtf have I done (still regularly think that 4 years later as I’m still here!) but in doing so met my wonderful partner.

After many miserable experiences and let downs in my 30’s, watching everyone else progress in life and love, and thinking I’d never experience ‘real’ love or have someone truly love me for me, here I am. As cheesy as it sounds.

Asking for another employee, working conventional hours (chap worked lates, so created a delay in dealing with claims), to be my liaison on insurance issues. The replacement became my husband!

Going to a party many years ago that I was too tired to go to and not wanting to go to but ended up meeting DH at (so very glad I went)

My wonderful DM a dying of cancer within a year of diagnosis- had never occurred to me that she would die and not be there - miss her every day.

Reading the paperwork about a little 4 year old boy who had new. In care nearly his whole life - the little boy that DH and I would go on to adopt - changed our lives forever in the most fundamentally amazing way.

Having my family turn on me

I hadn't done anything but be a complete wreck due to the bullying and abuse i'd endured during my teens and twenties. I had my baby and was fragile and broken

They chose that time to treat me like shit and make fun of me

If it wasnt for them, I wouldn't be the mum I am now. They're waiting for me to come crawling back for help

Hasn't happened so far and I pray it never happens

Me, dd and dcat are a family because of their shitty actions. Just feel grateful

The moment I found out my husband, the love of my life and best friend for 20+ years, was cheating on me.
When I have been told the baby it took me so long to conceive had an incurable disease and I had to make an impossible choice.
When my mother died.
All of this happened within few years. I am no longer the same person.

I'm a member of a big Facebook group for members of my profession. I got into a heated discussion about something with a stranger. We got chatting, hit it off, and met up a week later even though we lived 100 miles apart. We moved in together 5 weeks later, and nearly 10 years later we are now married with two children and a successful business! I'm very glad I scrolled Facebook that afternoon rather than doing something more productive!

A man wordlessly passed me his dessert plate when he saw I didn’t have one.

That simple act of care made me realise my marriage was over. There’s no way my first husband would have looked after me like that.

It took me a further five years to escape, but the way that tiny act made me feel was the beginning of the end.

He’ll never know the effect he had.

Coming home from a parent/teacher evening to find my husband dead from a massive heart attack. Kids were upstairs in the bath with the babysitter (my DH originally supposed to be at work but stayed home to prepare for a trip so we kept her on). They had no idea and the babysitter put them to bed while I called the ambulance. Our lives changed forever.

@Criteria16 Wow you really have been through it, sounds too much for one person and I am not surprised you feel like that.

@Tarkan This is like DD friend. I think it is also the loss of innocence, you don't expect to lose a friend so young your life is about having fun and being on the edge of adulthood with so many opportunities ahead of you. Losing friends so young just shouldn't happen. Life really is so short.

@BeaLola Awww your Son sounds lovely and the loss of a parent is so profound isnt it? You just never feel the same again.

@mondaytosunday Oh my I am so sorry that must've been the most awful shock. Hope you have managed to find some peace.