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Is this a typical 8YO girl?

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Formerdarkhorse · 14/09/2025 08:41

DD is 8 (year 3) and over last few months has moved more to being a tween than a child. She wants more fashionable clothes and enjoys picking her own clothes when shopping/choosing outfits each day. Enjoys current music, making up ‘TikTok’ dances although she has definitely never used the app or any social media. Likes lipgloss, body sprays/perfumes at the weekend and occasionally requests her hair straightened if doing something like a party/dinner out. She does still play with toys and reads primarily, she also has lots of sports/hobbies and is very studious about school. She does have some YouTube/screen time, however she doesn’t have a huge amount of time to watch it and tends to self-regulate her usage anyway.

Is this typical for her age?
I had always presumed so, and whilst I’d love her to be little forever, I always try to let her become her own person. She does naturally tend to gravitate towards slightly older children to play (9/10).

I am asking as I have received some ongoing judgey comments from one of her friend’s mums, saying she is too old for her age, ‘where does she pick this up?’ and suggesting I am very permissive. I now get the impression this parent is discouraging the friendship on that basis.
Am I wildly off base in letting DD have these interests and grow up a little?

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LittleMonks11 · 14/09/2025 11:00

I think you need to impose strict time rules now as you are storing up a problem for yourself further down the line. She might not be bothered now but she will be as she gets older. If you’re allowing lip gloss and hair straightening at 8 I imagine she will have a full face on by 12. I would discourage if unless you’re happy with that. In answer to your question, I don’t believe it’s typical to be fussing at this level over her appearance.

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