Should I wear a fascinator or not?

[Whattowearonmyhead]

My DD is getting married in a hotel soon, and I've no idea whether to wear a fascinator or not.
I've looked on style threads and there's a mix of people saying they're dated, but then others say go for it! I've got in mind a navy dress to wear, and I was thinking of a contrasting colour head piece.
As MOB do you think I should wear one? I'd be happy to, but I don't want to look out dated and out of place, help please!

@Whattowearonmyhead if you can find a hat hire place, take your outfit there and try some on. The last time I was a 'top-table' guest I did that - lovely proprietor let me try on lots of alternatives with my dress and offered really good advice and honest feedback.

(I hated/hate fascinators and was often the only one wearing hats through the 2010s, but looking back on photos - I'm glad I stuck with what I liked and felt comfortable with, so find something you love regardless of what the accessory is called).

My hair's just a short bob, it's too short to put up and I prefer it down tbh. I'll have it curled or something though.

I like to see hats and fascinators at weddings, particularly MOB & MOG. Go for it - there are such a wide variety including bands I’m sure there would be something to suit.

Lovely style but not sure it'd look right on me

That's an idea to think of too 🙂

You look beautiful and your fascinator really suits you, this is why I'm so confused as to why people say no!

That's how I feel, being MOB I don't want to 'blend in' completely with every other guest. I'll look at the hat type ones

omg I didn’t think there was a more annoying word than fascinator….hatinator!?!

I always thought it was tradition for the main wedding party to wear something on their head.

I'll definitely look at those 🙂

They're nice berets, but I'd probably look more like Frank Spencer in one than anything else 😊

If I wear anything I'll probably go for a hatinator instead

The dress is a midi plain navy, it's a hotel wedding but photos would probably be outside too,

What an entrance! I'd love the confidence to strut my stuff like that, although I'm not shy and retiring so I would like to stand out a bit and get very glammed up.

Good idea, I think I'll do that 🙂

I quite like a fascinator, have you thought of something light and feathery in a complementary colour to your outfit - not netting.

Talking of ‘old fashioned’, the grey haired aunt of the main female character in Oklahoma!* promised to wear her fascinator if Curly, the handsome male lead, would escort her to the country dance!

*set many decades ago, probably pre 1900. I didn’t even know what a fascinator was when I first saw it!

It's an awful word but I go with "hatinators" for weddings. As easy to wear as a fascinator but infinitely more stylish (I think). I have all these.

Oh and if you can't be showy as Mother of the Bride, when can you?!

She does look gorgeous! I think because it tones with her hair, complexion and the dress - it doesn’t stand out so much.

Also just because they’re not on trend doesn’t mean nobody suits them

No. Never worn one in my life. Never worn a hat to a wedding either. Makes me think of what my aunties or Mum would wear tbh. I make a lot of effort and buy new outfit, shoes and bag or whatever just nothing perched on my head.

Nope. Big no from. A nice fancy hairclip you can get away with

@AmyDuPlantier 😆🤣😆🤣 agreed

If I saw this at a wedding I think I’d just assume that she was really drunk.

I would never wear one.