Should I wear a fascinator or not?

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My DD is getting married in a hotel soon, and I've no idea whether to wear a fascinator or not.
I've looked on style threads and there's a mix of people saying they're dated, but then others say go for it! I've got in mind a navy dress to wear, and I was thinking of a contrasting colour head piece.
As MOB do you think I should wear one? I'd be happy to, but I don't want to look out dated and out of place, help please!

What about fresh or dried flowers? The wedding florist will do toning flowers on a clip/comb/hairband

I'm clearly out of step but I think a fascinator / some kind of head wear is lovely, especially for the MOB/MOG as you are one of the most important people there.

Personally I prefer the more 'hat like' ones rather than the bunch of feathers and netting on a comb type ones. I wore one from Phase Eight last year for my brother's wedding - one of their 'disc' type ones. Hobbs also had some nice ones. I was re-wearing a dress so I thought I'd make the effort with the fascinator.

'Proper' hats feel too over-formal to me, a good fascinator is that middle ground where it's making an effort but not stuffy.

I'm sure whatever you decide will be just right for you!

I didn’t wear one for my son’s wedding. Tbh I think they just look a bit silly. Just upgrade all your other accessories.

I think you need something on your head. But not a fascinator with little feathers. @TulipTuesday ’s headpiece is lovely. A few years ago I wore a sort of braided velvet Alice band to the Goodwood Revival, (i got it in the Claire’s sale and it was £1!!! which honestly looked quite sophisticated and was very light and comfy to wear. Not suggesting you go to Claire’s but I was surprised how well it worked. If you put a pic of your outfit I’m sure posters could advise.

A naive blingy hair clip or similar, instead.

Beware the twatinator my dear,
When the moon is fat!

Some great suggestions, hair pinned into place looks lovely.

I got married in February and my God mother was the only person to wear a fascinator. She's a very traditional person and She looked lovely, no one had a problem with it. I say wear whatever you feel comfortable with.

Defo not a fascinator. If you don’t like hats, oryour hair up, I would go for awesome jewellery. Great earrings and necklace - statement pieces.

A professional blow dry might be best.

I’m MOG next year and will be wearing a hatinator - a disc on a headband rather than just random net and feathers. Perhaps look at those?

No they are always awful. Fake feather or flowers stuck on the side of someone's head... instead of buying one, get a really glam hair style :)

I'd have thought that a hat would be more appropriate but if you don't like standard hsts try something like an artists beret, very chic.

They have gorgeous ones in velvet on etsy. Very autumn.

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I wore a large "hatinator" at my son's wedding, it really looked like a hat. I loved it and had many compliments. MOB wore a hat too but no one wore a fascinator. Some guests had a pretty clip or flower in their hair.

As someone who has gone to 0 weddings ( that I remember) in my 30 odd years on earth who had to look up what a fascinator was. I like them

What is your dress like? Is any part of the wedding outside?

I wear one to about every five weddings I go to, I think they are fun and I love accessories. I like little hats and fancy headbands and fancy hair clips too.

I wore this to my son’s wedding last summer. I liked it because it complemented my outfit.

I was the only one wearing a hat at my DSis recent wedding. But I was her stand in mother of the bride. I just felt that my dress needed something to set it off. I only wore it during the service. It was a windy day so it kept my hair in place.
I love hats but hate fascinators. But if you choose to wear a hat make it a decent one. I bought a plain hat then added feathers and stuff to match my dress. My DSis loved it which is what mattered.

A hat or a headband. Fascinators are gone.

You look amazing, that colour is perfect for you 🩵

At my niece’s wedding, my sister (MOB) wore a fabulous hat and the MOG wore nothing on her head. I thought she (MOG) looked a bit plain and didn’t stand out enough as part of the wedding party, she sort of got ‘lost’ in the guests so to speak. So at my son’s wedding I wanted to have something on my head and ended up with a hatinator (a cross between a hat and fascinator - as hats don’t suit me really, and I felt silly in a fascinator haha)

Hats and fascinators are both dated an unnecessary. Have your hair done professionally and wear fabulous striking jewellery

I can't wear hats as they never fit right and annoy me as well as messing with my hair so have worn a small fascinator in my hair for all weddings and funerals this decade. I don't care if they are considered dated tbh as they suit me better and a bare head seemed wrong.

I'm never up to date on fashion and don't know what's in fashion and what isn't. I didn't know fascinators were passe before reading this thread.
Glad to hear it because I always thought they looked bloody stupid. And who on earth came up with the ridiculous name?