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Blocking school mum

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fateisdestined2025 · 13/09/2025 04:41

So my daughter has a friend who invited her to her birthday party the day before. The message her mother sent me was a bit weird but i didn’t give much thought. Something like she’s having a birthday party tomorrow would your daughter have time to attend? so I said yes as this friend had been nagging my daughter to come…she has known this girl since nursery and they’ve been going to each others houses to play 4/5 times. I also looked after the girl a few days when her dad was poorly/mum had dental appointments etc

long story short there’s another friend that was invited and they both started eating brain lickers infront of my daughter and my dd said where’s mine? Friend said ohh I didn’t know you were coming and we only bought 2. She had gone to the kitchen and got the 2 sweets whilst all 3 were there and the two of them just started eating it. This other friend was invited straight from school at 3.15 and her mother was there too whereas I was just given a time of after 4. I wanted to pick my daughter up 2 hours later and she said we haven’t cut the cake so let her stay longer we’ll drop her off (walking distance) I said okay but I’ll pick her up as I wasn’t going to be home and she said no it’s okay I’ll come so again repeated myself so she said fine come at 7.30. Then when I came to collect her she gave my child a plastic box with cake and ushered her outside and did the same with me with her hand on my back whilst I was talking. I found it really rude. She then waited until I left whilst watching me from her door and I had to wave twice for her to go. I’m not sure what happened but I’ve had this niggling feeling in my stomach to block her. She only invited my daughter in the holidays when her daughter is bored and this new friend isn’t there. I’m not sure if she felt embarassed by me hence why she ushered me away (that’s why she was adamant she would drop her off). I just don’t want to talk to her anymore or receive anymore calls about play dates etc. felt like my beautiful daughter deserves better.

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Teanandtoast · 13/09/2025 05:15

Kindly, I think you're overthinking this, the other child going earlier may have been for childcare reasons or something you don't know about. And her waving at the door to say bye is something my friends family and I would all do for each other. If you'd like your daughter to keep playing and seeing her, you could always ask about specific things that upset you about this?

Teanandtoast · 13/09/2025 05:15

Kindly, I think you're overthinking this, the other child going earlier may have been for childcare reasons or something you don't know about. And her waving at the door to say bye is something my friends family and I would all do for each other. If you'd like your daughter to keep playing and seeing her, you could always ask about specific things that upset you about this?

Athreedoorwardrobe · 13/09/2025 05:17

You sound incredible hard work. Your poor daughter. It's you who is going to ruin her social life if you carry on like this. You've made an absolute drama out of nothing.

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PossumHollow · 13/09/2025 05:22

The point of saying long story short is that you shorten the story.

You are overthinking this and creating drama and a slight from nowhere. Why would you block someone for absolutely no reason. I guess what maybe happened is that only one friend was coming then the birthday girl invited your daughter last minute so the mum went along with it to be kind.

Neemie · 13/09/2025 05:23

Blocking someone who has just had your daughter over for a party seems rather rude and mean.

You seem to feel slighted but I can’t really see why.

GreenWheat · 13/09/2025 05:28

Do you want your daughter to have friends? I mean, sure the parent sounds slightly disorganised over the birthday but that's all. You're reading far too much into it

Ooodelally · 13/09/2025 05:57

I don’t understand, what has happened?

Chilliprawnpls · 13/09/2025 06:07

I got as far as “brain lickers” and I thought…. Is the OP 9 years old?

OP, parenting is going to be a rough ride if you get worked up over this

You sound…. Tricky

Lifehaslifedme · 13/09/2025 06:07

I am a bit perplexed by your explanation.That being said,if your gut is saying something’s off then listen to it.I wouldn’t block but slowly pull away.

Chilliprawnpls · 13/09/2025 06:09

Oh

just had a ganda at the OP’s posting history.

Why am I not surprised by what I read… drama, tiffs, judgement

DysonLover1 · 13/09/2025 06:12

I know it’s early but I don’t know what you are talking about!

Chilliprawnpls · 13/09/2025 06:16

DysonLover1 · 13/09/2025 06:12

I know it’s early but I don’t know what you are talking about!

Something about brain lickers! 😆

DysonLover1 · 13/09/2025 06:19

Chilliprawnpls · 13/09/2025 06:16

Something about brain lickers! 😆

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Quick Google! Who knew??

Are brain lickers healthy?

It is typically sold in small bottles plugged with a plastic ball which revolves when licked, delivering its sour liquid content. It is about as acidic as lemon juice and excessive consumption can lead to burns, blisters or small cuts in children's mouths.

BeingATwatItsABingThing · 13/09/2025 06:23

All of this sounds like a massive fuss over nothing. Why did you want to pick her up 2 hours later? Feels a bit stingy with your time.

CoralOP · 13/09/2025 07:07

I've reread this twice trying to work out what awful things this woman did...and I can't find any!
Some people are such hard work....

ParmaVioletTea · 13/09/2025 07:22

Why are you objecting to the absolutely normal behaviour of waving someone off from the front doorstep?

Weird

MyAcornWood · 13/09/2025 07:25

Okay then. Well you could block her, yes, but it would be a massive overreaction. Why would you want to sabotage your daughter’s friendship over imaginary perceived slights?

ComfortFoodCafe · 13/09/2025 07:25

My ds had a party at ours a few years ago, all the parents I waved off from
the doorstep as my house wasnt big enough yo have all the parents + their kids in too. Why are you getting offended? Your daughter will end up with no friends if you behave like this over normal mundane things!

MouseCheese87 · 13/09/2025 07:28

Blocking her won't add anything positive to your life. It's not like she's bombarding you with messages that you need to put a stop to. It'll just mean that your daughter won't be invited to her playdates. It's wrong for you to dictate your daughter's friendships based on an imaginary grievance with the mum.

DoYouWantTheHouseTour · 13/09/2025 07:31

Jeeeez

whyschoolwhy · 13/09/2025 07:34

Party politics aside, are you saying the mum seemed to go out of her way to avoid you going to/inside her house?

Ironfloor269 · 13/09/2025 07:35

I cant get the feeling of someone licking my brain now…like, imagining a tongue reaching out into my brain and licking it…uuuurrrrggghhh…

Whataninterestinglookingpotato · 13/09/2025 07:46

Sounds like your daughter was invited last minute as her friend probably wanted her there.

maybe other mum and you aren’t comparable as friends and she doesn’t want to hang around and make small talk after the party. A little upsetting if you feel different but not a reason to block someone.

Crunchymum · 13/09/2025 07:46

Sounds like your DD is a bit of an afterthought (being invited just the day before the party / only being invited when the other friend isn't about) but she will only know that if you tell her?

The rest of it is a bit odd. She obviously knows the other mum well and has a relationship with her, it's no personal slight on you @fateisdestined2025 ?

At 7.30pm I'd be ushering people from the doorstep too and not inviting them in.

It doesn't seem like you need to block but of course be mindful it's more a relationship of convenience for the other mum so don't go out of your way to facilitate. If it suits your DD to go round at the last minute then cool, if not then take a rain check.

Wildgoat · 13/09/2025 07:55

Is there a back story op, maybe in terms of your mental health , anxiety, paranoia ,maybe you’re under a lot of stress, or struggle with social interaction etc?

the mother has done nothing wrong, and kids eating sweets so what, yes would have been better if they all had something but kids don’t often have etiquette.

please don’t block,it’s not fair on your child for her to be impacted by you, and maybe seek some help in some way if you’re struggling right now?