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Blocking school mum

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fateisdestined2025 · 13/09/2025 04:41

So my daughter has a friend who invited her to her birthday party the day before. The message her mother sent me was a bit weird but i didn’t give much thought. Something like she’s having a birthday party tomorrow would your daughter have time to attend? so I said yes as this friend had been nagging my daughter to come…she has known this girl since nursery and they’ve been going to each others houses to play 4/5 times. I also looked after the girl a few days when her dad was poorly/mum had dental appointments etc

long story short there’s another friend that was invited and they both started eating brain lickers infront of my daughter and my dd said where’s mine? Friend said ohh I didn’t know you were coming and we only bought 2. She had gone to the kitchen and got the 2 sweets whilst all 3 were there and the two of them just started eating it. This other friend was invited straight from school at 3.15 and her mother was there too whereas I was just given a time of after 4. I wanted to pick my daughter up 2 hours later and she said we haven’t cut the cake so let her stay longer we’ll drop her off (walking distance) I said okay but I’ll pick her up as I wasn’t going to be home and she said no it’s okay I’ll come so again repeated myself so she said fine come at 7.30. Then when I came to collect her she gave my child a plastic box with cake and ushered her outside and did the same with me with her hand on my back whilst I was talking. I found it really rude. She then waited until I left whilst watching me from her door and I had to wave twice for her to go. I’m not sure what happened but I’ve had this niggling feeling in my stomach to block her. She only invited my daughter in the holidays when her daughter is bored and this new friend isn’t there. I’m not sure if she felt embarassed by me hence why she ushered me away (that’s why she was adamant she would drop her off). I just don’t want to talk to her anymore or receive anymore calls about play dates etc. felt like my beautiful daughter deserves better.

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fateisdestined2025 · 13/09/2025 10:15

@MissScarletInTheBallroom😂 I’ll try to be more calmer next time

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fateisdestined2025 · 13/09/2025 10:16

@JustineRobotsyours must be leather😀

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fateisdestined2025 · 13/09/2025 10:21

@GagMeWithASpoonthe child ( infront of her mother) asked me if my daughter could come 3 days earlier and i said well see. She asked my daughter again so i told her your friend needs to give you either a written invitation from her mother or a text. Text followed the day before.

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Chilliprawnpls · 13/09/2025 10:32

Omg some of you really have got your knickers in a twist. It’s hilarious

Says the Op 🤭

MouseCheese87 · 13/09/2025 10:49

You're rude calling people keyboard warriors because they disagreed with you. I didn't see anyone being unnecessarily harsh to you in their advice that you asked for. Grow up.

GagMeWithASpoon · 13/09/2025 10:58

fateisdestined2025 · 13/09/2025 10:21

@GagMeWithASpoonthe child ( infront of her mother) asked me if my daughter could come 3 days earlier and i said well see. She asked my daughter again so i told her your friend needs to give you either a written invitation from her mother or a text. Text followed the day before.

None of that is unusual. However , if your daughter didn’t want to go you should’ve just said no. More importantly, if YOU didn’t want your daughter to go because you have concerns about the environment she’d be in, you should’ve shut it down the first time it was mentioned. “Aww , thank you for the invite , but sorry, we’re busy.” . The mum being odd is not necessarily an issue . The child having access to x rated images (and whatever behaviours followed) to the point she was suspended, IS.

BeltaLodaLife · 13/09/2025 12:16

fateisdestined2025 · 13/09/2025 09:34

Omg some of you really have got your knickers in a twist. It’s hilarious. I haven’t blocked her. But I do want less contact with her. Thank you for those that understood me. Thank God I have thick skin with these keyboard warriors. I’ve slept on it and have realised I need to be more assertive instead of passive. I wrote this post early morning as it clearly bothered me.

i never barge into someone’s house. I was outside the doorstep and she physically pushed me and my daughter outside the gate. Lack of manners. God knows what bothered her.

i was bothered as they have been friends since nursery. Always exchanging presents throughout the year. But this year we’ve been feeling used. Also I wouldn’t invite 3 kids to a birthday party and have one of them feeling left out. That is really unkind.

I don’t really want to talk to her for many other reasons not just her rudeness. Our children have grown apart and my child says she feels like a 3rd wheel. She has other friends. I’m a bit fed up of getting random calls in the holidays say 8.30pm to go to the park etc when it’s my child’s bedtime. Also there’s no supervision at home…child got in trouble at school for accessing x rated photos and got suspended.

i will be making up all the excuses in the world to avoid any future play dates

Primary aged children are not suspended for accessing things like that; they get help and interventions. By all means, talk about what you don’t like but no need to make stuff up to try and make us all think this family are a problem.

Even with all the stuff in this, you just sound hard work and she just sounds like a busy, slightly harassed mum.

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fateisdestined2025 · 13/09/2025 14:10

Thanks for the help everyone 😀 x

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Calliopespa · 13/09/2025 14:41

Don't send her again OP if she isn't liking her time there and feels third wheel. I do agree three is a bad dynamic.

I think you are over-thinking the rest of it. I think it just wasn't convenient for her at that time to have you come. We know her DD pushed to have your DD added at the last minute, we know she said she'd drop her back and we know you said no it needs to be me coming to yours. It all suggests to me she was just feeling quite disorganised/had a lot on and wasn't ready to host another adult, and probably felt she's already been pushed into quite a lot at this point.

I'm honestly not sure what to make of the online content thing. If you believed that allegation, why did you send DD at all?

But don't block her. I'm not sure you do need to be more assertive as you suggest. You said you needed an invitation beyond verbal, which you got. You insisted on collecting your DD, which you did. How could you have been more assertive in any of this?

Chilliprawnpls · 13/09/2025 18:16

This op will have shit relationships and drama with so many people I suspect

and I reckon NC ( 🤢) with various family members and friends

and her daughter will no doubt emulate, which is depressing

Chilliprawnpls · 13/09/2025 18:18

Thank God I have thick skin

oh the beautiful irony

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