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Blocking school mum

61 replies

fateisdestined2025 · 13/09/2025 04:41

So my daughter has a friend who invited her to her birthday party the day before. The message her mother sent me was a bit weird but i didn’t give much thought. Something like she’s having a birthday party tomorrow would your daughter have time to attend? so I said yes as this friend had been nagging my daughter to come…she has known this girl since nursery and they’ve been going to each others houses to play 4/5 times. I also looked after the girl a few days when her dad was poorly/mum had dental appointments etc

long story short there’s another friend that was invited and they both started eating brain lickers infront of my daughter and my dd said where’s mine? Friend said ohh I didn’t know you were coming and we only bought 2. She had gone to the kitchen and got the 2 sweets whilst all 3 were there and the two of them just started eating it. This other friend was invited straight from school at 3.15 and her mother was there too whereas I was just given a time of after 4. I wanted to pick my daughter up 2 hours later and she said we haven’t cut the cake so let her stay longer we’ll drop her off (walking distance) I said okay but I’ll pick her up as I wasn’t going to be home and she said no it’s okay I’ll come so again repeated myself so she said fine come at 7.30. Then when I came to collect her she gave my child a plastic box with cake and ushered her outside and did the same with me with her hand on my back whilst I was talking. I found it really rude. She then waited until I left whilst watching me from her door and I had to wave twice for her to go. I’m not sure what happened but I’ve had this niggling feeling in my stomach to block her. She only invited my daughter in the holidays when her daughter is bored and this new friend isn’t there. I’m not sure if she felt embarassed by me hence why she ushered me away (that’s why she was adamant she would drop her off). I just don’t want to talk to her anymore or receive anymore calls about play dates etc. felt like my beautiful daughter deserves better.

OP posts:
MissScarletInTheBallroom · 13/09/2025 07:56

Kindly, OP, get a grip.

Text the mother to say thank you for the party invitation.

If your daughters want to be friends then facilitate that and keep your feelings about the other mum to yourself.

Navigating friendships at school is hard enough without your mum complicating matters.

Topseyt123 · 13/09/2025 08:00

Blimey, what a fuss over absolutely nothing. You didn't cut a long story short either.

You are creating a drama and you are being hard work.

Beatmeonthebottomwiththewomansweekly · 13/09/2025 08:02

There’s no reason at all to block this woman. Her interactions might be a little unusual, but why would you block someone for that and jeopardise your daughters friendships and cause drama?

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Maddy70 · 13/09/2025 08:04

What have I just read? Honestly op you sound incredibly intense.

Shutupkeith · 13/09/2025 08:09

How utterly bizarre.

Silvertulips · 13/09/2025 08:10

I think you have a gut feeling about this mother - gut feelings are usually right.

Ill give you an example - DS invited to party and they played 18+ video games - they were 10 - nope

DD invited to a play date - I took the others to a fate - DDs friend was called upon to go to the park and my DD was left at the house on her own (with the mother so no one to play with) She could’ve called me I would have picked her up - rude

There are others

No need to block - just turn down invites she’ll get the message without falling out.

Jist text - oh sorry another time - oh we have a club , we are going to grandmas - whatever

ICanSpellConfusionWithaK · 13/09/2025 08:11

Eh?! Your child got invited for a party, the mum didn’t want you to stay and chat and now you want to block her and your daughter deserves better?

sorry OP but this is a bit OTT.

CremeBruhlee · 13/09/2025 08:18

She won’t have got a party bag for your daughter that’s all if she wasn’t going to come.
her child must have begged for your daughter to come but the mum hadn’t planned for it.
Dont give it any more thought. Parents are busy these days.

Don’t block her as childhood is a long bumpy road and I often say to my daughter if there are issues we may have a bit more distance but never cut anyone off. Sure enough a few years later that friend is best mates in another class or hobby. Don’t burn your bridges!

Hiptothisjive · 13/09/2025 08:20

OP what are you on about? Seriously.

You are blocking a woman for the biggest none issue ever. Nothing remotely bad happened.

To say you are massively overthinking this is an understatement. God help your DD when a boyfriend breaks up with her, or she has a fight with a friend or isn’t invited somewhere.

Butt out hard.

Chilliprawnpls · 13/09/2025 08:22

Go ahead OP, do this woman a favour and block her. I suspect she will breathe an almighty sigh of relief. Although, she may not even notice as she likely has no intention of instigating contact with you anyway

skippy67 · 13/09/2025 08:23

Ooodelally · 13/09/2025 05:57

I don’t understand, what has happened?

Yeah, I'd like to know too!

materialgworl · 13/09/2025 08:27

Would she notice if you block her? 🫣

TulipsTwoLips · 13/09/2025 08:34

Easier said than done but I’d try not to give it any more thought. You’ll never know the mum’s intentions but don’t react heavy handedly and block, you need to get a better grip on your emotions and coping with possible rejection.

I think posters saying you are being hard work are unfair. You are certainly overthinking every transaction but it’s good not to let yourself be walked all over either. Focus on you and your life not them and theirs. Either allow a few more play dates and see if you’re still unhappy with how your daughter is being treated, or have some polite but firm no’s ready incase they ask again.

JustineRobots · 13/09/2025 08:47

What a bloody drama queen. Are you trying to convince your daughter that she absolutely must be the centre of attention at all times - even at someone else’s party?

BeltaLodaLife · 13/09/2025 08:55

Read it twice and still don’t understand what she’s done? Why are you wanting to block her?

The sweetie thing was rude, the last minute invite was weird but it didn’t sound like much of a birthday party. Sounds like they invited one friend over and maybe their daughter was asking for more and mum gave in last minute and let her have one more friend? They shouldn’t have eaten the sweets but I don’t think that’s a bad enough thing to block this school mum and make such a drama over it.

If your kid and this girl are friends and want to play together then let them. If your daughter doesn’t then politely turn down the play dates.

holjam · 13/09/2025 08:55

I don’t see what the reason for blocking this woman is? I don’t understand what she’s supposed to have done wrong.

LaundryGarden · 13/09/2025 09:02

The other mother was disorganised about a birthday ‘party”, and you’re throwing a strop because her daughter didn’t give yours a sweet, and because she walked you to the door? Or because she gave your daughter a ‘plastic box” of cake?

intherough · 13/09/2025 09:06

You are a walking red flag of a person - your poor daughter and what she is learning from you. You seem to have a pattern.

Calliopespa · 13/09/2025 09:20

Blocking over this would be incredibly childish.

It was a last-minute invitation; it was even worded that way.

Her house was feeling a bit messy, hence her resistance to you collecting but when you insisted, she made sure you didn't barge in anyway by being firm at the door.

It is all consistent with a busy mum getting pushed into taking on an extra child at the party when she had a lot to juggle.

Be a bit understanding.

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fateisdestined2025 · 13/09/2025 09:34

Omg some of you really have got your knickers in a twist. It’s hilarious. I haven’t blocked her. But I do want less contact with her. Thank you for those that understood me. Thank God I have thick skin with these keyboard warriors. I’ve slept on it and have realised I need to be more assertive instead of passive. I wrote this post early morning as it clearly bothered me.

i never barge into someone’s house. I was outside the doorstep and she physically pushed me and my daughter outside the gate. Lack of manners. God knows what bothered her.

i was bothered as they have been friends since nursery. Always exchanging presents throughout the year. But this year we’ve been feeling used. Also I wouldn’t invite 3 kids to a birthday party and have one of them feeling left out. That is really unkind.

I don’t really want to talk to her for many other reasons not just her rudeness. Our children have grown apart and my child says she feels like a 3rd wheel. She has other friends. I’m a bit fed up of getting random calls in the holidays say 8.30pm to go to the park etc when it’s my child’s bedtime. Also there’s no supervision at home…child got in trouble at school for accessing x rated photos and got suspended.

i will be making up all the excuses in the world to avoid any future play dates

OP posts:
vincettenoir · 13/09/2025 09:40

Please try to prevent your emotional baggage impacting your daughter’s life so much.

JustineRobots · 13/09/2025 09:41

Thank God I have thick skin with these keyboard warriors.

Yeah - a thick skin is the thing that really stood out from your posts…

LaundryGarden · 13/09/2025 09:51

You really need to separate your child’s social life from your own weird mentality.

And if your child no longer wants to see her child, then surely the whole thing is moot, anyway? But if she doesn’t, why accept the party invitation?

GagMeWithASpoon · 13/09/2025 10:08

It’s an invitation not a summons. You can say no, your kid has other friends, you don’t want to go or it’s inconvenient etc. So what’s the fucking point?

Also , it’s weird that you’re ready to cut contact over an awkward event, rather than the more serious incident of the x rated images. Priorities…

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 13/09/2025 10:10

fateisdestined2025 · 13/09/2025 09:34

Omg some of you really have got your knickers in a twist. It’s hilarious. I haven’t blocked her. But I do want less contact with her. Thank you for those that understood me. Thank God I have thick skin with these keyboard warriors. I’ve slept on it and have realised I need to be more assertive instead of passive. I wrote this post early morning as it clearly bothered me.

i never barge into someone’s house. I was outside the doorstep and she physically pushed me and my daughter outside the gate. Lack of manners. God knows what bothered her.

i was bothered as they have been friends since nursery. Always exchanging presents throughout the year. But this year we’ve been feeling used. Also I wouldn’t invite 3 kids to a birthday party and have one of them feeling left out. That is really unkind.

I don’t really want to talk to her for many other reasons not just her rudeness. Our children have grown apart and my child says she feels like a 3rd wheel. She has other friends. I’m a bit fed up of getting random calls in the holidays say 8.30pm to go to the park etc when it’s my child’s bedtime. Also there’s no supervision at home…child got in trouble at school for accessing x rated photos and got suspended.

i will be making up all the excuses in the world to avoid any future play dates

That's not a drip feed, that's turning all the taps on full blast.