Getting irritated by people as getting older. Anyone else?

[straighttalker99]

I think this is possibly is a 'me' thing, but the older I get, the more completely and utterly irritated I find myself getting with people. (I'm 40 for context). Does anyone feel this way?

Example : I went away with a work friend last minute this week for a work event (only met her the once and had a lovely time at a recreational event we planned together) and we got on really well. We message each other a fair amount in between work too so felt I knew her well etc (but in hindsight probably don't). Anyways, spent the past few days away with her in a shared apartment and it's been really tough. She was so loud, made random noises such as burping, and weird hiccup sounds in public which I would be mortified with, counted every single penny she used and asked for every penny of costs we shared. It felt very transactional. She interrupted me multiple times mid-flow conversation and basically took over extra spaces in the apartment and made them hers. She was up late most nights and I had difficulty sleeping because she was banging about.

I am also going through a really difficult personal problem at the moment so may be a bit oversensitive and have spent most of the last few days in tears as I push through work. In the end I just left and got the train now. I'm back in the peace of my own home and my God, it is bliss!!!

Does anyone feel that you may just be done with people? I didn't realise having my own space and being on my own could feel so amazing.

I had a young lady who was needing to ring the bank to get approval for her purchases. She very "politely" warned me I might do better to join another queue as it could take some time.

Totally agree about vapidness. Reading , analysis and intelligent conversation seem to be virtually unheard of . Instead it’s psychobabble and labels, PC catchphrases etc. repeating what they’ve heard on the internet instead of engaging their critical faculties which seem to be more or less non existent. Rant over.

I'm usually very sociable and social (and have been told that) but this year I've felt I can't be bothered, my little family is more than enough.

Might be perimenopause - I am at that age, so I know how you feel OP. Could be a good thing.

Exactly. I applaud your rant.

Couldn’t agree with you more. I switch off immediately when I hear people under the age of 30 whose every other word is either like…. or fuckin’. I don’t understand how they get through job interviews.

Rant over…..

Yes. I’m 48 & I’ve become very aware of it. I feel very intolerant sometimes! I do think I’ve always had this side to me though.

You know that scene that is on reels of Melissa mccarthy saying “oh fuck off Jill everyone hates you” well I say that a lot in my head substituting the name Jill…

Oh yes. Just had this exact conversation with a mum at school pick up this afternoon. Every thing irritates, every part of my body is beginning to fail and I’ve started to do what my mum did and mutter whinges & complaints under my breath as I’m walking around the house! 😱

Oh yeah we all feel you

To add to my pp, I always want to slap anyone who uses the ridiculous expression ‘early doors’.

@ginasevern@FunkyMonks@BadbadbunnyI also think lots of people just become grumpy and lose the capacity for tolerance and then blame the other people.

its not always that people are presenting a facade and you have become wiser. It’s often that as people get older, they just become miserable.

the odd clearing of the throat, coughing, chewing, ffs BREATHING is normal human behaviour. But older people start getting all righteous and say they have no more interest in tolerating this behaviour.

a lack of tolerance IS rude behaviour in itself unless we are talking about unreasonable behaviour but most of the time people are saying they will no longer tolerate ….. and then just list a whole lot of normal human behaviour. Someone on here is saying they can no longer bear people being friendly on emails. Another saying someone saying ‘not a problem’ enraged her, another saying a mother being animated with her child annoys her.

people need to realise THEY are the ones with the problem.

Hope you feel better for that
@bumbaloo
Nothing like a diatribe against older people for boosting self esteem.

I'm 68 not 98! The same age as Madonna for fuck sake. I haven't got to the stage where I can't stand people clearing their throats or breathing! I didn't even mention anything remotely like your (insanely over the top) examples. Considering you don't know anything about me or my life you've taken one hell of a leap to suggest that I behave unreasonably or that I'm rude and unkind. Presumably you've conflated other posters comments with mine. Either way, I only hope it makes you feel good to get all that ageist and nasty stuff out of your system.

I said as people get older. Not ‘old people’ in fact YOU are the one being ageist as YOU are the one saying 98 year olds are problematic by making the point you are not yet 98. 😶
i am not the one being nasty either😂READ YOUR POST BACK 😂😂😂

I said ‘as people get older’ not ‘old people’. The venom in your reply suggests I REALLY hit a nerve

And the ‘over the top insane examples’ aren’t from my head. They are from posters on this post

This was a bit of an extreme as your were sharing a room which is always tough, there are very few people I would do this with.

You said you are going through a lot so your tolerance will naturally be lower than normal.

I’ve got more time and patience for some people but less so for others, so it just depends.

I haven't read the whole thread. Has someone said they get annoyed at people clearing their throats or breathing?

The majority of people fuck me off now. Can’t be arsed, so generally give them a miss.

Yep. With me it’s a combination of ND (sensory rage), menopause and my tolerance for bullshit getting lower as I get older. I’m pretty much in a rage all of the time these days, and most of it is to do with how shit the modern world is and how stupid people are, so I dread to think what I’ll be like in a couple of decades when I’m even older and grumpier and the world has gone even more batshit crazy!

Fuck YES! The constant inane wittering of much younger work colleagues makes me want to boil their heads in oil. Luckily, I only have to be in the office for one day a week.

It’s like absolutely EVERY SINGLE THOUGHT that enters their heads has to be vocalised.

I’m increasingly pissed off by screaming (even loudly laughing) children too. Especially in restaurants and cafes. I don’t want to share space with children - which is why I never had them. Why can’t they just fuck off? Why are there no cafes and restaurants and pubs specifically for adults?

And fucking dogs - everywhere. Badly-behaved dogs in shops, cafes, restaurants, pubs etc etc. I actually do like some dogs but I don’t want to watch one licking its balls whilst trying to enjoy my coffee and croissant, post-gym.

People using sound on their phones through the speaker. They need putting to death, imho. No trial, no clemency. Just lop the fuckers heads off! Gaaaaah. People. I hate them.

Such a relief to read these posts! I often feel like I hate everybody! People in supermarkets getting in my way, people walking on pavements three abreast, servers saying ‘no problem’ when I’ve ordered something - why should there possibly be a problem? There are dozens more.
These days I am only interested in my nearest and dearest - DH plus my DC plus grandchildren. Everyone else can just fuck off, including DH’s pain in the arse family 🤣🤣🤣

Omg the breathing!! I hate it! Why do they have to do it?? 🤣🤣🤣

Hell is other people.

I've now at the ripe age of 68 made sure that the people I am around are the ones that are like minded, genuine and good in a crisis, and NOT self centred. Just like me ha ha.

It's a nasty habit for sure!