If you are tall...

[IndependentAdjudicator]

do you mind being asked to get an item off a shelf for someone less vertically advantaged?

Just come back from aldi and a woman visibly tutted when her OH was asked by another lady if he would mind getting a bottle of OJ from the back of the top chiller shelf (all the bottles at the front were taken).
I was by the yoghurts and was paying attention because the juice cabinet was my next stop.
The OH didn't seem to mind at all though, and I've always been happy to get an item for anybody if asked.

I am 6'2 and have been asked this many times. One particular noteworthy occasion, in a supermarket, involved a very small elderly lady who politely asked if I could pass something down. I happily obliged, and after passing the item down, she looked up at me very seriously and said "would you like me to pass anything up from down here?" Before breaking out into a broad grin.

A charming moment, that has stayed with me for years.

I'm 6'2, I don't mind at all!

Ladies in shops occasionally ask my tall Dutch dh when I’m with him and I don’t mind a bit. I usually throw in a friendly comment about his nationality!

I've done it many times. Or from chest freezers! Its a 10s favour.

It might have been because she asked her husband and her husband is a flirt/ misinterpretats the attention.

Or she misinterpreted the request as flirty on the part of the asker. Or indeed the asker could have reached it herself and asked unnecessarily.

Or it was the third time in five minutes someone asked.

Or she was in the middle of a conversation with her husband and there were plenty of tall women the asker could have asked instead of interrupting.

Anyway your question is about a different situation than the one you observed. You're asking whether tall people mind being asked, when what you saw was one half of a couple being irritated that their partner was asked.

Different situation, totally different (reasonable and unreasonable) potential reasons for the reaction.

Edited for spelling.

6'2". I often just hand the item to someone if I can see someone struggling to reach it. Never minded if someone asked either.

Not at all. Neither do I mind asking somebody taller than me for help if I can't reach.

Perhaps she thought the other woman was flirting with him 😂

I help people as well, I'm 5'7. I've had other's help me as well when it's just out of reach. It's nice to be nice 😊

I don't mind at all. I can't see why anyone would mind.

In my mind surely this is just common courtesy/ been a good citizen

No I don’t mind helping someone do this at all and have helped several times.

I'm really quite small and even I have been asked to help people who are either shorter than me and once by a child shopping with her grandmother who was in a wheelchair.
I don't understand why anyone would get uppity about such a small favour 🙄...unless her h is helpful to everyone but her, although she shouldn't make the other person feel crap for asking!

Not offended at all x

I'm not tall but hubby is 6ft5. He's always being asked if he can reach the top shelf. Customers even ask him to change their light bulbs (because he doesn't need a ladder) when he is working in their houses. It doesn't bother him.

I'm not tall (don't know why I opened the thread tbh 😂) but my DH and DD1 are and they're always happy to get things off shelves for shorter people ie me and DD2 and other people in supermarkets.

I'm also always happy to get things off shelves for people even smaller than I.

Don't mind at all

I don't mind being asked at all. Although I did regret offering to help someone get wine off the top shelf cos there was none near the front. But they wanted 4 and it was a real struggle to reach 🤣

Juat asked DH who is well over 6ft and he has no problem with getting stuff from the high shelves. What a strange thing to be irritated by.

It doesn’t bother me at all. I’m not even very tall (barely 5’9) but I do get asked relatively often.

I bet she just didn't want another woman talking to her husband. I sometimes ask taller people to reach things for me, no one has ever minded.

I am tall and really don’t mind. In fact I quite like being able to help 😊

I don't mind at all. In fact, when I'm at work people just ask if they can borrow my legs to reach a high shelf lol. I'm not even that tall really, 5'9"

I'm 6ft so have been asked and don't mind being asked, but I have severe RA, pretty much everywhere, so I can't actually reach very high, despite being tall 🙈

I don’t mind at all if people ask me, or if they ask my even taller DH.

Like a previous poster, if I happen to notice that all the items on a top shelf are towards the back, I’ll move them forward for the next customer. If you can easily help someone, why wouldn’t you?!

Perhaps in the situation you’re describing, the woman thought someone was flirting with her partner?

I'm tall and often get asked, I've never once minded.
I'm also an introvert with social anxiety but it still never bothers me.