If a child was dropped at yours, would you (you have to pick one)

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Child is dropped at yours to play with your children. Child has nits, but parent doesn’t tell you beforehand. Parent casually mentions it at pick-up. When you say she should have let you know, she says she didn’t think it was a big deal, some children won’t even know they have nits yet and besides, schools allow children to go with nits and there’ll probably be someone in their classes with nits anyway. What would you think?

a) WTF?

b) Good point.

c) Both.

d) Something else.

A and D. The D being I'd have to stop myself from shoving a nit-comb up her nose - how dare she?!

Speaking of which, a fine comb and plenty of hair-conditioner might catch them if you can do it quickly enough.

A. Then I would treat him with nit treatment!

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Not sure I'd respond to her. Maybe something along the lines of "I really don't see it that way." but probably not. I'd just discourage the friendship, wouldn't invite the kid round again or let mine go to their house.

A. Same thing with tummy bugs in the last 48 hours. So so rude

A and I'd be sending her the bill for my replacement hair extensions.

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Absolutely unacceptable behaviour. Selfish woman!

Trip to the seaside
I have a friend who I have known since childhood. I met her last week and casually mentioned that I visit the South Coast once in a while.

The following week.she rings me up and tells me that I told her I was going back there again that week and she would like to come along as well, despite the fact that I had not made any promises or pledges to go back any time soon. I am unsure whether or not she had misunderstood or was gaslighting me.

It was a nice day and I could have been persuaded to go but she made no mention of petrol money or who would drive. As she drinks and I dont it's clear that she expected me to do the driving

Was I unreasonable to refuse the request to go, which could have ended up being a fun day out to the seaside?

This. Even if it means they are late for school. If you see one you treat it immediately.

I dont get this at all. When my daughter was younger we were just doing her hair before school and I noticed nits. Immediately went and got lotion, treated her, combed and combed and got her to school a few hours later. I wouldnt want my child itching, or spreading them all day!

I bet if mum got them herself, or caught crabs she'd treat it Immediately.

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But also D with D being this person is now my enemy for life. This is not a reasonable thing to do!!

You need to start your own thread, this one is about nits!

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that would sadly be the end of play dates. You can’t trust that parent.

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Aside from it being borderline neglectful IMO to be happy for your child to wandering around, untreated, with live bugs in their hair 🤢, it’s bloody rude to knowingly spread them in someone else’s home! That, and I had to go out a couple of weeks ago and spend £25 on nit treatment, it isn’t a cheap do when you do catch them!!

a- WTAF

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A 100%

We've had friends do this to us twice (second time I KY because DH is naive and thought I was being paranoid/stuck up). They won't get the chance again, hell no.

A. She’s taking the P.

We have a nitty gritty comb (which I swear by) and it strips the hair so no eggs are left. It’s like scissors down a ribbon on my hair. People would comment “oh your hair is naturally curly!” And I’d smile and agree rather than admit it was because I was combing my hair with the nit comb sooo much I’d made it curly

I would have asked them what the hell they were thinking!

Years ago I babysat my friends daughter and wasn’t told she had them until a few days later. I of course caught them and unfortunately I have a severe allergic reaction to them and I also ended up needing antibiotics for a scalp infection. I was fuming.

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Well I’m going C.

Initial reaction- WTF

Then when it’s pointed out they’ve already been in school together all day, and are every day, I think - fair point.

That’s not to say that nits are okay, only that I can see why she might not have thought to mention it specially.